I am 25, turning 26 in May. Most of my friends aren't even married and think I'm crazy for wanting to be a mom now but it's really all I've ever wanted! I would have gotten pregnant at 22 if my life had been in order then. I'm sure I have time and it's more responsible to get out of the crappy position we're in now, but it's hard!
Hey there Mama2CL, I have not heard of bajos. what is it for...actually, I'll probably look it up. Well, this is my 3rd PPAF and so far they all have been crazy, the 1st was spotting for a few days but no other symptoms, the 2nd was so intense I had pg symptoms(!!!) which has never happened before and was exactly 28 days after the first, and this one AF hasn't arrived yet but is due in 6 days approx. and I am having similar symptoms as last time (nausea, crampy, starving...) so IDK, but I can't wait to normalize so that I can TELL when I am expecting AF and when I am pg, like I have in the past. This transition is just confusing for me. But I am wicked lucky that I am not pregnant yet (although it is not from being responsible :) ) because the longer I can hold off the better for all--May!
So, I DK about your missing moontime but I know it is quite common to have very weird cycles for a bit, sometimes lasting for several months. Has DS increased nursing by any chance? I've heard that can really mess with PPAF sometimes.
Chunklins, I say wait it out. You will not regret waiting for the ultimate sign (missing AF) and not wasting a test. If this test is Neg and you still have a window for false neg, you will be feeling worse and will have to wait anyway. So why not choose to wait?
It is only a few days anyway. Until then, you could just resign to either live in limbo or behave as if you are pregnant so that there is no anxiety over whether to drink or have coffee or whatever, if that is part of the issue. Some months (like when I actually think I am pg) I go by that advice but sometimes just ignore it and go about my regular business. This month, I am moving on, doing my thing. Last month was so shocking that I don't want that to happen again. So I'm not letting it get the best of me. That doesn't mean I'm not wasting some time thinking about it, daydreaming or preparing myself in case this is it, but I'm just not getting worked up to a fever pitch, KWIM?
I hope you can find some calm today and do something nice for yourself. Remember the reality of pregnancy is far from the daydream. It feels crappy a lot of times, even in the best of circumstances. Maybe take this time to appreciate feeling pretty normal!
Wayworn and chunklins, we have babies almost the same age. My ds3 will be 11 mo next week. Chunklins, I am sending you positive thoughts and I hope whatever the outcome that you are happy with it and have a good v day with dh.
Wayworn, I'm curious about your monitor giving a false positive...is it like an opk that detects lh? I am curious about getting a pos for lh surge but not ovulating. I am new to gadgetry, so forgive my ignorance 😉 Do you chart temps? How did you know you didn't ovulate?
Snow day today, so enjoying time with family inside and will play in the snow later. I am now probably 8 dpo based on opk, and feeling normal, not af-ish, not pg. Only peering every 30 min and very tired from not sleeping much for a few days now. Oh, and pinching ovary pains...thinking I have a painful luteal cyst. So all good here. I am really happy not be having an extreme symptom cycle right now.
Um, Sh!t, ya'll. Panicking a little. I just got a big (tmi) squirt of blood tinged mucous, like bright red but the first bit that leaked was clear. I am waiting to see if this is a very early AF or...
I am on CD25 or 26 (depending on how you look at CD 1--I began spotting at night on Cd 1 and had full blown AF next day), and I usually have a 28 day cycle but before DS3 ranged from 27-30 days. And it's roughly 8 dpo based on + opk. Maybe an early AF since it is only my 3rd pp cycle. IDK. I was not feeling like AF AT ALL today, except a little before spotting I almost broke down watching Cast Away and got really snappy with DS1. :( poor guy. I am lightly cramping now, but had very pinchy cramp on my right ovary area yest and today, weird that I feel it there, I am missing that tube so maybe a cyst?
Phew, relieved. Early AF. And I am determined to wait. I must find a way. I can overcome. I am not a captive to my hormones. And breastfeeding ds3 is really important to me so I have to keep that in my mind. Happy V day ladies.
Glad it worked out for you Chunklins. I have taken this as a warning to me that I am NOT ready...since I felt a bit of dread and guilt when I thought it might be it. So not ready. So I must be diligent now and wait until I am. :)
Thanks Katydid, I don't know what to say--early AF was light for one day and then stopped. I still don't expect AF until Monday, so...huh. Weird. I think all my back and forth and up and down is just hormonal junk...because right now I'm feeling at peace with whichever way it turns out. Yay! I actually kinds hope it is a baby! Weird huh since I was relieved when I thought it was AF. But whatever, hormones rock my boat right now. LOL.
BFN this morning and honestly I don' feel pg. I think it is just a wonky cycle. I recall something similar happening pp with DS2 and I was very certain that such a weird period had to signal IB, but it wasn't. is was wonky. I got pg for real the following cycle with DS3 :) So with that experience under my belt, I am not hoping. And I will be cautious NEXT cycle to watch out, because it might be the fertile one. Chunklins, your DH sounds like mine right now, but I explained that I need more help from him to wait til May or beyond as I just can't fight my O hormones. He gets it more now, that when I am all over him, that doesn't mean that he should believe that I want to make a baby right now, just metaphorically *make a baby*...KWIM?
How many cycle PP is this for you Chunklins? Maybe your body is still trying to regulate?
I have not had many experiences with strange cycles, my body usually kinda picks up where it left off--usually. This time PP has been weird. But normal weird. Since other people can have a lot of variation in cycles, I think it is normal for women in general, just not for me. Spotting again. And still feeling a little hormonal. Chunklins, funny that I had a cycle like that last time! Super exaggerated. I hope you start to feel better soon. How are you going to try to *wait* next O? Do you have a good TTC month in mind?