Laurel ~ Thanks! I do have a naturopath that I see occasionally (she is not able to accept insurance in Rhode Island
so I have to pay out of pocket and DH is out of work right now, so that's not really an option). Thanks for the book suggestion. I will check it out!
rubelin ~ Great suggestion! Thanks!
So this is what I've come up with so far. No questions yet, but I thought I'd jot down some things to help the midwife get a sense of who I am and what kind of relationship I'm hoping to have with her. Kind of use this as a conversation starter. (I'm thinking she's either going to look at my lists and say YES, YES, YES...you've found the right place
or Oh my...I don't think you'd fit in here.
I think you might want to talk to _____.)
What I’ve read (or am currently reading)
Taking Charge of Your Fertility
Birthing From Within
Wise Woman Herbal for the Childbearing Year
Ina Mae’s Guide to Childbirth
What I’m interested in
Yoga (I teach vinyasa and prenatal yoga)
Energetic Healing/Chakra/Aura work
What scares me about pregnancy?
Being forced to have tests I don’t want
Being told about all the things that can go wrong during pregnancy, labor and birth
Being rushed in office visits
Not feeling comfortable enough to ask questions
Feeling like I’m being a “difficult” patient because I ask a lot of questions
What I’d like to experience during pregnancy?
Spiritual growth/deeper introspection
Celebration of carrying life (Blessingway, belly casting, pregnancy photography or other rituals)
Support for natural childbirth
A midwife who I am comfortable talking to
Not feeling rushed during office visits
Support for a vegetarian diet
Information about using medicinal herbs
What scares me about birth?
Having pain medications pushed on me when I am most vulnerable (I attended my nephew’s birth and witnessed this)
Feeling out of control like I’m a passive participant in my birth
Being undermined by medical professionals
Monitors and machines that go “ping”
Being told when to push and having people yell 1-2-3-4-5
Being told not to push because the doctor/midwife/nurse isn’t ready (Saw this happen to my sister-in-law)
What I’d like to experience during labor and birth?
Homebirth (or the most home-like environment I can have)
Freedom to move into any position I want
Freedom to go outside if I need fresh air
Freedom to eat whatever/whenever I want
Time and space alone (or with just my husband)
Music, Incense, Massage
Support for breastfeeding, skin-to-skin contact, no mother-child separation (maybe family bed)
Delayed cord clamping
No immediate vaccinations
No Vitamin K/ no eyedrops/ointment
Definitely no circumcision
This was fun and I think it should give any of the midwives I talk to a pretty good idea of what I'm looking for, don't ya think?!