I have a baby from a donor embryo who is an unknown race. To make a long story short, the clinic where I did six IVF attempts (all failed) had a small in-house embryo donation program for their paitents. Before my last IVF attempt, I called to see where I was on the embryo donation list. I was like number 35 or something - still years away. Then they said "but we have some "unknown race embryos that you can have now - for free - nobody wants them" I went on to do my last IVF (failed), but didn't stop thinking about the fact that there was a list of more than 50 women who would rather wait many years to get a baby of their own race, then take one right now that is unknown. I literally thought about this daily until after my last IVF failed, and I called the clinic right away and said that I wanted them. They sent me several profiles (they actually had many unknown race embies). The story was that in the early years of their program they did not keep track of the qualities of the men. So we know that the woman was white but nothing about the dad. We actually have almost no information about them - just their height, her race, and her job. To complicate things, each donor had only like 4 or 5 embies, but they defrost 10 because many don't make it (they were frozen the old way), so I had to choose several different donors. Two embies made it from different donors and both were put back inside me. So we really don't know which one my baby is from.
So, I don't really know her race. She looks white to me. But since there is a element of unknown, we keep thinking we see Asian in her. I am a professor and I teach classes in race, gender, and ethicity, and I give my students this test ever year: http://www.pbs.org/race/002_SortingP...02_00-home.htm
So I wonder if my daughter were a picture in that test where she would fall.
I do plan on doing genetic testing with 23andme. In fact, I am hoping that someday it evolves to the point where you can actually find genetic relatives. I have read stories about adoptees actually finding their genetic parents in rare cases through genetic testing. I am hoping for that. At lease with genetic testing I will be able to give her some information when she asks for it, since I really have nothing, and she will surely have questions.
Like Tracy said, I think that epigenetics plays some role. The only time race has come up was actually a few weeks ago. I was at my in-laws house and my father in law said "she has Oriental eyes" I was honestly too shocked that he actually used the word "Oriental" to even think of what he had just said about my child
Later, I thought about it and remembered that she is not genetically mine. I do forget sometimes.
We don't go around telling the world how she was conceived, just like we don't go around telling the world that my DS (bio) was conceived while we were drunk on a canoe trip. It just isn't something that we talk about. But we are open with my son (who is 6), and he has a big mouth and has said things about it. Our family does not know. We plan to tell her and let her tell people, even if that happens when she is a blabber mouth toddler. She is only 8 months old, so we have a while.