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#1 of 4 Old 09-29-2013, 04:58 PM - Thread Starter
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Or very slim possible 3!

Can you share your thoughts?

DH and I have not begun having kids yet. Been married 4 months so far!
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Hi! I just saw your introduction thread a little ago! smile.gif

My husband and I initially thought we'd just have one kid, but kind of keep our options open from there. And our first was a really high needs baby and we thought she would indeed be an only for a long time. It took us 6 years to feel interested in having another, and that one was born 7 years after the first.

My advice would be to take the babies one at a time. You don't have to decide how many right from the start - particularly between 2 and 3. Having an only child might require a bit more discussion. Have you and your husband discussed this? Are you pretty much on the same page or are you feeling differently about it?
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I agree that you don't necessarily have to decide right now. DH and I have changed our minds a lot. Originally, I wanted two kids, and he wanted four. We're about to have our eighth! Sometimes he talked me into it, sometimes I convinced him.

Your idea of the right family size for you may change once you're in the thick of it - and then it might change again!

Michelle, wife to DH, and momma to DD16, DS15, DS12, DS10, DD9, DD7, DS5, and baby girl born Christmas Eve 2013!
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Good advice above. Take it is one child at a time. Your feeling will likely change as time passes and your already present children age. I will say, I was an only and know that having an only child is harder in some ways than having two or more. Easier in other ways, of course, too.

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