I'm not interested in using hormonal birth control.
Originally, we'd planned for dh to have a vasectomy. Then I read about a study that showed increased risk for dementia later in life in men who have had them. Maybe a very small risk (it was a small study), but I can't see going forward knowing that.
A tubal ligation isn't likely to be covered by insurance, is it? Now, of course, I wish I'd had one during my last c-sec. But I wasn't at all ready then.
I recently was reading about a non surgical tube blocker (Essure?)--it seems to work very well, but is a relatively new technology.
I'm 40, so my years of fertility are waning--maybe we should just continue using barrier methods until menopause hits?
thanks for any experiences/insight you can share.
I wouldn't mind using hormone birth control, but I'm still nursing, so it's not really an option. (right?)
We're using CTA and condoms, but we both dislike condoms. Maybe I should get a diaphram or cervical cap? hmm... I've never done that before, what are everyone elses experiences with those?
What are some other options?
-- Wife to a Wonderful Husband and Pianist -- 27 March 2003
Even with EBF my fertility returns very soon after birth, an IUD is not an option for me (horrible experience with Mirena after my second child), the mini pill made me bleed constantly, we suck at condoms and I find NFP too hard while nursing/up at night etc......so we will likely use a diaphragm until we are comfortable with our decision to either have another or that our family is complete, when he will go for a VS.
I have put in a lot of years preventing, being pregnant, nursing, etc.......the VS is his turn to contribute!
Sami , wife to , mama to Tate 10/14/05, Kaleb 12/17/07, Bram 3/13/10-11/17/12, Alden 2/1/12, October 2014
You may already know this, but the vasectomy data is based on one survey of just over 100 men. The form of dementia is also extremely rare. We all have much better chances of getting alzheimers or vascular dementia than anyone has of getting this type (can't remember the name). It's really preliminary data and considering the number of men who get vasectomies vs. the numbers that get this type of dementia, even if there is a link it is a super rare complication. Even the researchers said more data was needed. I totally get if you want no risk, but I wanted to put this out there in case others reading didn't know about this connection.
As far as tubal ligations go, I will tell you that as a nurse practitioner I have seen a surprising number of women who develop really crazy, heavy periods in the years following their TL. After seeing this several times I asked some other NP and midwife friends about it and they had seen this as well.
I don't know about much about the Essure. I have had patients in this situation opt for a Paragard IUD, which has no hormones and is good for up to 12 years (maybe even longer). Some people love it and some hate it. There can definitely be bleeding issues.
We have been really happy with dh's vasectomy.
Having said that I can understand why you wouldn't want to use hormonal B.C. I wouldn't either - perhaps the barrier method would be best til you are sure you want to go ahead with a vasectomy?
I hope I haven't offended anyone, I'd just hate anyone to go through the heartbreak I went through.
For me, I just only date women from herre on out. That's the surest form of BC there is.
-- Wife to a Wonderful Husband and Pianist -- 27 March 2003
Everyone around here always says your cycles will be hell after a tubal and blah blah blah but get thermal ablasion done and you will have little or no period. My neighbor has no period at all. I have one day of bleeding. I empty a full diva cup MAYBE 3 times during a cycle. The rest is just spotting/very light bleeding. Literally, if I don't diva I use panty shields.
If YOU are done have babies take care of it yourself. Don't count on your husband for it. Just my liberated opinion!
I know I am two years late for this discussion but I just came across it now. I had never heard of thermal ablation before, so thank you for putting it out there. It is however, not something I would ever consider doing unless I had a medical reason for it, such as endometriosis. Burning/destroying a perfectly healthy organ in my body just does not seem healthy or safe, and I wonder what the lifelong effects could be--cancer? Does anyone even know?
I am glad you don't have any problems with your procedures. There are, unfortunately, women who do. Going into something like this, there are no guarantees either way. Someone IS going to have difficulty, and someone isn't. Who knows what will happen to us until it's all said and done?
We use condom/withdrawal method (and I am aware of my cycles). We have gotten pregnant when we choose and never had an oopsie. I am still at an age where it would be ok to have an accidental pregnancy, but once I am older, I may consider doing something more "permanent", but then again, maybe not. I like to work with nature as much as I can, rather than against it, and I don't like to take drastic measures or health risks.
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