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#391 of 402 Old 06-23-2014, 08:30 PM
 
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Sweet! It worked! It's dark as all get out being as late as it is but ya'll can see how it is coming together. I'll be keeping you posted ESP. Now that I know how to share pics!

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memento don't tell me I have years of screaming left, I might loose my mind Good for you for choosing biology as a major! I was going to major in biology until I started taking classes (I just get lost in the details of chemistry and genetics and I never did take microbiology). Wildlife biology interested me the most but most of the jobs in that field would involve me being away from my kids most of the week. That is not acceptable at this point in my life so I picked another major, maybe one day I could go back. Reproductive science would be fascinating to study. I understand how hard it is to just sit back and enjoy where you are in life at the moment. I have a tendency to wish for the next stage without enjoying the present, it is something that I am trying to work on.

Sidrajedi I love the shelves, makes me wish I had some wall space to try something like that!

afm still waiting for af, I'm kind of glad it has not shown up yet, that means I can keep putting off the decision to ttc or not for a while longer. Although it might show up sooner rather than later, my dd is teething again (two top teeth in the last week) and has decided the chewing slightly is the best way to nurse. I nurse her as long as I can, trying everything to get her to stop but when she is done (or I make her be done because I can't stand it any longer) there is usually a tooth imprint. I really want to nurse her for at least a year (which will be in August) but if she keeps this up I'm not sure how much past her birthday I'll make it.

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Katydid09: I wouldn't worry, my son seems to be far more tantrumy than other children his age. His emotional and intellectual development is very out of sync. One moment he'll be talking about DNA and the next having a complete meltdown because he can't find the piece of Lego he needs or he's been told to put his pyjamas on! What did you study in the end? I found biochemistry really hard but now quite like it, and genetics is really interesting. My least favourite part of it all is statistics! Embryology just fills me with amazement. I loved this site when I was pregnant with my son: http://www.visembryo.com/

As for biting, I found the best thing to do was put my finger between my son's gums to un-latch him then put him down on the floor and hand him something to chew on. He soon learnt that biting me led to no milk! When he was a bit older usually pulling my skin with his teeth was totally accidental because he would get distracted by things going on around him and turn his head without letting go of me! The best thing to do then was give him something to fiddle with while he fed. You can buy special "nursing necklaces" for that. I had a lot of problems feeding him at the beginning (thrush, mastitis, bleeding etc.) and got completely useless advice from the midwives, but it got easier as he got older. I ended up breastfeeding him to about 22 months, when he self-weaned. For a long time he was just feeding in the morning and before bed though.

Siderajedi: I love your shelves too We are having to entirely cover one long wall of our living/dining area and most walls in my study and my partner's with Ikea bookcases to fit our thousands (literally) of books! I guess at least it makes decorating easier! I'm going to have my study in a steampunky Victorian style, which is very fun to design.

EDs really suck. I've had issues since my early teens and got really ill shortly before becoming pregnant with my son but I too got dramatically better during pregnancy. I slipped badly back into it again a few years later, but again becoming pregnant kicked me into fighting it harder, and I managed to continue to get better despite losing the baby. It's always lurking though. I really want to get much fitter before trying for another baby but it is so, so hard to do it healthily.
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SidraJedi Those floating bookshelves are so nice! Glad to hear your settling in well! That's nice to know that Fertility Awareness has worked so well for you. I was thinking of using Fertility Awareness as soon as I get better at charting.

Katydid- That's so funny that you image searched CM!! I'm still working on the temp part of charting, I was doing it for awhile with an ear thermometer and started reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility, and it said not to use ear thermometers. The copy was actually really old so I'm not sure if the ear thermometers are more advanced nowadays or still a no-no. So I'm going buy a BBT thermometer and try temping again next cycle. I have that problem of always looking down the road to the future instead of enjoying what I have now too. (Or at least DH says I do! Lol!)

Memento- Welcome to waiting! Sorry for your dilemma with TTC. I hope it works out the way you want it to! I love the victorian/steampunk style, that sounds amazing! We've remodeled our house with the plan of selling eventually, so I've had to walk a fine line in design/decorating. We don't want it plain and boring, but we didn't want to over customize and have it be unappealing to someone's tastes. I'll be so happy when we sell this house and start our forever home and I can design just how I like it.

AFM Had my DD's birthday party, we were literally painting the night before to finish up some remodeling. I was also sick and trying to pretend to be healthy because I didn't want to cancel my DD's party. She had been looking forward to it so much, and she really seemed to enjoy it! (I did get overwhelmed because I was sick and some of my friends don't really parent and they were at the party!) Anyone else have friends that it was tough to maintain a relationship with once they had kids, because they have such a radically different parenting style then you? I know a couple people that have a very laissez faire attitude of parenting and I don't really know how to handle them. They literally let their toddlers roam freely in whatever house they are in. They don't chase them, don't make them stay in the room they are in (and I always try to toddler-proof my main living area and put out toddler safe toys) and in general just figure the kid will be fine wherever they are whatever they are getting into. I remember it was tiring to chase my little one and keep her entertained in other people's places when she was a toddler, but I didn't just give up and let my daughter roam into their master bath and ransack their medicine cabinet. I have tried to say something, but it's like the parents don't get what they're doing wrong. They play it off like it's so cute, and they expect you to chase their toddlers if it's your place. Sorry about the rant but I'm at the end of the rope and the last thing I need is for a kid to get seriously injured at my place.
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Katydid09 - thanks! Also, DD bites off and on but she will usually lighten up when I unlatch her and explain to her that I don't like it, when she was that age though it was just unlatch and distract until I was brave enough to try again.

Momento - thanks! And as far as being healthy goes, I try to think about it as "do I want to look thin or actually be healthy?"

Aslandess - thanks! And I am a success story for FA, though I know others whom it was not a good fit for. I love fertility friend and cannot wait to really get into it. All of the mothers in my and my husbands families seem to parent differently. Before I became a parent I thought some things they did were totally beyond me. Now I feel differently. They parent their way, and I understand its because it works for them and they are only doing what thy think is best for their child. When DD was first born I went on a lot of mom dates trying to find another mom whom I could hang out with that fit my parenting style and I had little success. I don't mind so much being different, but I guess that's because I don't feel like everyone else is doing something that I am not. In my circle we're all kind of doing our own thing. I do feel like its been hard to hang out with my childless friends. Also, that I've grown apart from most of them. Now two are moving away, I get kind of lonely about it. And I am at a loss as to how to make new friends since most of my friends have come from work and I am a SAHM/WAHM for now.

Felicity890 - ?

AFM, AF finally came a callin at 15months, one week and two days PP in the middle of the night just like she used to! I was super excited and blind sighted when I saw spotting. I used to have intense cramps and severe PMS a day or two before and then cramps through most bleeding. Also I am pretty sure this cycle is anovulary because I have still had no sex drive and didn't have super fertile CM or ovulation cramps or anything, but I can't be sure and since I the flow is slowing down and it's only day two (my menses used to last at least five days) I am not discounting implantation bleeding. So I plan to test in the near future. The only signs I had that AF might show up was that my weight went up about 2.5lbs inexplicably and that I had a pregnancy appetite the say before spotting and ever since. I gave up temping a couple months ago since it looked like nothing was happening but I am now back to using the FF app. I am glad that I was AF free for over 25 months but I have to admit that I missed my cycle a little bit. I like my clock especially when cramps are not involved. I wish it could always be like this. I guess I like the charting, the organizing and analyzing involved in having a cycle? I know I'm a weirdo...

Also, I don't feel an overwhelming need for a baby like I thought I would with the return of AF. Maybe the hormones are but in full strength? I did feel a surge of fondness for another when my one was asleep and I was picking up after her morning rampage in the living room. But then she woke up early from her nap and has been whiny and uncomfortable ever since (teething, cranky) and the feeling went into hibernation. I can wait a little longer.
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memento, I decided on criminal justice (with an emphasis on forensics), a fairly useless degree but I thought it was super interesting. Plus I transferred with my associates with a lot of the prerequisites so I was able to finish my bachelors in three semesters. I was also able to take a few more biology classes and get a minor in biology. It worked out and I graduated but I don't think I will be able to find a job (at least around where I live) without going back to school. I love being a stay at home mom and if there comes a time when I do need/want to find work I'm sure something will work out even if it has nothing to do with my schooling. Cool website, I think a developing baby is one of the most amazing thing in the world. Are you taking classes now or are you between modules?

aslandess, I have been using a ear thermometer too, I have not been doing that great about taking temps, the baby cries in the morning and I am out of bed and across the apartment before I wake up enough to remember to take my temps. I figure I will try to get a bbt thermometer later, if I ever remember to buy one I have been following this blog and one of the resent posts talked about finding joy in the moment. It reminded me of my own tendencies of looking to much to the future and forgetting what I have now to enjoy, I thought I would pass it along if anybody wants to read it. http://www.themomentswestand.com/201...forgotten.html I'm glad your DD had a fun party, and good for you for throwing it (I don't think my kids are ever going to have birthday parties). That is so frustrating about those parents, we have a neighbor with some little kids (their oldest is about a year or two older then my ds) we went to the park with them once and the oldest one would take toys from the other kids, throw sand in my ds face and at one point started poking my ds in the stomach with a bat, the whole time all the mom would do is softly say something along the lines of "we don't do that" but would not do much more to control her child. We have not done anything with them since, I wish we could because they are the only kids around that are my ds age but I can't handle how mean her oldest is to my ds, and I don't want him to act like that.

sidrajedi, yay for AF.

afm, nursing is going a little better, I think my dd is done teething for the moment so she is chewing a lot less. I think part of the problem is her latch. It was fine before she started to get her top teeth but now it is uncomfortable and we haven't figured out how to adjust yet, but we are getting there (I hope). We have been spending a lot of time around family the last couple of weeks, the kids nap schedules are non-existent. I was looking forward to trying to get back to normal but my sister-in-law asked if she could stay with us for a few days (the day we came home for camping). I am exhausted and my apartment is a mess and I really, really want my own space again.
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Hope everyone is doing well and enjoying their summer (or whatever season you might be in).


Does anyone else like to do crafts? I realized I have 3 sewing and 2 cross stich projects, all in various degrees of completeness all over my living room. I also have ribbons, feathers and fabric scraps I am using to make hair bows taking over my bedroom. And as of yesterday my kitchen table was commandeered to make some sand print wall hangings. I think I have a problem
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I craft...

I am making curtains for our living/dining room and painting some thrift store frames for our family photo wall. DH and I have been together for 11 years an my goal is to find a photo from every year for our wall.

Also, I have some plans lined up for throw pillows to add color to the living room.

I'm also still working on a Waldorf doll for DD

Also, I am a few days from ovulation and I really want a baby! It's going to be a long three months... If we even decide to TTC when DD is 18 months. We might wait longer. I have a friend about to have a baby any day now and in ways I am so jeally. Speaking of crafts I want to make a bunch of clothes for DD and a gender neutral layette set for the next baby, so I'm going to get to cleaning up our project room...

@katydid09 you don't have a problem that a trip to the container store couldn't handle we should post photos of our crafts/projects as we finish them!
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err I hate my computer, I typed out this big long replay and my computer did something stupid and now its gone, so here is a condensed version of what I typed.


@sidrajedi It would be fun to post pictures of our crafts/projects, I love to see other people's work, plus I might actually finish a project in a timely manner. I love your family picture wall idea. I started something similar with Christmas ornaments, I glued ribbons and buttons around wallet sized photos to put on our tree. They have the added bonus of being kid friendly (as long as the kids don't try to eat the buttons).


afm I've been trying to find a good cake and frosting recipe for the giant cupcake pan I got for my dd's first birthday next month. After lots of cake the last week I think I'm going with a chocolate cake with Oreo frosting in a white chocolate shell, it is super yummy. I'll have to try and write more later, the kids are going crazy, I think I have been on the computer too long.
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Hi! I think I belong here I have major baby fever right now! My best friend had a baby a few days ago and seeing all of the pictures is making me so jealous I have a 2 year old and we will wait until November to ttc but it is so hard to wait! My husband is in school now so we want to wait to try so that the baby will be born a few months after he graduates. He isn't as excited as I am though and that is hard.. Our dd was extremely colicky and I had ppd so he's worried about having another one. I also worry about my dd feeling replaced and not being able to give her all of my attention but at the end of the day I want her to have a sibling even if it is rough in the beginning. I am getting tired of everyone asking us if our dd will be an only child. Its like they are implying we are running out of time (I'm 28 so feel like I have a few baby making years left!). It's hard when I want to be trying already. Anyway I'm glad I found somewhere to talk about this with people who understand! It's hard to want a baby so much but not quite be able to try yet
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Welcome ballerina! My DH doesn't seem very excited when I talk about babies either (maybe a guy thing?). I think he is more aware/remembers the reality of a baby and all I can think of is BABY! I have to have one and the sooner the better; silly hormones. I don't know much about colic except that it is miserable, maybe the next one won't have it. Sorry about the ppd, at least being aware that you might have it again is a leg up from last time. I think giving my son a sibling was one of the best things I could have done for him. It is an adjustment but I think it was easier then adjusting to the first.
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