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#1 of 2 Old 10-05-2012, 11:09 AM - Thread Starter
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My boyfriend of 3 years and I are starting our journey to pregnancy but are dealing with infertility. I have blocked fallopian tubes             (found out when trying to have a child when I was married 5 years ago) so we have to do IVF. 


Both of us have previously been married then divorced and really don't want to get married. We have a very strong relationship, committed to one another fully and want a child together badly. 


We are getting ready for our first appointment and the doctor states since we are not married we have to get a lawyer and a parenting plan ready before we can start. 


Has anyone ever dealt with this? Just wanting other's experiences! 





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#2 of 2 Old 10-05-2012, 11:37 AM
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I don't know specifically, but there is a legal issue around using fresh sperm from someone to whom you are not married.  From what I have heard, doctors can only inseminate with fresh sperm from a spouse or known sexual partner.  I don't know what kind of proof they require for this.  I think the law was designed to regulate sperm donation as it is considered human tissue donation.  I don't know if you definitely need a lawyer.  Check out  They have a info on how to create your own parenting agreement without a lawyer.

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