I guess this is kind of two topics in one, but I didn't feel like creating two threads!
We adopted our ds one year ago, and now we're ttc. For those who have ttc'd after adopting, I'm mostly just curious why, and what issues if any you have run into and how you handled them.
For me, I can't really list an overriding reason why, just that we feel this is the right move. It's been a careful decision and I feel very positive about it. I guess one reason why is that with new information and changes I've made, I honestly feel like I CAN conceive, and if I can, it seems silly not to try. The adoption process was long and grueling for us, and I think that's played into my feelings too (not that ttc hasn't or won't continue to be long and grueling!
). I don't care one whit about genes, having a child who looks like me, or anything like that. My ds is the most beautiful child I've ever seen, and I am thrilled to just watch "who he is" unfold, without temptation to have him be "just like me". I want to give birth, though, especially after hanging around here and reading all the wonderful natural birth stories. And I dearly want to breastfeed. We weren't able to continue adoptive nursing, and right now I don't think I can bear having to bottlefeed another child.
I do worry a little bit that I might be betraying my ds by not giving him an adopted sibling. Though I do hope to adopt again someday, just not right at the moment.
I've just decided that so much points to ttc being right, and I need to trust that whatever might come up along the way in regards to my ds, we'll just work through it.
As far as ttc goes, I'm feeling more optimistic than I have in YEARS! Six months ago, I overhauled my diet, cutting out most sugar, switching to whole grains, etc. I have felt for a long time that nutrition was a key factor in my inferility. It's just been a nagging feeling (I've been about 15-20 lbs underweight and a total junk food addict.) I've seen lots of changes since then relating to my cycles, and I feel like my chances are really good to be able to get pg. It's weird, but at times, I even feel more fertile.
We've ttc'd off and on for the past few months. I'm trying to balance hope and optimism with being realistic, and protecting my emotional health, so when af has showed up, I've usually taken the next month "off". We have a naturopath to work with, but need to come up with $$$ first. I am totally confident that once we can start working with him, I CAN conceive. (He's got a very high success rate--specializes in infertility.) I'm not sure that nutrition alone can overcome everything that's out of whack in my body.
So, on the one hand, I have this incredible optimism that I haven't felt in years, but I'm not naive either. How do you cope with these mixed emotions when you're starting to ttc again after a very long road the first time (and for me, no pg's)?
Anyway, I am just excited to have this new subforum and just had to post *something*! All of these thoughts have been running around my head for awhile.