Infertility and starting the process - Mothering Forums

Thread Tools
#1 of 2 Old 10-05-2012, 11:09 AM - Thread Starter
NurseKelli's Avatar
Join Date: Oct 2012
Posts: 1
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)

My boyfriend of 3 years and I are starting our journey to pregnancy but are dealing with infertility. I have blocked fallopian tubes             (found out when trying to have a child when I was married 5 years ago) so we have to do IVF. 


Both of us have previously been married then divorced and really don't want to get married. We have a very strong relationship, committed to one another fully and want a child together badly. 


We are getting ready for our first appointment and the doctor states since we are not married we have to get a lawyer and a parenting plan ready before we can start. 


Has anyone ever dealt with this? Just wanting other's experiences! 





NurseKelli is offline  
Sponsored Links
#2 of 2 Old 10-05-2012, 11:37 AM
pokeyac's Avatar
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Bay Area, Ca
Posts: 4,098
Mentioned: 44 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 62 Post(s)

I don't know specifically, but there is a legal issue around using fresh sperm from someone to whom you are not married.  From what I have heard, doctors can only inseminate with fresh sperm from a spouse or known sexual partner.  I don't know what kind of proof they require for this.  I think the law was designed to regulate sperm donation as it is considered human tissue donation.  I don't know if you definitely need a lawyer.  Check out  They have a info on how to create your own parenting agreement without a lawyer.

Married to a wonderful woman since 2010. Baby boy C arrived in June 2013!

Check out our User Agreement.
pokeyac is online now  


Recommended Reading
User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Posting Rules  
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off