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#1 of 2 Old 12-29-2012, 04:40 AM - Thread Starter
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I am not sure how to get over this.  I've been really wanting another baby for over a year.  We had a pregnancy "scare" last year and I was overjoyed thinking I was pregnant again.  DH was accepting, but it isn't what he wanted.  He was relieved to find out we weren't.  I'm not sure if this is a mostly biological thing, wanting another.  I have 3 beautiful children, why should I want any more?  But, I desparately do, I can't get it out of my head.  We're using withdrawal for birth control and we've discussed the fact that there is a chance of failure with this.  He is ok with that.  He said if it happens, it must be God's will.


I'm not sure how to move beyond this.  I love my family as it is now, but this yearning for another is too strong to ignore.

Mama to DS (7) , DD (5) and DD (2) and expecting a LO in 2/14

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He can't be that against it if he's aware of the failure rate with the withdrawal method and still continues to use it. Let God's will work, and during ovulation lie in bed a little longer with your knees elevated.
Most of all communicate your true feelings with each other. If you attend religious services seek counseling together from clergy, or seek other means of professional counseling if affordable. there may be some other issues at play.
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