I'm not currently working, so I take care of most of the housework. Still, our dishwasher is unusable at the moment. We eat homemade meals almost exclusively and the constant pile of dishes gets old. Not to mention we have two large breed dogs that constantly track in leaves, dirt, etc. from the yard so trying to keep up with the floors is a constant battle as well. Sometimes, I still ask my husband to do the dishes and other things around the house, but he does the majority of the yard work so I think it all works out.
Soon, however, I will be needed to work as our finances can't support our bills, especially when his employer is cutting back on paying employees despite their huge profits. I already have a hard enough time keeping up with the house as it is (because of being tired, more pregnancy pain this time around, battling a UTI) so I wonder how things will go (Did I mention our dryer broke too?)
If it were financially an option (for those working full-time) I'd definitely look to hire some help here and there. Even a housekeeper every other week. If that isn't possible, then try to make a schedule or an agreement such as whoever doesn't cook the meal, cleans the kitchen. Go over the most important things and try to be flexible. If he hates the dishes, then he can choose something else (dusting, toilets, grocery shopping).
Other than that, things don't need to be perfect. We have a friend that is basically OCD- perfectly clean, organized, works several jobs- who I'm sure cringes when he leaves our place. Sometimes the dishes are on the counter, there is dust, our dogs lick the couch... shed. Sometimes I wish I could do better, but I really could care less for the most part (except I want hard wood floors- not this awful carpet).
Life happens and these are just small annoyances. Sometimes you just have to look at the big picture and ask what is most important and not forget to also enjoy this special time.
"The soul is its own source of unfolding" - Heraclitus
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