I know what you mean.
I was on the pill on and off for about 5 years. I've never had any complications from it.
I initially stopped because I was spooked about health problems after the HRT stories came out, I thought, well, it's the same hormones, etc. But, then, a biologist actually explained the difference to me, when a woman is cycling vs. post menopausal and the effect of the hormones. Then I read the most comprehensive study on the bcp, and felt much better. I STILL am glad I stopped though, because the bcp made me feel numb. I was less responsive emotionally to things and I wasn't in the mood for sex, at ALL. I swear that's why bcps work.
SO, Ive been off of them for over a year and a half now and I feel better.
I'm reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility. DH will be reading it right after I'm finished. We're using condoms for the time being. I've also used sponges, but, I don't like the smell of them, and I hate all of that spermicide in my body.
I used a VCF, vaginal contraceptive film, once before, but, I think they're pretty useless, they're impossible to insert properly. I have a friend who uses IUDs and swears by them, but, only after a baby.
I strongly recommend reading the Taking Charge of your Fertility book, it's very informative and empowering.
For those of you who use the NFP as explained in this book, DOES IT WORK??
I'd love to have sex without a condom, but, I don't want a baby right now. I'm hoping that in two years we can have one.... it depends on DH finishing school and landing a job so I can stay home and we can buy some land.