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#1 of 7 Old 01-28-2008, 04:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
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already have a boy and a girl does anyone have an opinion on whether you'd 'want' another boy or another girl in my situation?

personally I think another boy would be good in that otherwise DS would be WAY WAY older (like 7 years or more) than a brother, whereas if the next one was a boy, he'd only be roughly 4 years older.

but 4 years is still a pretty big gap, not as big as 7 or 8, but still, would 2 boys that far apart have 'fun' playing together and stuff as brothers?? Would they be close as brothers? Or would they still be far enough apart in age that that wouldn't happen? (I'm thinking 4 years apart they could still share a room when they're like 3 and 7 and still would be young enough to have some similar play interests??)

If it were a girl, I think it would be nice for DD to have a sis only about 2 years apart from her...........or is that so close that there would be more jealousy and stuff than if she had a little brother?

anyone with more kids want to chime in with thoughts?

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#2 of 7 Old 01-28-2008, 07:03 PM
 
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I don't have any kids, but I thought I'd chime in It seems to me that if you're questioning it like you are then you should just go for a surprise (which you could get anyway ).

Actually, I just thought I'd add one thing: My three nephews are 10, 7, and almost 4 and they do well in every pairing: 10yo and 7yo, 7yo and 4yo, 10yo and 4yo. However if you get all three together it's complete chaos .

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My sister and I are 7.5 years apart and extremely close as adults. As children we were close too. She was like a little doll for me. I love how our relationship has always been great, and yet has evolved over time. She just had her first baby, its so neat.

For sisters I think it matter less what the age gap is. I actually think it matters more for males.

I think you'll get the baby you are supposed to get,

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I always wanted to have boy, girl, boy.

I figured it put one boy special as the oldest and the other special as the baby, then the girl would be special just cause she's the only girl. No middle child.

Of course, now, I just want a baby!

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DH and his bro are 4 years apart and they shared a room growing up and are close as ever now. They even shared friends growing up and always hung out in groups together. GL with whatever gender is meant for your family next!
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...4 years is still a pretty big gap, not as big as 7 or 8, but still, would 2 boys that far apart have 'fun' playing together and stuff as brothers?? Would they be close as brothers? Or would they still be far enough apart in age that that wouldn't happen? (I'm thinking 4 years apart they could still share a room when they're like 3 and 7 and still would be young enough to have some similar play interests??)...

anyone with more kids want to chime in with thoughts?
My boys are 8 years apart (11 years and 3 years) and oh-my-goodness, yes they do indeed play with each other, more than I would like sometimes. For instance, tonight I went in their room because I heard Prof. Poopy Pants (the younger one) giggling at around 10:30. Hanging down over the bunk bed is Captain Knuckle with his helmet lamp on, making shadow puppets on the wall for the Professor! Yesterday after a round of wrastlin' and general goofing off, the Professor climbed onto my lap and said, "I love my brother so much. He's my friend."

So yes, they can be that far apart and still be friends and have common interests (Legos anyone?) Certainly when they were a little younger and the Prof. couldn't play as much & it was a bit harder, but now that he is older, they have the best time together.

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Maybe a boy?

Honestly though, once I have a girl, (we have a boy) I won't care how the others turn out/what the ratio is. I just want one of each, and then the next three can be whastever and I';d be happy.

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