Now DD is 2, and I'm feeling like it's time to be pregnant again, but everything is wrong . . .DH's jobs are very unsteady (he gets contract work) and we pay for our own insurance (no maternity coverage). Plus, DH and I have been fiesty with each other through the unemployment issues. I'm going to be 31 in August, so I feel like the clock is ticking.
Having a baby would complicate things SO much (the lack of insurance and the fact that I wouldn't even consider working with a newborn). I feel like a mess about this. Sometimes I wish an "oops" would happen, but at the same time I'm relieved.
2/02, 4/05, 2/07, 11/09, and EDD 12/25/11
This preganancy is an oops. We had just made all sorts of plans for the next 4 or so years and they did not include a baby. We found out about the baby Feb 15 and have had to change all plans and buy a house.
I am a SAHM so its much easier for me than you if you have to work. Dh has a steady job but his insurance doesnt cover our HB but things are going to be tight $$ wise as all our saving where used up to get us into this house.
I must say I really do love an OOPs, rather fun
I would like to maybe have a pg that is planned, but knowing my husband that probably won't happen. He wants more kids, but he gets very analytical about things, and if he has to *plan* another baby, nothing will ever be "right enough" and we'll never have one. So I guess if we're going to have any more they'll have to be an oops! too.
This time it was planned.
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I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that I was fertile on the night that Eli was concieved. Mike came home from work uncharicteristically eager that evening, and I told him flat out that I was definately fertile and that it was no night to be messing around without birth control (we were using a diaphragm at the time). I told him that if he wasn't ready to be a Daddy he needed to go take a cold shower instead. He said he didn't care. :LOL And so we have our EliBean!
With NewBean, we started TTC 5 cycles before we got pregnant. I did not want to be pregnant over the summer again (who knew I'd be freezing this pregnancy?? :LOL) and we wanted to have four children before Mike turns 40, so this was right on schedule, but we got pregnant a teensy bit later than we'd initially planned.
Both times it took 3 cycles to conceive. I think an OOPS! would be fun, and it may be the only way I get to be a momma a third time since dh is undecided on whether he wants more.
I'll convince him or pray the condom breaks.
It all worked out in the end... I hope things work out for you!!
We were married 5 months when I ofund out I was pg with Tracy. He was 6 months old when I found out about our second pg. Tracy was 11 months when I found out about our 3rd pg. Tracy was 13 months when I found out about Bryce.
We never plan anything
We tried a few years for our first. It happened at a really strange time in my life. Our second we adopted, so definitely planned! Our third was a complete shock because we didnt think we could have more biological children. We are planning the fourth (and maybe last)
Jennifer, LPN and nursing student, Doula, CPST, and VBAC mama x3 to
AJ (5/03), Evan (12/04), Ilana (11/06), Olivia (2/09), and Unity (8/2012)
#2- "I want an embryo for Christmas." (And I got one!)
Midwife (CPM, LDM) and homeschooling mama to:
14yo ds 11yo dd 9yo ds and 7yo ds and 2yo ds
DD #2 - Planned
DD #3 - same as Number 1 - but I took it much, much harder.
We're planning on TTC #4 this fall to make a summer baby for 2005.
Our dd has just turned 2 at the time and we felt we were ready for another one.
We are lucky to get pregnant very easily and pretty much on the first try, so
we are deciding now if we'll carefully plan the next one or if we'll just "let it be"...
This baby #2 was planned after I was preg. We had talked about it but hadn't TTC in earnest.
DH and I were on holiday in BC and he decides he want's to conceive right NOW! we had a really fun 4 days and then on the drive home I see the full moon and realize I had totally miscalc'd the dates and was alreay a week late. My honey works fast!
my first was completely unplanned. i was told i'd never be able to have kids, i didn't want kids, i had been on birth control, etc etc.
then along came a baby!
at the time i was a pro-life activist and although i was 17, lined up for scholarships, a great college, and was an honor roll student and had an excellent GPA... i decided to have the baby and be a mom. it was hard, but we made it work (and i'm so glad i made that choice!!)
then we decided to try for another one... started actively trying... then my SO lost his job, we got financially unstable, i went back to school ~ and shortly after discovered baby #2 was on the way. :LOL not really planned ~ that is, we didn't plan to have her in the middle of such insane economic hardship ~ but at exactly the time i had hoped for (so she and my son would be about as far apart as my sister and i are, which i always wanted). after a great deal of stress and more financial problems... we've worked out a lot and even though money is really tight and we're not where i'd like in terms of steady income, etc., things really are working out. i feel that if you believe in your ability to make things work, and take life as it comes, you'll see possibilities that you never knew existed before.
We decided to start TTC in May because we decided all the financial/insurance stuff would work itself out. My cycles had been weird, so I was a little concerned.
Then, DH got a job mid-May . . .a good job with insurance . . .but at that moment, I knew TTC was going to be difficult. (I can be very fatalistic!) I had started charting that month, and soon realized I have a progesterone deficiency. :
I know I haven't walked the difficult TTC path that some have, but now I'm a firm believer in "if ya want a baby, try ASAP because the sooner, the easier!"
2/02, 4/05, 2/07, 11/09, and EDD 12/25/11
I had a miscarriage and three weeks later dh and I took a weekend off to just have fun and not worry about anything for a while. After a romantic night in the jacuzzi suite of a nice hotel (we forgot the condoms!), we went to get tattoos. When signing the forms, I got to the one that asks if you're pregnant. I checked no and signed the form, then turned to my dh and said, "Wouldn't it be funny if I was?" He laughed. 9 months later we had ds#1.
Ds#2 was kinda planned...we didn't actively try, but we didn't prevent. We bought a house and when moving in I joked with my dh that buying a house was "how" my sister got pregnant with her first dd. I said, "Wouldn't it be funny if...." 9 months later we had ds#2.
We announced my pregnancy with ds#2 at Thanksgiving dinner at my in-laws (out of state). The next year my dh had to work during Thanksgiving, so we couldn't go. The following year, as we were planning our trip to PA for Thanksgiving, I said, "Wouldn't it be funny if we had an announcement to make again this year?" My dh laughed then said we absolutely wouldn't have an announcement (we had decided to wait 4-5 yrs to have a third child). We found out about a month before our trip that we were indeed going to be making an announcement! (DD was born when ds#2 was 23 months old...oops!)
I'm no longer allowed to say, "Wouldn't it be funny if...."
Mama to A (12), Z (11), H (9), C (5), A (3) and 4 angels.