|View Poll Results: Are you having (did you have) an ultrasound?|
|No, we did not (will not) have one||29||43.94%|
|Yes, to monitor high risk pregnancy||10||15.15%|
|Yes, for fun||6||9.09%|
|Yes, for fun... and have found out (hope to find out) boy/girl||21||31.82%|
|Voters: 66. You may not vote on this poll|
We have our ultrasound appointment already made with the OB for next week, but have decided to see a MW and have a homebirth. She said it's up to us if we still want to have the ultrasound... We were basically only having it because our OB schedules them for all his patients around 20 weeks...
Seems as though the natural thing to do would be just leave the baby be... it is what I always imagined I'd do...
But on the other hand it would be fun to see and have the pictures, and economical to know boy/girl to clearance shop right now for next winter...
Wanta share your thoughts either way with me?? tia...
mommy to baby on the way 5/26
And unless we need an ultrasound for some diagnostic reason (to determine the cause of bleeding, pattern of slow growth, etc.) we are not planning on having one. They are quite overused and even their use as a diagnostic tool is questionable depending on who you talk to. I don't need to see my baby on an ultrasound screen to know they are growing inside my belly.
just my thoughts...
mama-to-be in late spring 2004!
p.s. We are working with homebirth midwives and all testing is offered on an informed choice basis.
We are being very specific and telling the u/s techs that we DO NOT want to know the gender. So far, the one at the 18 week u/s thought it was great not to find out and the 3-D tech I spoke with on the phone loved my reasoning so much she asked if she could quote me on it! I had explained to her, "One of my friends has had four babies. When she was preggers with her 3rd, I asked her if she was finding out the gender. Her reply was, 'No! It makes you push harder if you don't know!'"
I had one initially for dating purposes (my midwife can only deliver up to 42 weeks, so it was important to me to have an accurate date). The u/s didn't reveal anything other than an empty gestational sac, so I had to have another one to confirm (we did see the baby with a beating heart). And I will probably have another one around 20 weeks, but not just "for fun".
I respect every woman's right to choose regarding u/s. Some people don't feel comfortable with them, and that is fine with me. I, on the other hand, want to know if my baby has any significant abnormalities that would show up with an u/s. So for me, it's more than fun. (Although it is fun to see the baby.)
For us, the benefit of having one diagnostic u/s at 20 weeks outweighed any potential risk factors of u/s. We also had some good friends that had a baby's kidney problem diagnosed in utero, and the info was very helpful to them at birth.
And yes, it IS fun to see the baby on the screen! OTOH, I completely agree with not having one.
Even though we had the u/s, we still did not find out the sex of our child until the birth. It added to the excitement, I thought.
Also, both times of the ultrasound, the babe in my womb tried constantly to move away from the ultrasound equip, a sign to me that it is very uncomfortable to be blasted with the sound. Even the doppler is a form of ultra sound and I feel is used way too much. Too invasive imo.
I didn’t find out the sex and next time will make a bigger effort to avoid the procedure.
BUT, if I have an ultrasound with another child I would consider finding out the sex.
For me, I think it would help with bonding and when my daughter was born, I could have cared less what the sex was. I thought not knowing would add this big element of “surprise” to the birth…but the birth alone was more than enough of a surprise! LOL!
Edited to add: I see you are a new mama! Congrats!
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AP, Homeschooling, Part-Time working mom with 3 rambunctious boys all born with love at home. (04 & 08 & 12).
I'm not planning on having one this time. I have NO interest in finding out the sex. Last time I was so eager to know. I want to be surprised this time. I also don't "need" a photo, much less a 3D one. Besides, regular ultrasounds are so black and grainy... it's hard to "enjoy." And the 3D ones are just plain creepy - to me.
Last time I had one (went along with everything without questions) and they said it was to check that everything was developing properly. That sounded fine to me.
Regrets? None really. They did make a video tape of it for us and perhaps the only regret was that PERHAPS the technician (who was very well regarded by the OB and was great) spent a wee bit too much time peeking. I don't think she did... but MAYBE she did because she was videotaping. I don't know.
So perhaps one option is... OK... if you need it... look, but don't linger too long just in case there ARE issues with unknown side-effects.
Anyway, this time, unless there is a medical NEED for it (or history like Darshani's case where there is concern) then sure. But I don't see that now.
I was talking to my SIL and she did not have one 13 yrs ago for her son. Back then, it was not "routine" (and only recommended under certain cases) the way it is today. Interesting.
5.5 - girl
Also, I have read reports that very early ultrasounds (now used to diagnose pregnancy! sheesh!) have caused tiny bubbles (cavitation) in cardiac cells of chicks. I think it's the Heisenberg Principle that says you cannot observe a situation without changing it? Well, unless there's something like bleeding or fetal distress, I don't want to be changing my baby's situation!
I did have diagnostic u/s on two of my babies due to midwives thinking I was carrying twins, but each time there was only one. Never looked at the sex... I think it's a privilege to meet your baby when it arrives, all at once. But I'm one of those wierdos that think you should meet your baby before you pick out a name for him, too.
So I'd add another choice on your list: Only in a medical emergency, otherwise leave well enough alone!
|Originally posted by klsabin
But I'm one of those wierdos that think you should meet your baby before you pick out a name for him, too.
I don't have the u/s "just for fun" or "just to find out the gender", I have one for basic diagnostics and if we happen to be able to tell the gender we want to know. After much research about u/s safety I feel confident that an occasional u/s is not harmful.
Having worked in L&D and NICU (as a touchy feely social worker), my greatest fear is having my baby wisked off for some unknown problem, having my dh go with the baby and me laying in my bed all alone, not able to go to the nursery (still have a placenta to deliver, which might take awhile) and nobody telling me if my baby is going to live or die. If, by u/s I know that there may be a repairable problem then I am prepared for the baby leaving the room. If we know the baby has spina bifida, we can schedule a c-section. If I know there is an anomoly that is incompatible with life I can say, "Don't take her. We want her to be with us for whatever moments of life she has."
|For me, I think it would help with bonding and when my daughter was born, I could have cared less what the sex was. I thought not knowing would add this big element of “surprise” to the birth…but the birth alone was more than enough of a surprise! LOL!|
At the birth, I'm tired, I'm hurting, still cramping and waiting an eternity for that blessed placenta to come out, trying to get a baby to latch on to my breast. We still had so many "surprises" the gender was the least of it. We could focus on the fact that Lars had this amazing blonde hair and a big ol' dimple in his chin just like my dh and he cried real tears from the minute he was born.
-Alice, SAHM to dd (2001) and ds (2004) each of whom was a , who each self-weaned at 4.5 years , who both 'd, who were both, and both: . Also, , and !
We are having our first (and hopefully only) u/s on Wednesday (at 18 weeks). We opted to have an anatomical survey. I have a family history of spina bifida...I would like very much to see our baby's spine and make sure it is developing properly.
We would like very much to know our baby's gender but I have been meditating and talking to the baby and letting the baby know that it's his/her choice...if s/he prefers not to make the information available we are fine with that. :LOL
It's funny...our decision to have and u/s and especially to find out the gender has been largely criticized by friends, some of my yoga students, co-workers and a few random people in the grocery store who just like to spout of their opinion apparently. :
I was talking to my mom about it and she said...well Erin...I think people are just really surprised. It doesn't seem to "fit" with you (yoga teacher, doula) and your cloth diapering, co-sleeping etc.
I've been thinking about that a lot and I think it just goes to show that there is no exact formula for AP or natural parenting. We are making an informed decision that feels like the best decision for us and our baby....just as many of you - who do not have u/s - are making the decision that feels best for you and your baby.
As far as finding out the gender...we would like to experience future pregnancies not knowing the gender...but for this pregnancy...we would REALLY like to know (and despite some of my co-workers criticism...it's not about wanting to buy gender-specific "stuff" or making a girly or boyish nursery 'cause we're not doin' that). We feel SO strongly that we are having a girl...and nearly EVERYONE who has expressed an opinion has said it's a girl...I've almost slipped into taking it as a given. If we are in fact having a boy...we wil be thrilled...but I need to do a little re-programming of my thinking.
Anyway...sorry to be so wordy.
With both my dd I have had ultrasounds and I choose to have them because I felt like I need to know that they were O.K.
With this dd I had an ultrasound at 20wks. and they found a clorid plexi cyst on her head. That is a marker for trisomy 18 that was the only marker she had,but it was enough to scare and worry myself and dh to tears.
It took me a while to feel confident that this babe is O.K. and still have my brief doubts of her health. But my heart says she is very healthy.
That being said ultrasound is just a tool that tells you the possibilties of something being wrong with your child. Like everything else it is no gurantee.Just my 2cents.
It is a very personal decision and you need to find what works best for you.
I think that the data shows that u.s. were meant initiallly to be only used when a problem existed or had high probobility and then became routine when doctors saw it could give them more power to control the situations. this may sound cynical and negative but I sincerely believe this is what has happened in most cases and that control is usually false and often leads to more intervention. I have learned one thing in mothering and that is that control is something to be very wary of . Mothering is crazy and wild and not to be controlled. Plus all this medicalizing and control doesnt lend itself to the most precious exercise of intuiting.
It wasn't an easy decision though. And it still isn't.
I think I've definitely made the right decision b/c I haven't even worried about not having the u/s, even just to see everything else! Really mull it over before you decide. I'm glad I did b/c the urge to know DID indeed pass.
As for the sex, I never felt it was the grand moment that people made it out to be. When I had my babies, I didn't really care the sex, I just wanted to see that hte baby was okay. SO, it will be cool to see the sex early, we can plan and all that.
But it is a personal choice, I think with every pregnancy, there are different feelings...
Planning a homebirth after 1 emergency c-section and 1 unmedicated vbac.
"Look, honey, there are her little kidneys!"
We did decide to find out the gender, somewhat because we had made a bet - he won. His tears of joy when she said its a girl melted my heart.
I think having an ultrasound for our 1st pregnancy was not a bad thing at all, but now that we know what to expect and how quickly those 40 (well, 42.5 in my case) weeks fly by- despite morning sickness, backne, pelvic pressure, calf pain, and weight gain, we won't do it again- unless there is a concrete medical reason.
Evergreen- Loving my girls Dylan age8, Ava age 4 and baby Georgia (6/3/11).