I once told a friend that I wanted children, and her dh was right there, and asked outright how much money we were making, and whether we'd be able to support one. I told him, and he got all mad at me, that we wouldn't be able to support a kid, and that "You shouldn't have kids until you can afford them!" WTF?? All I said was that I wanted one, not that I was going to try for one! But even if I was TTC, first of all, it's none of his business, and second of all, if I made a conscious decision to bring a child into the world, the child would be well cared for, even if we didn't have a lot of money! *mind boggles* I know it's different when it's family, but seriously, it's not their business what your immediate family does.