I had something written out and then somehow lost it so I will try and remember how I had written this.
Hello, I am Bailey. I have had 2 children. One full term stillborn daughter and one 11 month old daughter, (they would be about 10-11 months apart). I nursed my daughter for 4 months. My "periods" started around 6 months but I don't think I have been ovulating. They started out around 25 days long and dropped now to a heavy flow, 6 day period, every other week. It. sucks. I thought I would be ovulating tomorrow but instead started the heaviest period I have ever had in my life on Sunday and now am having a medium flow. Monday night I started Vitex and by Tuesday afternoon my flow had diminished to a light to medium flow. I am also taking B6. I am wondering if my wacky cycles could still be from having a baby 11 months ago, or maybe from having 2 back to back pregnancies and nursing? I really want to get pregnant and have another baby. Like really bad. I'm sure you all do too. Any advice would be great. I am only 25 so it is really scarey to think I could not have much fertility left, especially since the women in my family have had children well into their 40's. I haven't had any testing done and prefer not to because I have quite a bad taste in my mouth from dealing with the medical world in the last few years. I normally just watch my cervical mucus for family planning but have also been checking my cervical position and started temping today. I am hoping to be able to keep up the Vitex, B6, and charting so I have something so show a doctor if I end up having to see one.
I don't know if your issues would still be considered post-partum after almost 12 months. (Someone correct me on that if I'm wrong.) But from how you're describing your periods, I would recommend seeing a doctor to see if anything's going on. I know you don't like doctors (I don't much, either), but a 6-day period every other week is indicative of *something* being off. Maybe you could compromise and go just for this one issue. If you don't have health insurance, go to the ER on a slow day and see if you can get a consult with OB. That's what I would do, anyhow.
Are you pregnant now? Your siggy says due 8/24 of this year?
Well, I know that at 11 months postpartum with my first, I'd only had *maybe* two cycles at all, and both were "weird," simply because I was just getting things going again.
At 11 months postpartum with my second ... I may have had one cycle, or I may have been about to get my first postpartum AF.
It's not unusual to not be cycling at all for in the first year postpartum if you're nursing regularly and cosleeping, and if you *are* cycling, it's not weird for those cycles to be different -- anovulatory, irregular, etc. Sometimes the nursing hormones allow you to have bits and pieces of a cycle for awhile before your new cycle pattern establishes itself.
savithny, 42 year old moderate mom to DS Primo (age 12) and DD Secunda (age 9).
Oh, I had an early miscarriage. I forgot to take it off. Thanks for the advice. I will probably go in if nothing changes in a few months. For some reason I have a feeling this cycle might be different.
BaileyB, you're only 25 and have had one child already and have been able to get pregnant. You're also only 11 months PP, so I really think that the infertility forum is not the best place to post this - and also very insensitive to those women who have struggled for years. I really hope putting it in here was unintentional.
Having said this, you say you had an early miscarriage. I've been following the August DDC (I'm due then too, just haven't posted yet). From what I remember, you never did POAS.
Didn't you just get your period instead? If so, this would be good to remember when looking at cycle lengths.
Savithny - We are not co-sleeping and I quit bf-ing at 4 months PP. My cycles, or random bleeding, started around 6 months I think. I've heard that I should be having normal cycles after this long and I've heard that it can take over a year depending on how long you bf.
Moaning - Are you sure that posting an angry message in an infertility forum when you are pregnant is the best? Yes, I did finally pee on a stick when I had started spotting. Are you saying that because someone has had a child that they would never have trouble conceiving another one? That seems really ignorant. I didn't realize that this forum was for those who have never had a child and are having difficulties getting pregnant only. Thanks for the heads up. I will try not to offend next time.
Yes, I do think it's incredibly insensitive. If you can't for the life of you understand why, you're extremely naive and should probably do more research in what those suffering from infertility right now are going through.
There are also plenty of women suffering from secondary infertility on here, so no, thisforum is not for people who haven't been able to have a child yet.
I'm sorry for your loss. From your posts your symptoms sounded like someone about to get her period.
I wish you luck in your TTC journey, but just an FYI for next time, nobody can feel their fundus at 4 weeks pregnant.
BaileyB -- as someone who participated on forums specially for women TTC with real infertility (not at MDC) for *years*, I can tell you that yes, posting about what is probably normal postpartum fertility would be considered very insensitive in any infertility forum.
Generally, infertility forums are set up to be a "safe space" for women who have been trying for many months or even years, because when there are real issues, it can be soul-crushing to post with people who are "infertile" because their husbands are posted overseas or because they just had a baby a few months ago and their cycles haven't stabilized yet.
savithny, 42 year old moderate mom to DS Primo (age 12) and DD Secunda (age 9).
BaileyB- when you poas this last time, was it negative or positive?
I have to agree with what the others are saying about posting this in an infertility forum. A person/couple is generally considered to be infertile if they've not been able to become pregnant after at least a year of unprotected sex. Secondary infertility is the inability to become pregnant, or to carry a pregnancy to term, following the birth of one or more children. And again, a year is the general time frame we're looking at, not counting the post-partum months. At 11 months PP you wouldn't be classified as suffering from secondary infertility, either.
It sounds to me like one of the TTC forums would be exactly what you're looking for, where you can discuss what's going on with your cycles and how you want to get pregnant again, etc.
Ugh! I had something written and it wouldn't post again....
Coffeegirl - it was positive when I started spotting. One of my biggest pet peeves is when women say they have had a miscarriage when they haven't. I use to work with a girl that had a "miscarriage" every other month and I have had 2 male friends whose ex-girlfriends told them they had miscarriages after they broke up, just to try and make them feel bad. I don't really know what I would be gaining by lying about one online but I am sure there have been people who have done it before.
Thank you both for the polite heads up. I def. I didn't mean to try to hurt people's feelings in anyway. I have been having a lot of trouble finding any real answers about PP fertility on google or MDC and I think my doctors office would just love to put me through some rounds of testing and drug trials even if I just needed to wait for my body to figure it out. Obviously I can't fully understand all the feelings that go along with infertility but I really hope all you girls have BFP on the way. Sorry if I caused any heartache!
That was a very reasonable response, Bailey. Speaking of people faking miscarriages, you get a lot of people online who are convinced they're pregnant, never take a pregnancy test and then start bleeding. They'll then say they had a miscarriage, when really they just got their period - it's funny, there really are all sorts of people out there.
I just had to say again, PLEASE tell me you know realize that the fundus cannot be felt at 4 weeks? I know you were considering UCing, and seeing you talk about feeling it was a little concerning to me.
Bailey - If you are PP...and were breatfeeding. You need to have your prolactin levels tested. It could be something that simple. ;)
Also, I don't think now is the time for you panic. There is nothing to indicate you have decreased fertility. Wome with crazy cycles can do get pregnant and sounds like your may be related to PP.
You said you had a stillborn. Do you know the cause? I'm asking because the things that can cause a stillborn can also cause infertility issues. Like Thyroid issues.
I know you are tired of doctors, but there are a few simple tests they can run that would help put your mind at ease.
If the heavy bleeding continues you really do need to ask a doctor about it sooner rather than later.
That said some women just have heavier periods after they have a baby.
If your cycles have not evened out in a couple months it wouldn't hurt to have your doctor run a couple of blood tests. It's very common for women to have high prolactin levels for months after breastfeeding. Thyroid problems are also common PP.
They never did find the cause. Even after an autopsy and genetic tests. I just had a physical in October-ish I believe and everything was fine. I started Vitex, though, on the 11th, when I was having heavy bleeding and it slowed the bleeding from heavy to spotting in 18 hours. I couldn't believe it. I am wondering if that could mean uterine polyps? I read that they are sensitive to estrogen. Maybe when my progesterone drops (when I get a dip in my BBT charts) it makes the polyps bleed or rupture or something. I can't remember where I read that but it was something like that. Vitex causes the pituitary gland to secrete more progesterone. If I don't get pregnant this cycle I am going to go to the doctor for sure.
Thanks for the info Wissa19.
Oh yeah, and thyroid issues are rampant in my family. Mine was fine at my physical but if/when I go in I will ask they check it again.