I am so glad to see this thread!
My husband has 2 girls from a previous marriage. They are 9 and 11 years old. They share time between our house and their mother's, which is literally within shouting distance within the same subdivision.
My husband first NEVER wanted to get married again.
Well, then I came along about a year after his divorce, and that plan went to hell.
Then he said early in our relationship that he really wasn't sure/probably did not want to have children. I sat on the fence for awhile with that one. Told him that it was a dealbreaker for me. He caved to that
Before we were pregnant with my son, actually the night we got engaged, he made me PROMISE that we would only have one. I was ok with it at the time.
So...then we got married, I got pregnant, ended up having a perfect pregnancy. No morning sickness, felt great, etc., even vain things like no stretchmarks and lost all the weight relatively easy. But OF COURSE the one bad thing was the birth itself. He was persistent posterior, did not want to get out, and after 30+ hours of labor, pushing for 4 hours, with heartrate distress, they did a c-section. And my good dr told me as they were sewing me up that they were doing a great job so that I could have a VBAC (she is very, very pro-med-free childbirth) and that if everything were relatively normal, I would have easily been able to have my son without drugs (went through transition, etc. and had contractions off the charts without much of a whimper). So it's like running 26 miles of a marathon, and passing out before finishing the last 0.2 miles! I want, want, want to try again.
AND, to top it off, my son is such and EASY baby. NO problems breastfeeding. He sleeps fairly well at night. And he is constantly laughing and joyful.
He's almost 1 year, and I have the baby bug BAD!
I am in my mid-30s, hubby is 45. His father passed away at age 51 of a massive heart attack, and I think this is definitely playing on his mind.
So I got an IUD. But it became dislodged! I told my husband that I'm done with BC, that he's in charge now. So now it is pull and pray--but the prayers go in two different directions
He keeps talking about getting "snipped." But he's been procrastinating since my son was born. He says he doesn't have time. He now says he wants to wait until winter when there's less stuff to do on weekends.
So that's my story. I haven't even brought the subject up to him. I'm wondering how I should/if I should!