I am not sure if many of you have experience with this decision or not - I have two children (5 and 2) and was recently diagnosed with Celiac disease. While this is super treatable with diet in theory, in reality it is hard to live an active/on-the-go/travelling life and not come in contact with gluten occasionally. Both of my children were also diagnosed and I feel guilt that I contributed to making their lives a little more difficult. I have been on the diet for a year, but am still healing and am in pain (joint pain/back pain/neck pain) a great deal of the time. I want to have a third child, but I am so tired of living in pain and the physicality of being pregnant and caring for young children can make the pain so much more prevalent. I can't decide if I should quit now - I could regret it. I am so bitter and resentful that I have a condition that would stop me from doing this - but perhaps I need to accept that my body just can't try this again. I am 35 and so I do have some room to allow myself to further heal.
My question is this: Has anyone out there deliberately made the decision to expand the family while knowing it would be physically challenging (I didn't know my first two would be so incredibly hard and I don't regret it, but it was so painful. I didn't know I had Celiac at the time - I am hoping it would not be as bad now.)? What was your experience?
My oldest dd and my dh have celiacs- they were diagnosed less than a year ago and we are learning to live with it.
Anyway, with my pregnancy with my 3rd, I had back problems, horrible pain, numbness in my legs, I homebirth but I swear if labor hurt as much as throwing my back out, I would get a c-section. Seriously. I thought I was done. But I have found that I am suddenly thinking hard about another baby. It is likely I would have back problems again, according to my midwife (though it was not an issue with 1 or2). I am trying hard to decide what I can live with, and what I can't live without.
I don't really have any advice, but just wanted to share that I understand. I hope you heal, and that you find the decision that gives you peace.