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I am glad I found this board. I need help. I desperately want 3 kids, we currently have 2 (ages 4 and 18 mo, both girls.) DH says we are done. He doesn't really have any "solid" reasons, other than the practical ones (like more money, sooner we can get out of baby mode, better vacations, etc). I, on the other hand, have about as good as reasons as one can get --We each have small families--only have single bothers and my girls won't have any cousins, aunts, etc. We have a big house, we can provide for another child, I stay home anyway, so there won't be add'l daycare. While a boy would be nice, three girls would be GREAT too, so we wouldn't be heartbroken if we didn't get a boy.
Please help. I read on another board it's like mourning the child you have never had and that's so true. When he brings up things like being able to go on family vacations sooner, I feel depressed and don't even want to go on them w/out our third kid. And if he gets a vasectomy w/out telling me, I will be ticked, but if I get pg (we are currently NFP), he will think I "tricked him".
I think I can still convince him, b/c he's not super adamant about it. If you have been in this situation, please help!