My dh's father is critical. He's been like this for days and my dh is with him. Me and the kids have been home (he lives overseas). My dh was telling me a few days ago that he was going to die, and that he wanted me to come for the funeral (leave kids home, mainly b/c of $$). He's been very upset (of course). He called me at 2 a.m., and again at 4:30 a.m. this morning to tell me it's looking bad.
So it looks like things are coming to a head this morning. But my dh just emailed me that I should stay home - - if FIL passes this morning, the funeral will be this afternoon, so I wouldn't make it. But I emailed my dh that I could be there for support afterward... at least for a few days.
I'm kind of wondering if (a) I should just stay home b/c he says now that I don't have to come. (b) If I should insist on coming to be supportive. (c) my dad, who would come help with the kids, told me I shouldn't go... but I wonder how much of that advice is b/c he'd rather not come help out with my kids!
Any and ALL thoughts and advice welcome. (And btw, I'm 21 weeks, which I understand isn't a risky time to fly...)