I hope this is the right place to post this.....
A good friend of mine and her husband are ttc (just the past few months) but her dr. gave her six months to either get pg or get a hysterectomy(sp?) (she's 21!!!!) (They are going to get a second opinion hopefully!) She has endometriosis (sp?) and a few other problems i don't know about but that's why her dr. said that. She is so optimistic about it and i want to suport her but i feel like also she should prepare herself for at least it taking longer than six months. Pregnancy came very easy for my husband and me but i understand it doesn't come easy for everyone, but i know her seeing me with my 5 month old will be heartbreaking if she doesn't get pg. I really want to be here for her though. I also think she should be doing her own research in the matter and not just taking her dr.s word in the matter.
She even mentioned how her and her husband might want to start buying one baby thing a week to stock up ... my dh and i didn't even buy things till i was over 6 months pg..... just to make sure we wouldn't have a house full of baby things to have to clean up after a loss. So I feel like she's either not telling me how truly terrified she is that she might not get pg or that she really is being that nieve. To make matters worse...she's had to miscarriages in the past. Hopefully she'll do whatever it takes to keep it, although i know there's nothing really anyone can do.
I have encouraged her to take her prenatal so she'll be prepared for if it happens. I just want to be a good friend. Any advice on how i can be supportive? Should I be the sound of reason that it might not happen? or bask in the joy that she has that it's going to happen?
Thanks.
ps. i really hope i haven't offended anyone. I really care so much for her, and anyone else that's been ttc. Love to you all!
A good friend of mine and her husband are ttc (just the past few months) but her dr. gave her six months to either get pg or get a hysterectomy(sp?) (she's 21!!!!) (They are going to get a second opinion hopefully!) She has endometriosis (sp?) and a few other problems i don't know about but that's why her dr. said that. She is so optimistic about it and i want to suport her but i feel like also she should prepare herself for at least it taking longer than six months. Pregnancy came very easy for my husband and me but i understand it doesn't come easy for everyone, but i know her seeing me with my 5 month old will be heartbreaking if she doesn't get pg. I really want to be here for her though. I also think she should be doing her own research in the matter and not just taking her dr.s word in the matter.
She even mentioned how her and her husband might want to start buying one baby thing a week to stock up ... my dh and i didn't even buy things till i was over 6 months pg..... just to make sure we wouldn't have a house full of baby things to have to clean up after a loss. So I feel like she's either not telling me how truly terrified she is that she might not get pg or that she really is being that nieve. To make matters worse...she's had to miscarriages in the past. Hopefully she'll do whatever it takes to keep it, although i know there's nothing really anyone can do.
I have encouraged her to take her prenatal so she'll be prepared for if it happens. I just want to be a good friend. Any advice on how i can be supportive? Should I be the sound of reason that it might not happen? or bask in the joy that she has that it's going to happen?
Thanks.
ps. i really hope i haven't offended anyone. I really care so much for her, and anyone else that's been ttc. Love to you all!