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Wanting But Waiting 2014

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Originally Posted by SnowDrifter View Post

I second the not being able to keep up. Hello to everyone I haven't met yet.

Odalisque, if you don't mind me asking how old are you? I'm also waiting on my first and my hubby just started a four year online course for a business degree.
He's tentatively asked if I want to wait until he's done school before we have our first but that's just way too long for me. I just turned 28 this past December. Which already feels old to be having a first.

I am 25, turning 26 in May. Most of my friends aren't even married and think I'm crazy for wanting to be a mom now but it's really all I've ever wanted! I would have gotten pregnant at 22 if my life had been in order then. I'm sure I have time and it's more responsible to get out of the crappy position we're in now, but it's hard!


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Hey y'all! So much going on here! Girl can't step away for too long! I'm sending general good vibes to all of you!

A question, do you ladies find that your first few postpartum cycles are wonky? I ask because I had my first ppaf on January 5, have had no obvious signs of ovulation, and am missing my moontime!! Thoughts? Experiences?

I am in the process of instituting the lunaception system, and will be adding the light to my room on Thursday, Friday, and Saturday, which I'm hoping will trigger ovulation... maybe my uterus just really wants to be in rhythm with the lunar cycles??

While we wait to ttc, my husband and I have been working through some art projects to process or sons birth and plan for the next, so having assignments to complete makes the waiting easier, while the constant taking about it makes it harder!!
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Anyone ever tried bajos (vaginal steams)?
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My first few PP cycles are definitely wacky! The first one lasted like 46 days with a very short LP, and ovulating was like a major crisis on my body. I geared up to O quite a few times before it actually happened and when it did oh man! I always feel it but that time it was SO painful! It hurt for a whole day (even my butt hurt from it!). Then my cycles gradually got shorter while my LP gradually lengthened. Now I'm pretty regular back to 26 days with a LP of 12 days ... HTH
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Hey there Mama2CL, I have not heard of bajos. what is it for...actually, I'll probably look it up. Well, this is my 3rd PPAF and so far they all have been crazy, the 1st was spotting for a few days but no other symptoms, the 2nd was so intense I had pg symptoms(!!!) which has never happened before and was exactly 28 days after the first, and this one AF hasn't arrived yet but is due in 6 days approx. and I am having similar symptoms as last time (nausea, crampy, starving...) so IDK, but I can't wait to normalize so that I can TELL when I am expecting AF and when I am pg, like I have in the past. This transition is just confusing for me. But I am wicked lucky that I am not pregnant yet (although it is not from being responsible :) ) because the longer I can hold off the better for all--May!

 

So, I DK about your missing moontime but I know it is quite common to have very weird cycles for a bit, sometimes lasting for several months. Has DS increased nursing by any chance? I've heard that can really mess with PPAF sometimes.


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I'm driving myself insane! I keep going in circles, there's no way I could be! But I must be there's too many signs for it to be a coincedence! No it most definitely is just all a coincedence... I'm going crazy!!!
And haven't been nauseous today at all, but I have been exhausted, but I do have a cold so it could just be from that.. who knows?!
Now I have to decide if I'm gonna use my other test on Thursday morning or stick it out and see if AF shows up on Friday, tough call
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Chunklins, I say wait it out. You will not regret waiting for the ultimate sign (missing AF) and not wasting a test. If this test is Neg and you still have a window for false neg, you will be feeling worse and will have to wait anyway. So why not choose to wait?

 

It is only a few days anyway. Until then, you could just resign to either live in limbo or behave as if you are pregnant so that there is no anxiety over whether to drink or have coffee or whatever, if that is part of the issue. Some months (like when I actually think I am pg) I go by that advice but sometimes just ignore it and go about my regular business. This month, I am moving on, doing my thing. Last month was so shocking that I don't want that to happen again. So I'm not letting it get the best of me. That doesn't mean I'm not wasting some time thinking about it, daydreaming or preparing myself in case this is it, but I'm just not getting worked up to a fever pitch, KWIM?

 

I hope you can find some calm today and do something nice for yourself. Remember the reality of pregnancy is far from the daydream. It feels crappy a lot of times, even in the best of circumstances. Maybe take this time to appreciate feeling pretty normal!


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Thank you writer! I was kinda thinking I should wait... plus if it is pos I'm gonna give it to DH in one of those tiny heart boxes for Valentine's and I'd like it to be nice and dark.
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3lil, I love the valentines gift idea smile.gif
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My chart is looking triphastic. I went from 98.3 to 98.8 Tomorrow is the moment of truth!
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Wayworn and chunklins, we have babies almost the same age. My ds3 will be 11 mo next week. Chunklins, I am sending you positive thoughts and I hope whatever the outcome that you are happy with it and have a good v day with dh.

 

Wayworn, I'm curious about your monitor giving a false positive...is it like an opk that detects lh? I am curious about getting a pos for lh surge but not ovulating. I am new to gadgetry, so forgive my ignorance 😉 Do you chart temps? How did you know you didn't ovulate?

 

Snow day today, so enjoying time with family inside and will play in the snow later. I am now probably 8 dpo based on opk, and feeling normal, not af-ish, not pg. Only peering every 30 min and very tired from not sleeping much for a few days now. Oh, and pinching ovary pains...thinking I have a painful luteal cyst. So all good here. I am really happy not be having an extreme symptom cycle right now.


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Hope everyone is having a great week. I'm already dying for February to be over. It's been pretty rough so far.

I can't seem to manage to get enough sleep so I'm grumpy and waspish. Things just feel out of wack. Stress maybe. Who knows.
Trying my darnedest to be happy today cause it's our four year anniversary and I want it to be a nice night.

Odalisque, I go through bouts of wishing I had a baby earlier in my life. Somedays 28 seems really old for a first sometime it feels way to young.
Hoping things go well for you on smoothing out a little.
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Happy anniversary! orngbiggrin.gif
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@odalisque I'm 24 years old and will be 25 in late May. We had our first when I was 23, which in hindsight seems young! But it's not something I'll regret. I hope to have at least 3 more babies, would like at least 21+ months between each one (due to PP depression), and I'd very much like to be done child rearing by age 50.

@writer I'm not sure? Lol- I follow Marquette postpartum monitor only method, which uses the Clearblue EasyFertility monitor (measures LH and estrogen). the protocol for nursing mums is to test every other day, abstaining on high read days until (a) you get a peak read, at which you abstain P+3 more days or (b) you reach day 20 of the artificial cycle, which is when you reset and re trigger a new "cycle", starting it at Day 5 (the monitor asks for a test every other day starting Day 6, then every day after a high/peak read). I'm not sure why I've been getting false highs. but they are indeed false, as they haven't led to peak reads or the return of menses, nor are they accompanied by fertile mucous. *shrugs*
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Thank you Chunklins ^.^
Going out for dinner and a movie. And staying in tomorrow. Lol. Seems to work out very well this way.
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Um, Sh!t, ya'll. Panicking a little. I just got a big (tmi) squirt of blood tinged mucous, like bright red but the first bit that leaked was clear. I am waiting to see if this is a very early AF or...


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What CD and DPO are u on???

When is AF due?
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I am on CD25 or 26 (depending on how you look at CD 1--I began spotting at night on Cd 1 and had full blown AF next day), and I usually have a 28 day cycle but before DS3 ranged from 27-30 days. And it's roughly 8 dpo based on + opk. Maybe an early AF since it is only my 3rd pp cycle. IDK. I was not feeling like AF AT ALL today, except a little before spotting I almost broke down watching Cast Away and got really snappy with DS1. :( poor guy. I am lightly cramping now, but had very pinchy cramp on my right ovary area yest and today, weird that I feel it there, I am missing that tube so maybe a cyst?


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Maybe implantation?
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Happy anniversary snow!

Writer have you ever had implantation spotting before? I didn't think it was that common so maybe it is just early AF.

I took my baby for her 6 month check up today, it is crazy how fast the time goes.
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Phew, relieved. Early AF. And I am determined to wait. I must find a way. I can overcome. I am not a captive to my hormones. And breastfeeding ds3 is really important to me so I have to keep that in my mind.  Happy V day ladies.


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My temp plummeted this morning, way down to 97.4 so there's no way. AF is on the way. My high temps must have been due to a virus I'm fighting off. I really got caught up in the game of symptom spotting this month! Its all good though, I want to let LO get to be a baby while he still is one. And I *really* don't want another winter baby, so I really must control myself and aim for a spring baby orngbiggrin.gif
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Glad it worked out for you Chunklins. I have taken this as a warning to me that I am NOT ready...since I felt a bit of dread and guilt when I thought it might be it. So not ready. So I must be diligent now and wait until I am. :)


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Yea that's where I'm at too. Its funny we both got AF on the same day
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Writer, chunklin, I'm glad things have worked out the way you wanted them too, sorry you get to celebrate valentines day with AF.
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Thanks Katydid, I don't know what to say--early AF was light for one day and then stopped. I still don't expect AF until Monday, so...huh. Weird. I think all my back and forth and up and down is just hormonal junk...because right now I'm feeling at peace with whichever way it turns out. Yay! I actually kinds hope it is a baby! Weird huh since I was relieved when I thought it was AF. But whatever, hormones rock my boat right now. LOL.


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Yes, its insanity! I was a little disappointed that I wasn't. DH was like "well if you want another one *that* bad we can make it happen" Well very tempting offer... I really don't want another winter baby tho, and all the issues about LO4 still nursing and stuff makes now not ideal, but very very tempting!!

Writer I'll keep my fingers crossed for ya!
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BFN this morning and honestly I don' feel pg. I think it is just a wonky cycle. I recall something similar happening pp with DS2 and I was very certain that such a weird period had to signal IB, but it wasn't. is was wonky. I got pg for real the following cycle with DS3 :) So with that experience under my belt, I am not hoping. And I will be cautious NEXT cycle to watch out, because it might be the fertile one. Chunklins, your DH sounds like mine right now, but I explained that I need more help from him to wait til May or beyond as I just can't fight my O hormones. He gets it more now, that when I am all over him, that doesn't mean that he should believe that I want to make a baby right now, just metaphorically *make a baby*...KWIM?


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Well I'm glad for you if your glad for you :P


My AF has been intense this month, No wonder I thought I was pregnant, everything has been super exaggerated for some reason. I don't know why, its really strange how AF can vary so much from month to month.
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How many cycle PP is this for you Chunklins? Maybe your body is still trying to regulate?

 

I have not had many experiences with strange cycles, my body usually kinda picks up where it left off--usually. This time PP has been weird. But normal weird. Since other people can have a lot of variation in cycles, I think it is normal for women in general, just not for me. Spotting again. And still feeling a little hormonal. Chunklins, funny that I had a cycle like that last time! Super exaggerated. I hope you start to feel better soon. How are you going to try to *wait* next O? Do you have a good TTC month in mind?


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