Balancing parenting + work, especially in the afternoons
I'm curious how you Balance it all - parenting + work?!
I've been a WAHM (I am full-time employed, but my company is 2500 miles away) for 4yrs, but I'm a trainer so my kiddo has been in preschool or with family.
Until this year...he's in school which ends at 3pm. And it's Kind-of working... get him home and established with a snack and activity and I'm back to the "office". I don't have any trainings after 3pm so it's just emails and communications.
Except for the first time in 4yrs, I'm having to say NO him a lot... No, I can't hang out with you, No I can't play with you, No, no no... because I'm at work.
And it's Awful.
And it's hurting him.
While it's kind-of working, technically, it's not actually working.
It's sad. It's breaking his heart (and mine). Mom is choosing this computer-thing over him. I see it in his eyes, and I think it's having some affect on his personality overall.. he's becoming more aggressive, more Needy with me.... I Need you to get me a snack, instead of wanting to do it himself, because he just wants me with him. I mean, of course! I get it!
I've toggled with the idea of ending work at 3pm and working at nights after he goes to sleep. But that means a full TWO hours of work every night, IF I could even swing it. Because I work in software, even if I'm not training after 3pm, I'm still on the books as an employee and needed to handle support emails. There's not a ton of work for me between 8-10pm, even if I wanted it.
Or I could just cut my hours by 10hrs a week, but the paycheck is kinda necessary since I'm a single mom.
Or after-care, of course. But that's money and almost more than the loss of 10hrs of work. Oh, I just don't know.
I have always been good about putting the laptop Down at 5-6pm and really focusing on him at night. But it's those 2hrs in the afternoon that I need help with.
Curious what you've found to balance your life. Maybe a timer and I can break every 30 minutes? Or maybe I can go a completely different route and set up his own computer right next to mine and we can "work" together? I'm willing to try anything.
Thanks for pondering...
single, WAH home, to my only very kind & sweet lil man