Here are some of my thoughts... For reference, I have a 2 yr old, and am expecting my second one in late October
1) Instead of receiving blankets and the different types of swaddling blankets, I'd ask for a set of Aden and Anais swaddling blankets. The regular swaddling blankets just turned out to be way too small to be useful for us.. The A&As are larger and you can get them in double layered
or single layered
, depending on the warmth needed. They are really soft, and much more versatile. If you find that your baby likes to be swaddled -- 'coz some babies don't! -- but can make his/her way out of the A&As as he/she grows, you can probably switch to the Miracle blanket, 'coz that seems to work the best in preventing that.
2) Same thing with the feeding bottles... I wouldn't buy a set of the same type of bottles, as you may realize that baby (or you!) have different preferences. Mine never took any type of bottle, though we tried different kinds by getting one of each type.
3) For the bucket seat, I agree that even though babies grow out of it too soon and whatnot, it is a great convenience to have for the first few months. They just fit better in it when they are wee, and it is wonderful to be able to carry them in it for a bit if they fall asleep in the car. I'm a babywearer (wrapper to be particular) but I would hate to transfer a sleeping baby from the carseat to a wrap (or a stroller) in a parking lot, especially in the winter.
4) As for a carrier, definitely try out different things if you can. I started with a Moby, and it was great for the first few months, after which it got too saggy (and we switched to woven wraps.) I believe wraps are the most versatile carriers, but they do have a bit of a learning curve... It is worth learning though! This time, I'll probably just start out with a woven, since I'm in love with -- and addicted to -- them
5) I would opt for the side-snapping Ts instead of the onesies. I agree with a PP that things that snap on the side/front are so much easier on a tiny, floppy baby, rather than those that go over their heads. We had/have long sleeved side snap Ts by Carter's, but I know Under the Nile
makes organic ones as well, although they are quite a bit pricier. We paired them up with bottoms/wiggle pants. I also have a few side-snapping one-pieces by Baby Soy, and hopefully we'll like them. I know many people LOVE the footed one pieces, but DH refuses to have his babies dressed in anything that would have a foot covering attached, and I kinda agree with him.
6) If you are planning to be outdoors with the baby, and depending on how cold the weather gets, you might need a warmer hat plus booties (if you're not going with footed stuff). I've heard good things about Zutano booties; the cozies
version might be good for the winter.
7) If you're planning to breastfeed, I'd recommend a feeding pillow also. It is not a necessity, but I LOVED mine, and I think it contributed to our BFing success in the midst of several problems we initially had. I had the brest friend
, and I liked it over the Boppy because the former is firmer and more supportive.