It is fabulous! No worries about pregnancy, no charting, no condoms or diaphrams so we can be super spontaneous. We love it. We were back to dtd in about two weeks and he was back to totally normal in about a month.
I would imagine that the guys on the internet talking about complications are the vocal and unlucky few. Not that I'm minimizing their experience, but the vast majority of satisfied (uh, so to speak) men don't have any reason to take to the web.
I love that it is so worry free! With 3 kids it's hard to find time to be alone...so it's nice when we do happen to have a few minutes to ourselves we don't have to worry about me getting preggo!
Just wanted to post this.
My DH refuses to ever do this to himself. I am supportive as I don't think much good can come from changing the way the body was designed to work. This article was shocking to me.
Single mom to ds(8), dd(6) and ds(5)
This is the author's website. It has a lot more info and references and also archives of their forums so you could read info from men who've btdt.
We really really really do not want more children, and other birth control options either have worse side effects or don't work for us.
He had his first in 1995. He was sure we were done having kids, I wasn't so sure. In 2001, he had a reversal because Mr. Iamdonenomorekids decided that he wasn't so done after all. LOL
We had twins in 2003 and in 2004 (or was it 05- I can't remember) he had another vasectomy. This time we were both 1000% sure we were done.
He's not had any complications. Recovery time for both V's were brief and he was fine within a couple of days.
Not having to worry about getting pregnant is wonderful! :
But we regret the V. We were overwhelmed with 3 kids in 4 years. Thought we were done. Now with our little one approaching 2, we're feeling differently.
Be really, really sure you are both 1000% sure you are done before taking such a permanent step.
If you want to research vasectomy techniques, I believe there is an open end vasectomy, and also a clamped end vasectomy. The open end type some people worry about auto-immune issues. Dh had the clamped vas.
Good luck with your decision.
Michelle , 20+ years with a wonderful DH
Mama to two boys, 12 and 10
You can talk to your doctor about the actual potential complications and their rate of occurrence.
We haveb't btdt yet, but my partner will be getting a vasectomy.
Jam 7, Peanut Butter 5, and Bread 2.
Again, as far as the anit-vas stuff, I just don't think that the vast majority of guys who are happy with their outcome are going to take to the internet with, "Dude, I just had a great vasectomy. Let me tell you about it..." So, of course you're going to hear about the worst case senarios.
One friend is still having pain and swelling three years later. One friend had pain and swelling for weeks after. One friend had two infections requiring hospitalization a week and then several more weeks after the surgery. One friend conceived several years after her husband's vasectomy. And no, these were all performed by different doctors.
So it can be sketchy...
JENNY, 38~ preschool teacher, birth activist, sun worshiper, singer, married for 17 years and mom to
Karan 15, Fiona 12, Bodhi 10, Bjorn 6, Devon 3, and Robin Taylor born January 16th!
He was given the choice of three treatments - 1. Reversal, 2. Stripping of nerves in the area, and 3. Removal of the testicles. Needless to say, he opted for the reversal. Apparently, what had happened is that the testicular end of the vas deferens that was burned during the vasectomy started leaking, causing a sperm granuloma.
I do think that more men than reported suffer with pain post vasectomy. It's just that most men are "doctor shy," and certainly won't volunteer, "Yeah, my sac really hurts, doc!" My husband couldn't even stand for more than a few minutes by the time he finally had it reversed and repaired.
Of course, we now have the added blessing of expecting a reversal baby this summer - just icing on the cake for our family!
I think for most men, a vasectomy works out fine. But it doesn't for all men. I wish we'd known about men who suffer from problems like this before he had his vasectomy - I would have gotten an IUD instead!
Though my friend did just get a +HPT and her DH had a V nearly 4 yrs ago!! But they never went back for the final draws to make sure he was clear, but still, YIKES!
I still prefer DH get the V over me getting a tubal or worrying about BC when we are older and past wanting kids but still "old enough" to have children.
Granted, with any surgery, there can be complications - but most cases seem like they go just fine and if you hear otherwise, it could be a fluke, or there could be psychosomatic problems behind the complications.
With women, you will hear of "tubal ligation syndrome" being such a huge problem - you will read scary things about it. In some cases - there are probably sometimes genuinely serious surgical complications.
But in a number of cases, it's just truly amazing how reversing the tubal and having another baby makes the woman feel SO MUCH BETTER. Kind of makes me wonder if she wanted a medically justifiable reason to reverse the tubal, you know?
Any time you read of a negative outcome - consider the source and any ulterior motives. I'm not saying there are *never* medical complications - surely sometimes there are - or that reversals are always motivated at their core by a desire for another baby. But be open to other interpretations.
The quiverful links are *very* questionable IMO...
Good luck to your husband.
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