Thanks for the welcome.
SarahJen, welcome. And I'm sorry for your loss as well.
PiePie, I'd be completely put off with your friend too. How could someone not want a pg bridesmaid? It's as if a bridesmaid was some kind object to show off, instead of a friend who's there to help you.
Well, for my mom, the scare tactics were a little different. She's very
religious (which I guess is obvious: 12 kids
).....so it really was more like - premarital sex= mortal sin and all that.
She was definitely a virgin when she got married, and was pg w/in a month...and the first 7 kids are all about 14 months apart, so I don't think she ever had any problems getting pg. After the 7th, I think maybe she figured out that it's better to BF for a little longer, so they were 2 years apart from then on.
Anyway, I really never had any sex talks with my mom, b/c by the time I was getting married (or by the time I started having sex, really), I was long gone from her house. I did hear her say about my brother and his wife (who had their first child 7 years after they were married) that she was almost heartbroken (over the possibility over them not having kids, I guess)....so I'm wondering now if she's almost heartbroken over us. She's not asking though, which is good.
We haven't really told anyone we're ttc. Well, that was the plan at least. I have kind of hinted
to two friends that we are. For one, it was b/c we were on a roadtrip for the weekend, and everyone was asking why I wasn't drinking (
). She really just came out and asked if we were. Actually, everyone assumes that you're already pg and just 'not telling yet'. That is getting to be annoying.
But we generally aren't planning to tell anyone until the 2nd trimester. We'll see. If it takes a while to conceive, I can see myself telling people, for support.
I was hoping, originally, to be far enough along to be able to tell our families at Thanksgiving or Christmas. Now, that's probably not going to happen. But I think it'll be hard either way. If I do get pg before then, it'll be hard not to tell, and if we don't, I'll be very emotional.
So right now, I'm going through a slightly delayed ovulation (cd19, no O yet), so I'm already worried since Thanksgiving is in two weeks. Either I'll just be finding out around then (which would be nice of course, but hard not to tell people) or I'll have AF, which will put me in a really bad mood.
eta: ATD_mom, thanks for all the info on the diva cup!