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#1 of 3 Old 04-22-2014, 08:59 AM - Thread Starter
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Hello All,


I have been reading posts on this site for a long time, but this is my first post here.  Hoping to get an objective opinion. 


My husband and I have two sons, ages 6 and 7(almost 8).  We have been talking about going for #3 for the past 4 years, but decided to wait because we figured we had time (DH is now 35, I am 31).  I stayed home with my boys for 5 years (best 5 years of my life :)), and have been back to work full time for the past 2 years.  DH was concerned about our finances, but has finally agreed that he would be happy to go for # 3.  Our relationship is great, and we are happier than we ever have been and our kids make us so happy.  Of course, I was super excited when he agreed to go for it, but then I started to think, Do I really want to go through it all again?  My sons would be 7 and almost 9 when the baby arrives, is that too big of an age gap?  Am I going to miss out on things with my older kids to take care of #3?  My instinct is to go for it, I would love nothing more than to wake up to another beautiful little face every morning, and just have another person in the family to love, talk to, take care of, and enjoy.  I just worry about all the practical stuff, having enough living space, money, vacations as a family of 5. 


If you have read this far, thanks you!  Any opinions would be helpful!  Much appreciated! 

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Welcome to Mothering Ashley1229! I had a discussion about this with some other moms recently. Someone suggested that you think about how many children that you would like to have when you are 60. Yes, there is a lot of practical stuff to think about when having a new baby and dealing with the newborn and childhood years, but when you look back later, how many children would you like to have had?

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Thanks so much for your response, great advice!

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