Hi. We are ready to start a birth control method for both of my 15 yr old girls.
Condoms always, everytime.
But they want to be doubly protected from pregnancy- what do you all think??
What would be the best choice?
My 20 year old has used the Nuvaring quite successfully for over four years. She admits she wishes she was brave enough to get a Mirena... but she's squeamish about that.
What have you talked about with your girls?
They seemed interested in the Implanon bar- I lean towards pills or patch to start with then maybe the depo- shot??
I want to see how the hormones affect them first- but ultimately it's up to them.
I'm curious about how other have dealt with this either with children or in their own lives.
As a teen i tried the Pill (microgynon) and Depo. I used condoms each and every time too - but to me THOSE were for my health, the BCP's were to be doubly sure about any potential baby's health (by definitely NOT creating one)!
I liked the BCP's, i was responsible enough to take it reliably and it was easy to stop if hormonal issues occurred. The depo shot did NOT agree with me, i spotted all the time and bled on and off and the nurse gave me a second one, telling me it'd settle down. Due to this i bled in total every day for 9 months which a) precluded the NEED for birth control and b) left me anaemic. I would recommend trying the minipill first because if THAT suits then the depo is less likely to cause issues (it's the same hormone, just a lower dose).
As an adult i have had the mirena and the copper iud, both of which i like but neither of which i think i would have liked before my babies had stretched out my cervix.
In addition to whatever birth control method your DD's choose - I would teach them a little bit about their own fertile signs, if you have not already.
Even knowing that certain cervical mucous equals fertility and that sperm can live for 5 days have probably saved me from an unexpected pregnancy or two (wow, honey, this is a really lousy time of month to use withdrawal only….)
I loved Depo, but did gain weight on it. I had increased (and severe) migraines on NuvaRing, but loved its simplicity otherwise. I took Ortho Tricyclen BCP, and found they were fine, but I was bad at taking them consistently so I didn't stay on them long. However my sisters both had no problems taking their pills regularly and are still on them.
Really, it depends on their reactions to it, but I am with you in saying I would try something they could stop if they had a reaction. My one sister had psychotic episodes as a reaction to the first type of BCP she tried. My mom had to take her to the doctor because she didn't remember them afterwards, and wouldn't have known there was a problem without my mom telling her.
I later used FAM successfully for 5 years, then 1 month to conceive, but I am hesitant to recommend it to a teen. But knowing about it may be helpful to them later.
Yes. I learned about it in my teens years - but did not really use it until well into my 20's. I still liked know my safer times, though!
I was on depo in my early 20s and while I loved the convenience of it, I gained a lot of weight and spotted constantly. Very annoying. I was on it for over a year or two and total constant spotting.
In my late 20s I was on Nuva ring and thought that worked the best for me. Once a month convenience without the spotting. Kept the weight.
I went on Depo at age 16, I used it for several years. I loved it, no weight gain, never once had a period or any break through bleeding. I don't know if I would use it now as an adult, but as a teen it was perfect, I only had to think about it every 3 months.
I definitely suggest the book "Cycle Savvy" by Toni Weschler - it's like TCOYF for teens. I was Charting To Avoid by age 16 (with condoms as well), and it's really easy. As well, it's great to let your girls get to know their bodies - and it's a good way to keep all those artificial hormones out of them. I tried the Pill for a month - it made my moods 100x worse than they were with my normal raging teenage hormones.
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