Hello girls! How is everyone doing? It's been a bit manic around here, with our youngest turning 4 yesterday and various work bits and bobs! The big news is that we have decided to just let it happen. So we're not actively TTC but we're not preventing it either. Of course, this may mean nothing as at my last appointment I was told I probably wouldn't be able to get pregnant without IVF and donor eggs due to my low AMH levels and the perimenopause, but we'll see. If it's meant to happen I'm sure it will. We've decided if it hasn't happened by about September time then we'll look into some extra testing to see exactly what's going on... But for now we're just taking it easy and enjoying ourselves without pressure!
Wow, a lot of us waiting (or potentially waiting?) for the summer to TTC. Might be a full ddc for March-ish. I've been completely bogged down with school work the last two weeks- both mine and the kids', and it looks like I really missed out on some action on this board. Congrats to Seven for the relaxing news, and to the ladies whose plans are still a "go", even if it's a bit sad when AF visits. And good on ya, Katy, for getting into a workout routine. I am still saying "we really need to start getting to the gym" about every other night at dinner, but I haven't done anything about it yet.
I am going to check out some of the links you all posted a few weeks ago (when I get a few minutes), as I think more about healthy habits I need to start. 3LilChunklins, that's a good idea about a cleanse. I am not nursing (LO weaned at 2), so I might look into that, and pair it with some changed eating habits. DH & I were looking at the 5:2 diet, where you fast for 2 days, and eat normally for the other 5. I think that sounds more doable for the long-run, but I haven't had time to read the book yet to see how I'd have to modify it for pregnancy.
I am thankful for my IUD, because I can't really be tempted to ttc earlier than our plan, even if I really want to. It'll require a special appointment at a doctor's office first, and I'm good at procrastinating. ;-) I've been looking at strollers in my "spare" time before bed.
OK, well, my LO just got out of bed, so I'd better sign off and take him down to mine. Ciao!
I second the congrats to Seven about the decision to just see what happens. There is so much relief is having a direction even if you don't know where it will lead. Not having to worry/time intercourse makes it better too ;)
writermama, your DH does sound dreamy.... I bet you feel like a fertility goddess. I'm a little bit jealous.
3lil, do you mind if I shorten your name? Tell me now or I will run with it. Fair warning. I too am feeling so ambivalent. It does feel slightly insane to go back and forth between wanting a baby NOW to thinking that's it's crazy to even consider another child. I just want to make a decision, have DH make a decision and go with it. It would be the most helpful if the decisions that DH and I are the same one.
Yaliina, I keep thinking that now is the time to get myself healthier too. This time of year is always when I'm at my heaviest and blah-est. Once spring comes and I can get outside in the garden, I'll feel better. It's been 0-10 degrees for two weeks now here in PA and I'm ready for warmer weather. Even the 30's sounds good at this point.
katy, keep going with the 'trash' kicking! You can do it!
Katy, Big projects? For me, I am going to try my hardest to finish writing a YA novel before the next baby (if there is one). I have written 2 chapters so far and I am serious about doing it, dedicating 6 hours a week to writing only the novel, so yeah, it is one reason that I am trying to reign in my "fertility horses" that want to run free.
Seven, I am happy you have a plan that feels right for you! That's great.
And thestars, hahaha! fertitlity goddess, yes that about sounds right :) but a little scary too. I am now confronted with the opposite issue I thought I'd have. DH wasn't really on board (or only half-heartedly) for some time. I thought my major issue would be having to convince him over a long period of time. But now I'm feeling a little nervous about having to contend with my baby-making hormones that would want me to keep getting pregnant every other year until menopause! I need to really figure out how I feel about it. Right now, one more feels good. I think that will be a god size for our family. But if it isn't a girl, I know I will want another.
Yaliina, I fast many mornings during the week. The 5:2 sounds interesting too. There are so many healthful fast strategies and I think what I've gleaned is that just changing it up on your body, making it stay on its toes and adapt to both famine times and food abundance is what is best biologically, keeps the organs and cells strong. I'd love to follow your progress with it. Keep us updated!
AFM, I am working a lot and it is keeping my mind off of TTC or WBW. But I just got my first shipment of OPKs from wondfo. And I am interested in figuring it all out, so I've been POAS on OPKs the past few mornings. it is funny how much I hope I see two lines and that I have to remind myself over and over that it is NOT a Pg test!! Funny that I always hold my breath,hopeful.
Mama2, Those are great, rational reasons...if it were me, I'd think about how I might feel after getting pregnant. Will you regret not waiting the few extra months for any one of these reasons? Hormones and emotions are powerful forces, and it can feel soooo satisfying to give into them, but I'd weigh that momentary bliss against your goals. I am trying really hard to do this right now. I absolutely have goals like finishing writing a book, bfing ds3 until he is at least 18 mo (I will probably lose my milk during pg), and I keep reminding myself of those things almost on a daily basis. Once I am not in that fertile week during my cycle, though, it gets infinitely easier to AVOID TTC early. I'm just not as obsessed.
Being a woman is crazy business. After I gave all that good advice (that I fully believed 100%) I started longing again. But it's probably because I am due to O any day now. I am trying out my OPKs and it is confusing. they are all like different shades of negative for the past four days. I think this is normal, but I am afraid of missing the surge so I keep POAS to try to catch it...and since I am paying attention to my O time, I am also thinking about the egg that will surely follow. Hmm. Plotting. Rationalizing. hahaha.
Snow, I am writing a young adult novel, which is my first go at this genre but I review and analyze it for a living so I feel really moved to write one. I am making it more literarily based than just slush though.
Mama2CL, So interesting you mention moontime. I just came across this awesome summary of what it is on the Empowered Sustenance blog I follow. I would have ignored it but remembered you mentioning it in your post, so I read it and I am fascinated! How long have you been doing this? What have you noticed? Has it effected your cycle? Your life?
After using NFP to postpone conceiving for 2 years, we're gearing up to TTC in June! I'm really excited! My moontime is due in two days, and then we'll only have 4 more cycles of TTA. I want to order a folate supplement sometime this month so I can start it 3 months before we start trying. Goals that I have before June are to complete some specific chunks of school work, move to the next phase in my apprenticeship, get into a better household routine, and spend less time on the internet. So happy and excited to join a group of ladies who are waiting to TTC :)
Whew! I'm going to have to be diligent if I want to keep up with you gals!
Mama2, I never heard moontime either but my cycle was always synched up to the moon. I would ovulate on the full moon fairly regularly and both my boys were born within a few days of a full moon. I would only admit it to you all but my cycle is NOT synched up with the full moon anymore and that makes me feel weird. I feel like I won't be able to TTC until it's the same as it was when I conceived my first two. Does that sound totally wacky? I'm o'ing about a week before the full moon. My cycle length has been pretty regular since AF came back last summer at 31 days with O on day 20 ish. I'm thinking if my pattern holds, I'll get back to o'ing with the full moon in about 6 months or so. When I type this out, it sounds crazier than when I think it in my head.
And not having milk when I get pregnant is a very real concern for me too. My 20 month old still relies pretty heavily on the breast for nutrition. I lost my milk at 9 weeks with the last pregnancy and my older son weaned quickly after that. It makes me sad to think about my big nursling losing the milk :(
Thinking about you 3lilchunklins. How goes the 2ww? Are you getting close to AF, yet?
I feel like I am officially the worst TTAer EVER!! I just can't do it. I finally caught on to the OPKs and caught a surge in LH. Yay! Then I told DH and that made him excited (a little too excited)...and I gave in. So so willingly gave in. SO, I guess despite all of my awesome plans, we are now not TTA until better time. I guess it is good to know thyself, or whatever, and just accept that while we are fertile, we are irresponsible and just let our hormones run the show. Sheesh.
Let me tell you though that I am in admiration of those who wait as long as they see practical. I've been getting inspiration from you all, but it just doesn't stand up to my hunky hubby. What can I say?