I've never posted here before, but I've had a thought weighing on my mind lately and need a few pointers in the right direction. I have decided that I am done having kids for quite a few years, or done, period. I'm not interested in abstinance, and I'm not interested in hormonal birth control. Neither Dh nor I are interested in permanent surgeries, etc. I really, really would be devastated if I got pregnant in the next 5-10 years+, so I need to find something VERY reliable and something I can depend upon doing easily. I've looked into the copper IUD, and into the Lady-Comp. I need something easy, and portable (computer software wouldn't work for me). I've looked at the pros and cons of using something IN my body, and using a system to watch my body. Of course the IUD sounds appealing because it's almost brainless, but I'm not sure I'd like to bleed more, and will I actually enjoy having something IN my body??
Any advice, tips, pointers, systems/brands anyone could recommend?? I would really, really appreciate it!
So I am relying heavy on my D.
I have thought seriously about an IUD, a copper of course, because I don't like the idea of hormones..not even local ones.
Thanks so much!
Good luck with your decision.
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Barbara: an always learning SAHM of Ilana (11) and Aiden (8) living in Belgium with my amazing husband.
I'm not sure what we'll go with after this baby. I'd like to avoid anything hormonal but we seem to be pretty "fertile" so I'm thinking that I'd end up preggo again right away. My dh is willing to have a vasectomy for his 40th birthday so we may have two more by then LOL. Good luck
My mw really likes her Mirena so I did a google search and scared myself.
Way to many possible side affects for my liking.
Never in my whole life did I ever think I would consider, but I am glad I did. I have been NFP for over 5 years and am very happy, feel very fulfilled as a mother/wife that I stayed true to my feelings/beliefs for so long. But now my feelings have definately changed now that I am done having children maybe for good. Our sex life is amazing because i am not longer parranoid and stressed every month.
Just so everyone is clear though, I have extremely irregular cycles and am very very fertile! And I am not preaching against natural methods. If you can do it without the stress, then it is really great. But I am so glad I got the Mirena. I was not going to take oral BC, surgery is out of the question. I am not ready to end my fertility but NFP was not working. I feel like my whole life has gotten better now that I have something reliable. I literally feel like a different person/mother/wife now that my number one stress has been lifted.
I think everyone has to do what they believe in. I believe in NFP, and we did it for over 5 years, but now I need something more and I am glad I did it and I have no guilt/dissapointment.
Good luck with your decision.
Are there other options other than an IUD, barrier methods, and hormones? I mean aside from abstinance (I was sure we'd use that after my daughter's birth ... hehehehe )
Jenna ~ mommy to Sophia Elise (1/06), Oliver Matthew (7/07) and Avery Michael (3/10)
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My husband has repeatedly offered to get a vasectomy. I said "fine, but I'm not getting rid of my IUD!"
The lack of real periods is fan-friggen-tastic!
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I went in to get the copper Paraguard IUD but they talked me into the Mirena for the same reasons you are considering. It was painful to have inserted (I hadn't had any children yet) and they had to take it out less than a month later because I never stoped bleeding, I had a friend who recently had hers taken out after a year because of constant break through bleeding also, but then some people's bodies work well with it. hth a little!
Uh. look at my siggy I was done ,too after having my son. We contimplated sterelization, but decided it wasn't right for us since *I* wasn't ready to commit to never having another child. NFP is what we used to concieve our son and I couldn't understand how I ended up pregnant to begin with so i figured NFP wasn't the way to go for birth control. I got the Mirena , and yes it is *supposed* to be localized to the uterus, but after 6 mos, I started having severe depression issues, and I just knew it was the hormone in that IUD because I knew( I researched throughly,after I had it inserted) there was a 26% chance that it affected women who had the Mirena. I had it removed and we did the pull and pray method for several months, but i was afraid we'd have a slip up. So I got the Paragard, and the first 2 periods were EXTREMELY painful. 3 and 4 were pretty regular , though longish, and number 5 never came because that egg got fertilized and implanted. So for me it was a no win situation and sterelization is next on our list~