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MamasBoys's Avatar MamasBoys 05:26 PM 06-08-2007
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So I have a question about the Shettles book. I read one a while back that seems to talk alot about what everyone was saying....then I read in the back under breastfeeding. It clearly stated that the methons in the book will not work while breastfeeding. Any thoughts? I am still nursing. I go back and forth between wanting a girl or another boy.
I can only imagine that this pertains to breastfeeding before AF comes back on a regular basis. I'm breastfeeding my toddler, but with regular cycles so I doubt this will affect anything.

Gendenwitha's Avatar Gendenwitha 08:23 PM 06-08-2007
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I noticed your kids ages....... we have a bit in common in that area!! My boys are 11, 10, and then we waited forever to have our little guy which is 14 months My first 2 are 13 months apart..... how about yours???
That's funny, I was just going to make the same comment to you. We planned ours that way because when we got married dh wanted SIX kids, close together, I wanted ONE, MAYBE TWO if spaced far apart. So our compromise was 2 close together, talk to me again in 10 years. And now I've agreed to four. (My first two wound up 18 mos apart, w/ no bc only bf.)
Faithful Mommy's Avatar Faithful Mommy 09:40 PM 06-08-2007
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That's funny, I was just going to make the same comment to you. We planned ours that way because when we got married dh wanted SIX kids, close together, I wanted ONE, MAYBE TWO if spaced far apart. So our compromise was 2 close together, talk to me again in 10 years. And now I've agreed to four. (My first two wound up 18 mos apart, w/ no bc only bf.)
Too cute! I would like 4 as well, although we have never really put a number on how many kids we would have??? I'm hoping next one is a girl which is why I plan to chart and stuff. It's cool though because even if we have more than 4..... the first 2 are so much older that it won't feel like so much! I think???
Faithful Mommy's Avatar Faithful Mommy 09:45 PM 06-08-2007
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Holy cow, you started YOUNG! I did too, but not *that* young! I had my first when I was 19 and my second came along 18 months later. The first two were unplanned pregnancies and I totally wasn't ready for them. We waited six years until we really were ready to have kids. My youngest is 18 months now. It's weird because it almost feels like we have two sets of kids. The last two are the ones that were lucky enough to get us when we knew what we were doing!
I know exactly what you mean! I was 16 when I had my first and then 13 months later came "oops" #2...... , just kidding! They are loved just the same as #3. One thing I've noticed is that people tend to think that #3 was the big "OOPS", maybe because of the huge gap??? It kind of bothers a bit because he is the one that we actually planned and really, really, wanted to come more than anything....... know what I mean???
Gendenwitha's Avatar Gendenwitha 07:51 PM 06-10-2007
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I've noticed is that people tend to think that #3 was the big "OOPS", maybe because of the huge gap???
Yeah, people either assume #3 was a "surprise" or that he has different dad. I'd rather they ask so I can clarify tho. I don't believe in oopses.
Faithful Mommy's Avatar Faithful Mommy 08:03 PM 06-10-2007
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Yeah, people either assume #3 was a "surprise" or that he has different dad. I'd rather they ask so I can clarify tho. I don't believe in oopses.
I know! I was just playing around.... I would hate for my guys to grow up thinking they were a mistake .......... and as for people asking....... that would be so much easier! But then I would wind up posting a thread that said..... "why can't people just mind their business???" You can't win... huh??? Take care hun!
Louise677's Avatar Louise677 03:13 PM 06-13-2007
I think we have made the mistake of choosing a name, totally falling in love with it and using it to refer to our yet to be conceived baby as such now we're hoping we can make a girl. I wish names were just for babies and not for boys and girls. Other than having a name we really don't mind, we have in mind to be pretty gender neutral in it's upbringing. But we have this name...
Sunshine4004's Avatar Sunshine4004 05:35 PM 06-13-2007
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I think we have made the mistake of choosing a name, totally falling in love with it and using it to refer to our yet to be conceived baby as such now we're hoping we can make a girl. I wish names were just for babies and not for boys and girls. Other than having a name we really don't mind, we have in mind to be pretty gender neutral in it's upbringing. But we have this name...
This sounds a bit like us. I am hoping for a girl first mostly for the reasoning that we can only agree on a girl's name...we actually can agree on several girl's names but no boy's names! If we have a boy it may be called Baby Boy for a good while
Everrgreen's Avatar Everrgreen 06:42 PM 06-13-2007
Hey,
Well, we're done trying for this cycle! I don't really know when I ovulated but I'm thinking yesterday. We DTD right up to yesterday. I know that goes against all I had planned, but my CM has been so bad (well, non existent) and I didn't know if I'd ovulated, and I didn't want to be kicking myself later for not trying long enough. I will be happy with whatever sex I'm given. I think we still have a good chance of having a girl - I never reached EWCM and it was acidic. So now I just have to wait and see if I'm even pregnant. If I'm not pregnant then I think I'm going to try some supplements to increase CM and then maybe I can time things better. Of course I'd rather be pregnant and not have to worry about 'next cycle'.

Oh, I also have a girl name that I am absolutely in love with. I have a boy name picked out, but boy names just aren't as fun
gabbyquilts's Avatar gabbyquilts 12:22 AM 06-14-2007
oh Gillian, good luck, I'm sending lots of pink vibes to you!
Faithful Mommy's Avatar Faithful Mommy 02:44 AM 06-14-2007
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Hey,
Well, we're done trying for this cycle! I don't really know when I ovulated but I'm thinking yesterday. We DTD right up to yesterday. I know that goes against all I had planned, but my CM has been so bad (well, non existent) and I didn't know if I'd ovulated, and I didn't want to be kicking myself later for not trying long enough. I will be happy with whatever sex I'm given. I think we still have a good chance of having a girl - I never reached EWCM and it was acidic. So now I just have to wait and see if I'm even pregnant. If I'm not pregnant then I think I'm going to try some supplements to increase CM and then maybe I can time things better. Of course I'd rather be pregnant and not have to worry about 'next cycle'.

Oh, I also have a girl name that I am absolutely in love with. I have a boy name picked out, but boy names just aren't as fun

Goodluck! Let's think.... PINK, PINK,PINK!!
Sunshine4004's Avatar Sunshine4004 11:32 AM 06-14-2007
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I never reached EWCM and it was acidic.
Did you use Ph strips to know CM was acidic? I am just curious! Also - good luck to you!
Everrgreen's Avatar Everrgreen 11:39 AM 06-14-2007
Thanks for the pink vibes! The last couple days I was having little 'chats' with my uterus to help the girl spermies reach the egg first . FF gave me my crosshairs today and it is saying I O'd on CD 25 (2 days earlier than usual) and I was going to stop that day anyway. I don't know if FF is accurate with that though, I'm thinking I O'd CD 26. I guess it doesn't really matter now

Yes, I used pH strips, it was hard to test because there was basically nothing there but the paper became a lighter yellow then it already was. Also, my diet has lots of dairy, and I've been drinking cranberry juice.
Rhon's Avatar Rhon 05:45 PM 06-19-2007
I am a bit confused. Does dairy make you acidic? I always thought it was the opposite. I know about Cranberry juice, but can someone help me understand the dairy?
dcgrl's Avatar dcgrl 07:37 PM 06-19-2007
Just posting my very limited experience. I'm pregnant with #1--we know he's a boy. Intercourse was 3 days before ovulation, missionary, no big O for me. (We weren't trying for a girl, or even trying to conceive--this is just how it all worked out for us.) We both had a distinct preference for a girl at the beginning of all this, but are so happy now about our little boy! Maybe we'll try O+12 if there is a next time...
Everrgreen's Avatar Everrgreen 08:29 PM 06-19-2007
I have heard that women who consume a lot of dairy are more likely to have a girl. I'm assuming that's because it increases acidity. Not sure exactly. Some of the diet things are kinda weird, like oranges (and other citrus?) are supposed to reduce acidity, but you would think it would be the other way around.
devilish_fetish's Avatar devilish_fetish 08:50 PM 06-19-2007
DH and I were TTC a girl using Shettles before we started seeing a fertility specialist. If we end up doing IUI or IVF we're going to ask for a girl (i read they can do some kind of semen sorting thing? anyone know anything about this?) but if we do end up conceiving naturally, i would like to know ways to influence a girl besides shettles (wouldn't want to risk it with DH's low sperm count and my pcos).
eli's mama's Avatar eli's mama 08:59 PM 06-19-2007
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And this works? Or at least, it is a reasonable idea? I am going to have to explain to my medical researcher husband why I am putting pH strips into my lady parts and drinking gallons of cranberry juice ! I can imagine it now...

"Um, what are you doing with those strips? And why are there 5 gallons of organic cranberry juice in the fridge that cost as much as the down payment on our house?"

"I want a girl."

"What? A girl? Yeah, that would be great, but... "

"Yeah, I need to make my vagina acidic, so I have to test in there and then drink up."

"Dear Lord, Alexsam! What's next?!?! Dances on the full moon and a swatch of hair under the pillow? I've dedicated my life to science and here you are with pH strips in your feminine places and a fridge full of juice!"

What should I say to that?

LMAO!
We aren't currently TTC, but when we do I'm praying for a girl. So I'm watching you all very closely!!
Good luck!
Rhon's Avatar Rhon 11:19 PM 06-19-2007
Ha Ha!!
Does dancing on the full moon really help??

Faithful Mommy's Avatar Faithful Mommy 02:48 AM 06-20-2007
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I have heard that women who consume a lot of dairy are more likely to have a girl. I'm assuming that's because it increases acidity. Not sure exactly. Some of the diet things are kinda weird, like oranges (and other citrus?) are supposed to reduce acidity, but you would think it would be the other way around.
Are you kidding??? : This explains my 3 boys!! We have never charted or done anything other than PRAY tons for a little girl but have 3 boys. I drink like a gallon of oj a day!! Never in a million years did I think that would REDUCE acidity!!!
Everrgreen's Avatar Everrgreen 11:19 AM 06-20-2007
This is some info I got a few weeks ago just through internet searches. I think most of it came from a study that had been done.
For a boy, consume salt, meat, fish, jams, dried veggies, wine, beer, oranges, peaches. DH should drink coffee/tea (it speeds up the swimmers). And avoid 'girl' foods.
For a girl, increase calcium/magnesium - eggs, dairy, nuts, brown rice, dark green veggies, whole grains. DH should avoid caffeine. And avoid 'boy' foods.

I don't know how accurate any of this is. They don't recommend trying for a boy this way, because they don't want women increasing salt and meat which can be unhealthy. But there is no harm in trying the girl diet, you never know...
jjsexton's Avatar jjsexton 04:08 PM 08-04-2007
Hi mamas!

What a great thread...I've been following it w/great interest and learned so much here. We are currently in our 1st month of TTC #2 and are trying for a girl (#1 is a boy and boys are SO fabulous, I'm actually a bit scared of having a girl now, but feel like I just have to give it a shot, lol).

I'm really interested in the 0+12 method since it seems so much easier to time than Shettles...am wondering if it is meant to favor girls because the sperm have to be heartier (i.e. female) to swim further to reach the egg once it's already been released? Anyway, I'd planned to try it this cycle but we got a little too excited (ahem) about getting pregnant and BD this past Thursday...I'm guessing that O will occur tomorrow (Sunday) or Monday. I'm charting my temps/CF/etc but have a hard time figuring out the whole cervix thing. I've had increased EWCF in the past two days so am pretty confident that I'm fertile.

I suppose this gives us an ok shot at a girl (I've been taking cranberry but not enough I don't think; it's hard to read the pH strips so I'm not sure if I'm at 5 or just over/under)...also, we'd abstained for 7 days before, used missionary position & shallow entry. But here's my question...once my morning temp shows that O has occured, would it be a good idea to try BD again that morning even though it will have been less than 7 days since the last time DH ejaculated? Why is it that no ejaculation is meant to have occured for 7 whole days prior to BD? And if we tried again after O but before 7 more days had passed since BD, would we have a better or worse chance of conceiving a girl?

Aak! Help! Sorry this is so confusing! :

Once I wake up to a temperature spike I'll need to know right away whether or not we should BD, so hopefully someone out there will be able to offer some sage wisdom.
To make things even more complicated we are taking an international flight on Tuesday morning, so if I haven't O'd by then I don't know what I'm going to do.

Thank you all so very much in advance for any advice!
And Gillian28, any word yet on your June attempts at TTC?
Everrgreen's Avatar Everrgreen 06:30 PM 08-04-2007
Hey,
Well, still no positive test for me, but I'm 10 dpo tomorrow and will be testing again!
I actually started out using Shettles, the science behind makes a lot more sense to me. Shettles recommends dtd closer to O for a boy because male sperm are faster and will win the race. To have a girl, you should already have spermies waiting for the egg to release, because girl sperm are better at hanging around. Anyway, because my O dates are so irregular I actually end up basically bding right up to O. So basically my ttc a girl method involves naturally lowing sperm count by dtd daily (which also leaves more sperm hanging around), the diet stuff, and the summer heat (which could also increase girl survival). I'm hoping all these methods together (along with just me hoping) will do the trick.
Maybe someone else has more info on the o+12 method. imo if you know your O date, Shettles is better :

Good Luck!!
kristenburgess's Avatar kristenburgess 02:03 AM 08-05-2007
hey mamas! Just lurking around here b/c I have serious baby fever (no baby for me though ) but I wanted to read through this interesting thread.

I thought you should know that Shettles no longer recommends doing the douche method for either gender. He released a revised book about a year ago. REALLY well written. I reviewed it for my website (PM me if you want a link to the review).

I feel like his methods made a lot of sense scientifically. He discusses some other methods and why he feels they are incorrect.

Mamas taking the supplements, where have you heard about them from? Shettles said in his book he thought diet could have a part to play but hadn't researched it himself very much.
Sunshine4004's Avatar Sunshine4004 02:23 AM 08-05-2007
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Mamas taking the supplements, where have you heard about them from? Shettles said in his book he thought diet could have a part to play but hadn't researched it himself very much.
I found it somewhere on the internet. I am trying the cranberry tablets. If you do a search for cranberry and conceiving a girl you should find several links. This cycle I o'ed way early for me so I wasn't taking the cranberry tablets yet - so if I got preggers this cycle it is out of my control even more than normal.
Faithful Mommy's Avatar Faithful Mommy 06:43 PM 08-05-2007
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Hey everyone!

I feel kind of weird being here, since we have never had to "T" to conceive. LOL.

However, we have 3 boys and have to try ONE more time for a girl. We'll probably start in August.

What are you doing to ttc a girl? I am going to do cranberry and calcium/magnesium supplements, but I am a little leery of timing intercourse 3-4 days before ovulation, as outlined in the Shettles method.

MamasBoys..... Just a little reminder to keep us posted! You and I have tons in common and I'm watching you closely It's August..... are we getting started????
Pica's Avatar Pica 07:03 PM 08-05-2007
We're ttc'ing & hoping for a girl :

However, I don't chart so we're just BD'ing every other day.

That & drinking cranberry juice (also to help prevent UTIs).

It worked for us last time -- maybe with the every other day method the sperm are always up there 'early'.
Kooksmom's Avatar Kooksmom 07:19 PM 08-05-2007
I would really like a boy this time (I think ) Here is a link to the basic's of Shettles Method!

http://www.babyzone.com/pregnancy/fe...s_gender/a1640

Good luck to all!
Yaliina's Avatar Yaliina 02:55 AM 08-14-2007
Hello. I'm just lurking here & really enjoying your posts. Wow! This stuff is really confusing! We're not ttc yet, but are currently in debate about when we will start ttc #2. We (read I) REALLY want a girl next, and I'm with several of you who have said you're going to basically use all the methods you can find to make it happen. Although, of course, I'll be very happy if dc#2 is another boy. I just wanted to say thanks to everyone who's posting so much useful information here. I'm writing it all down in my "Having a Girl" notebook, lol, for future use. Good pink vibes to all you mammas!
blastomom's Avatar blastomom 07:09 AM 08-14-2007
Add me to the lurkers list. DS#2 is just 7 months and AF didn't return until 18 months pptm after DS#1 so I probably have a while to go before we get serious about TTC again (if I'm still up for it after these two boys ).
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