How did it work out for you?
A, wife to R, mom to 3 boys and welcoming a baby girl in May 2015
My MIL had a son and a daughter about 15 months apart, then 5 or 6 years later two daughters 11 months apart, then dh and his twin 7 years later (unfortunately his twin didn't survive). They all have a fairly normal sibling relationship, though dh did feel left out by not having a near-age sibling. MIL's health just wasn't up to another pregnancy though and I think she made the right choice to stop after dh.
My grandparents had a son and a daughter 2 years apart. 10 years later they had a little "oops" who turned out to be my father. They wanted him to have a sibling close in age, so they had another son 2 years later. My dad and his siblings all have a good relationship, but you can tell that there is a special closeness between the members of the two sets. I see it more in them than in dh's siblings.
We've been considering doing this, too. We have a 14 year old (from a previous relationship), a 4 year old and an 18 month old. I'd like to have another in 3 or 4 years. Dh says if we do that, we should give that child another sibling closer in age so s/he won't feel left out. We'll see what happens.
So then I think how about having 3 close together -like 2 year gaps between each, but then I think of the saying "3's a crowd" and there will always be 1 that gets "left out".
So then I wonder about having 4 close together, but that would be way too much for my sanity and body to handle, Im sure! So I go back to square one lol
But DH only wants MAYBE 2 total, so we'll see.
Mommy to an exuberant 3 yo and a new one!
I'd like to have a larger family -- 4 has always seemed like the right number to me -- but I'd like to get started on graduate school before I jump into the baby zone again. I'd also like to spread out the baby-having over a longer stretch of time. I'm in no hurry to end this phase of my life.
Kelly - Labor & Delivery RN, IBCLC, Wife of 22 years, Mom to 4
Proud Surrogate Mommy
Now we think we'll wait till ds2 is talking and using the potty before we get pg again. then we'll have 2 more.
My sibs and I were all 2 or less yrs apart.
I think my main motivation is for everone to get a year of good sleep before we attempt this again!
Plus I'm closer w/ my sister who's 15 yrs older than me, than I am w/ my sis who's 3 yrs younger. I think alot depends on personalities...
C.- WOHM, CPST Instructor, and all around busy Mama to A.- 02/04, I. 01/07,E. 09/10 and
expecting the surprise of our lives Fall 2012!
the hardest part is when you have the 18 month old and a newborn and then again when they are 3 and 4 oh the fighting is terrible
#3 is now fourteen months and we are working on a younger sibling for her. We didn't plan on having a five year gap between #2 and #3 but it's working out quite well. The boys are great helpers and their sister simply adores them :
#1 when we're 28/38
#2 when we're 30/40
(3 year gap)
#3 when we're 33/43
#4 when we're 35/45
We are thinking this way -- we have 3 close in age -- each is appr. 2 yrs apart. We are thinking of waiting until our last is 4 and then conceiving again -- she is almost 2 now. That would give me a little break because I've been pg/bfing for almost 7 yrs straight!
Yes, I am thinking that a three to four year gap and I might go on ahead and have one more, but my oldest was an only child for 11 years and pretty lonely, so I dont know, if I have one more, I might have two more.....
I currently only have ONE in diapers! But I have TWO still nursing, I would like to have NO ONE nursing for just a while!! I would like the next baby to be the ONLY one nursing, no tandeming for awhile.....