DH and I have 2 kids -- DS is 3 and DD is 1. We are pretty sure we will start TTC for #3 next spring. Most days I cannot wait, and want to TTC NOW. But, sometimes I get anxiety just thinking about it, and wonder if I could handle 3 kids.
Example: My DD (who is almost 15 months) was SUCH A FUSSY baby for the first year of her life. She has calmed down a bit, and actually started STTN(!!!!!) a few weeks ago. I can't tell you how happy I am about that. She was the reason why DH originally changed his mind on even having a #3 in the future. He was too afraid to have another baby like her. And, well, I am too.
Just last night, she woke up crying for the first time in weeks. She was hungry, so I fed her. As I stumbled around in the dark, half asleep, I thought to myself, "Do I REALLY want to go through the sleepless nights all over again??" Especially after DD just started finally STTN? It is finally getting a little easier.. do I really want to complicate things and add to the stress?
But most of the time I am fine, and I know we will have a 3rd. I feel there is someone missing. It's just those fleeting thoughts that make me stop and think. When DD woke up last night, my heart started racing. All that anxiety from the last hellish year came back. Going weeks on 4 hours of broken sleep.. makes me wanna cry!
Anyone else? How are you feeling about TTC again? What do you tell yourself?
Do you feel a need to decide this? Can you wait until next spring to do so? I have given us almost a year off of deciding, because it was killing me to think about it all the time.
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Carrie SAHM to Nora Caitlyn ('08) and Finnley Dax ('11) homebirthing, breastfeeding, babywearing, intactivist, doula mama!
Like you, DD is mostly sleeping through the night. But, every once in a while when she doesn't, it's crazy. But, I completely feel that our family isn't complete yet. I'm still thinking 2 more. But, we'll see.
I'll see you in TTC in the Spring!
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We have DD (4 1/2), DD (almost 3), and DS (12 mos) and are planning for our fourth and final baby, hopefully who will be conceived in November. We go back and forth - when I am excited, DH is not at all. When he is excited, I'm like "noooo way". When I feel like that, I think about the future and our large family and how great it will be to be surrounded by our children/grandchildren when we are older. Babyhood is such a fleeting time in the grand scheme of things. Yes, it can be hard. Some babies are harder than others. My mom would tell you what a nightmare it was for her to get pregnant on accident with me when my older sister was such an extremely difficult and needy baby. And viola! - I was cake. Easy, never cried, laid back. Your next one has a great chance of being totally chill. And if you're that worried about it, plan it according to astrology to ensure an easy baby who you and your partner get along with. I can't imagine having a baby without astrologically planning accordingly. Believe me, there is something to it!
Kaiti, in with Shane, astrological mama to Sophie *12.27.05*, Maya *09.25.07*, Phoenix *08.23.09* & due *12.04.11* Having a after 3 cesareans!
That being said, to me the sleepless nights are totally worth it. I love my girls and honestly I kind of forget afterwards how tiring the newborn stage is until I have another one (or Im babysitting one which I do on occasion). Its nice how mommy amnesia can effect your memory at times, I forgot how bad morning sickness can be and how painful labor is as well.
When the baby Im carrying is born Ill have a 4 year old and a 2 year old. The age span to me is great because they sleep in their own room (well the almost 2 year old is being transitioned into her own room right now), they are potty trained (the almost 2 year old decided this last week she doesn't like diapers so as soon as I get another potty seat she will be using the big potty), they get themselves dressed in the morning as long as I lay out the clothing, they pick up their toys as long as I remind them and my almost 4 year old can make snacks and get drinks for both of them. Its easier when you have an older child that can do stuff for themselves and you aren't totally taking care of him/her.