DH and I are trying to decide what to do for birth control now. Our DD is nearly 3 and DS is nearly 6 mo. I'm 36, DH is 42. He's 100% done having kids and I am 99.99% done...suspect that .01% comes from "maternal fairydust"/hormones stemming from currently having a cuddly baby around. DH is all for a vasectomy, but my doctor recommends I get an IUD instead. That recommendation probably comes from his work in a fertility clinic and knowing how difficult it would be if we changed our minds.
Our previous method of charting temperatures isn't an option because I don't have my period yet and I'm still up several times a night with DS which disrupts my temperature. But I am not willing to risk having a surprise pregnancy because we somehow "caught the first egg". (DS was pretty much egg number two last time and we were surprised!)
In any case, I'm not very comfortable with the idea of an IUD for many reasons- mostly because I don't like the idea of something stuck in my body like that and the weird things it could do. I also have a heart shaped uterus and from my own research the IUD could be less effective because of this (position could get wonky). I actually was scheduled for Mirena insertion today but I cancelled. I'm the type that doesn't like anything foreign in my body be it hormones, copper, or spermicide.
But something is holding me back about the vasectomy- maybe that I just don't trust myself to make such a huge decision right now.
Our family is pretty much perfect, and I am so thankful that the kids are healthy. I was a little nervous with both pregnancies that something would go wrong, and that nervousness would only increase as I get older. DH is being patient and understanding, even though I think he doesn't quite get my hesitation on the vasectomy. Oh, and he's not a fan of condoms.