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#1 of 5 Old 01-15-2009, 01:29 PM - Thread Starter
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I have a 7 week old daughter and I'm scheduled to receive a paraguard IUD tomorrow, but I'm feeling very uncertain about it and having second thoughts...

I went on BC pills in high school for heavy periods, and I hated them...I had tons of side effects and once I stopped, I didn't get my period back for 2 years! So for me, hormonal BC is not an option.

I wasn't sexually active until I got married, and we used FAM with condoms during fertile times. I tried using spermicide inserts and the sponge but they always gave me UTIs. my dr said I'm not a good candidate for the diaphragm because of my frequent UTIs.

We got a surprise pregnancy after 4 months of FAM. I'm breastfeeding my daughter and don't have cycles, so FAM isn't really an option. i plan to bf for 1-2 years so i might not get my cycles back for a while.

we really don't want another baby yet - we could just use condoms but DH doesnt like them, they're not that effective, and it would get expensive (we're still kinda newlyweds and we ML pretty much every day )

so it seems like the paraguard is the best option...my insurance will pay for it if i get it within 60 days of giving birth (pregnancy medicaid). i have an appt tomorrow to get it inserted and I'm suddenly really uneasy and having second thoughts. I'm scared of the pain of insertion, the cramps and heavy bleeding (i have bad periods already), i don't like the fact that it can cause a fertilized embryo to not implant, i'm concerned abt getting an infection and becoming infertile, etc.

any experiences with paraguard? are there other bc options i'm overlooking?

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I liked mine (it fell out this morning though). My periods were longer (my first one was 9 days vs. my standard 3-5) and I did have spotting for most of my cycle. I was told that would go away as time wore on. I didn't have cramps and my flow was the same (light-medium) throughout.

I did have mood swings but I'm genetically cantankerous so we can't say if it was that or not.

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I had the paraguard after my 3rd dc was born. I got it put in at 7 weeks pp. It prevented pregnancy for me for 7.5 mo. I started having terrible pain when dtd so I went immediately to get it taken out (didn't want to ruin the sex life after not feeling like dtd for some time). I also had very, very heavy af. It seriously knocked me down. I pretty much felt sick from bleeding so much every time AF came around. It also kind of freaked me out that I had a piece of metal stuck up in me. We had a #4 and after that I chose not to use a contraceptive device or hormones. DH uses condoms (I hate them, he doesn't mind them) and I also chart. I am still nursing and I see a definite temp shift. You can use LAM there is a chapter in the TCOYF book about it.
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Condoms really aren't that expensive even if you do ML everyday. You just have to know where to buy them (online). You weren't buying them at the local drug store I hope? And what's this about them being all that effective? I don't know where you got that misunderstanding from, but they're about 98% if I'm not mistaken. Much higher than a diaphragm.

Another thought is that if you are eligible for pregnancy medicaid, maybe you may be eligible for family planning medicaid. If you are, you won't have to make a decision about the IUD so soon. I've had it for some time and IUD's are covered, along with an annual gyn physical exam. I applied from the application for my children's medicaid form.
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Thanks for the replies...

I decided not to get the IUD..I was still uneasy about it and my midwife also didn't think it was a good option.

So I got fitted for a diaphragm instead...I'm a little concerned about the UTIs but I'm planning to take cranberry supplements so hopefully it will be ok.

I know condoms are pretty effective, but our current DD was possibly conceived while using condoms, so my DH is hesitant to continue with that. He also doesn't like them very much. But they are more effective than the diaphragm, so maybe we'll alternate or use both at the same time or something.

Where is a good place to buy condoms online? We lived in East Africa for several years where we could buy condoms for about 10 cents each, so I guess anything we could find in the US would seem expensive compared to that

Once I get my cycles back I'm planning to start charting again.

I actually just got info in the mail today about the medicaid family planning program - will they cover things like the diaphragm, spermicide, and condoms, or they only cover things like IUDs and birth control pills?

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