Does anyone else try hard to avoid raw meat while they're pregnant? Obviously I don't eat it but I mean even handling it in the kitchen. My mom tonight took raw hamburgers out of a package and then used the package as a tray (without washing it) to bring things like cheese and hot dogs to the BBQ. She says it's fine because the cheese and hot dogs are still in packages but I just don't see it like that. Now any germs that were in that package are all over her hands and she's touching the food we're about to eat. I wasn't actually eating any of it tonight but it makes me wonder what she does in the kitchen the rest of the time. Anyway, my whole family got really mad at me for saying anything.
She also refuses to wash fruits and veggies and then tries to feed them to me and DS.
And lastly, would it bother you if someone wouldn't stop calling your child a nickname that you really didn't like? She keeps calling him my old cats name and it sounds so funny and weird to hear him called that. And i'm not mean about it, I just nicely ask her to stop.
So what do you think. Am I being too hard on her? Thanks for reading.
Unexpectedly expecting a new little one in November!!!
And as for the nickname... IDK, thats a tough one, but I would definetly be upset if someone couldn't stop calling DS something other than his name, especially when asked nicely!!
So yes, it would bother me.
DS1 Dec 2009 DZ Twins July 2012
Handling food in such a way is so dangerous, you could totally get food poisining.
If my mother called my kids my old cat's name I'd be sooooo annoyed and if she didn't stop after me asking her nicely, I would not be nice about it anymore, but that's just me!
Single Mom with a BF Mommy to 2 girls & 2 boys
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The nickname thing is a tough question. I remember reading a dear abbey column about that... wish I remembered what she said!
Peacefully married for ten years with one child (2009), one mutt and one entitled cat.
Jen, mom of two amazing girls, b. 2/16/06 and 1/29/10
People always complain about "stomach flu" and expect to get it now and then, but with good food handling practices we never get "stomach flu" in our house. I think cross-contamination from raw meats is the main culprit.
The nickname thing would bug me too.
Amy, wife to Paul 5/20/01, SAHM to Daniel 5/23/07, Claire 7/15/09, and Elaine 9/4/12
Unexpectedly expecting a new little one in November!!!
BUT, I am a fanatic about proper meat handling.
we have cutting boards for meat vs veggies. sponges for things that have touched raw meat (vs glasses for instance) the dogs have their own utensils & sponges, there is no touching of ANYTHING after touching meat other than water & soap. and after we prepare raw meat, the counters are bleached. EVERY SINGLE TIME.
I even use 2 spatulas or whatever the flipper things are called for grilling. One for when the meat is raw and one for when its pretty much done.
oddly enough, we've never had the "stomach flu" in our house (knock wood)
as far as her calling your child a nickname you disapprove of, I'd flip too. I'd give about 3 -4 chances reminding her firmly X is his name and then ban her from seeing the child for a bit. that would get through to her.
The nickname thing though--I would be more concerned about how your child feels about the nickname. If it's not an inappropriate name, and he doesn't mind, than I would let it go. You named your child, but you can't control what other people call him, or what he chooses to call himself. If he doesn't like it, he'll let her know as he gets older.
Mama to P. born at home 10/09, and W. born in the hospital 2/13
And the nickname thing is definitely annoying. It doesn't even sound like it is a shortened version of the kid's name, which would at least be understandable.
Katie - Married to Mike 06/02/01, Mom to Sydney Anne born 11/21/09 and Alice Maeryn & Oliver Thomas born 04/24/13
Nickname: MAKE HER STOP. That's so irritating!! My MIL used to call DD Squirt until I flipped out on her (I was having a bad day) and my mother got a lashing from calling DD Haley May. HER NAME IS NOT HALEY MAY. Her name is Haley. Her middle name is MABEL. Use it right or not at all. Sorry, having an emotional pregnant day today ...
Name--call HER a nickname you made up for her, like "Bootsy" or something equally as random. Address her by that name every time you can. Then act surprised when she asks you about it, "Oh, your name isn't Bootsy? That's the nickname I am calling you. I think it's cute." Then use that to segue into a conversation about how she should call your child the name you gave!!
This is, of course, after you've tried the direct approach, which by the sound of it probably won't work unfortunately.
http://www.fsis.usda.gov/Fact_Sheets...fety/index.asp (this one says 2x not to use the same platter for raw and cooked foods.)
Point out that certain kinds of food poisoning can cause miscarriage (listeria) or preterm labor.
Having information for her is different than it just being your opinion that it was unsafe.
As far as the name goes, just let her know you don't like it and that you expect to have your wishes as the mother respected. How would she feel if that had been done to her when she was raising her kids?
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