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In a bit of shock right now...I'm 39, married with 2 boys (4 1/2 yrs and 21 months) and just found out yesterday that I'm pregnant! This was not planned (we had pretty much decided to stop at 2) and I'm still trying to get a handle on how I feel about it.

We live in a small 2 bdrm apt. in nyc (the boys share a room), and moving anywhere else within our neighborhood or nearby neighborhoods would mean a huge jump in rent, not to mention probably having to move out of a much-coveted school zone. Money is pretty tight now with 2 kids (I'm a SAHM, although I'm about to begin training to become a pp doula), so we can't imagine how much tighter it would get with 3. Also, my youngest son is still very needy of me and very much "the baby"; it's hard to picture him being ready for a new, younger sibling (whereas my oldest seemed more "mature" at this age and was def. ready for a baby).

I could go on and on about all the financial and logistical reasons why it would not be in our best interests to have this baby, but then I also wonder who this little person is/will be and I'm not sure if I could live with the decision to end the pregnancy. I'm really torn and we feel that we should make a decision fairly soon either way.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation and is willing to share how it went for you? All of my friends either have 1 or 2 children, so I don't know anyone personally who could relate.

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I can't give much help (our unplanned/at-first-unwanteds were our first: TWINS!), but I hope it becomes clearer for you. Best of luck.

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Your 21 month old will have 9 months to grow and mature. I wouldn't worry so much about him not being ready right now. They change and grow so much at his age.

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I'm in process of going from a very planned one to a total shock TWO. I had an IUD in place for two years. So though I'm not in exactly the same shoes as you, I completely understand the feeling of having something you did NOT plan for happen, and coming to terms with it.

We struggled pretty hard with this shocking news at first, and very seriously considered termination as a possibility. For me personally, I came to the conclusion that it would be harder for me to live with the what ifs and might have beens of terminating, than it would be for me to live with a known and tangible outcome, however challenging it might be. I wish you the best with figuring out what is right for you.

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Your 21 month old will have 9 months to grow and mature. I wouldn't worry so much about him not being ready right now. They change and grow so much at his age.
I agree with this. 9 months is a long time and you could use it to prepare your youngest. I am pregnant with #3 as well with a 20-month-old mama's boy. I'm not sure how it'll work but I know I can do it.

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We weren't planning on #3 either, I was on the pill. Our living accomodations weren't quite as small as yours were, so we just ended up with the younger two sharing a room. It was a bit of a shock and took a little while to get used to the idea. Now that she is 18 months I couldn't imagine it any other way, she was born 4 days after DD1 turned 2.

Now, umm, #4 is unexpectedly on the way. Finances are extremely tight, moving isn't an option due to the housing market, and I was in shock for a while. We may end up with 3 sharing a room and while it isn't ideal, we'll make it work.

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Our third was unplanned as well. I was in a job I hated, in a two bedroom apartment, dh was just finishing up his BA, and my second child was just barely a year. It was pretty shocking. Both dh and I knew termination wasn't an option (even though we are pro-choice). Like everyone else has said, we made it work and can't even imagine life without her now.

We have three in one room and it works. In fact, they love it.

Now we're onto number 4 and there are times when I feel very panicy about making it all work! But I know it will.

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My fourth was a big shocker.. We had JUST started an adoption proceeding when we found out I was pregnant.. I was really unhappy with the idea of having three in diapers at the same time.. in the end it all worked out. My youngest is rascally and super loving of his mama.. I wouldn't trade him for the world now.
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What would you regret more? I have heard many regret a decision to terminate...even a surprise is a blessing, and I suspect once that life was here you wouldn't imagine your family without him/her.

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We didn't plan our third at all...if we would have been charting well, I am sure we wouldn't be expecting this little one at all I am so glad that we weren't paying attention


Most of our friends either have 2 or under or more than 5 children. We'll be inbetween with 3.

Take some time to reflect & think. to you!

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I am so right there with you. I'm also 39 and was emotionally done with my two boys, and life was great when we found out we were expecting #3. I cried for weeks, was angry at DH for a while, and just had to go through the emotions trying to deal. Now I'm 20 weeks and the idea of another baby, like the baby itself, is growing on me. I think things happen for a reason, which means whatever you decide to do will be the right path. I definitely considered termination but something kept me from it. Good luck to you in listening to your heart...it's not an easy journey but you will get through it, no matter what you decide.
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I'm expecting a third in a two-bedroom apt. as well. It was very planned either. We are pretty minimalist and I purge regularly so I'm not too worried. Like you I'd do with less space to stay in a great school district, proximity to lake, parks, etc. Things will work out for sure. And yea, in 9 months, your 21 month old will be new man! lol.

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My first three pregnancies were all unexpected surprises. I lost my first (spontaneous miscarriage, not terminated) and I think that taught me that no matter how long Ive been pregnant, I cant handle doing that on purpose let alone just because that is what nature decided for me.

But that is me. You have to figure out what is right for you.

I have always found ways to make it work. We were in a 2 bedroom when I had DD (so we had a boy and a girl) and XH was barely making minimum wage and I just quit my job a month before she was born (on good terms I could have gone back if I wanted to but I didnt)

Ive found... things always find a way to work out if you let them.

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i am pregnant with a surprise #3 as well, though we were planning most likely to eventually add to our family we were not quite ready yet.. we were avoiding pregnancy and if we were never planning to have another child it still would have happened in this case, the feeling that our plan didn't matter takes some getting use to .. my DS is 21 months and also very very clingy/needy/mama's boy .. i feel really guilty thinking about the baby coming, but i know that he will grow and change a lot between now and then .. and in the long run, i'm sure he won't be able to imagine his life without his two siblings ..

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Thanks everyone! I'm still in the "figuring it all out" phase, and this is very helpful to hear others talk about their own experiences.

The other thing is, I have a pretty rough time during the 1st tri and I'm a little nervous about feeling so crappy with 2 kids to take care of. I honestly admire anyone who has been able to go through this.

It seems like there are a few of us in very similar situations; maybe we could even form a little buddy group on here. If I do end up sticking around on the pregnancy forum, I could really use the support.
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I have a pretty rough time during the 1st tri and I'm a little nervous about feeling so crappy with 2 kids to take care of.
oh, i am totally there right now.. it IS hard, i am feeling worse than with either previous pregnancy .. but my kids are really stepping up as is my DH and it is really helping.. my oldest is almost 4 and she is really helping out .. not so much with cleaning, but in taking care of her basic needs and helping take care of DS and keeping him entertained.. she is not usually the helpful or independent type.. but i think she can tell i really need her help (even though we haven't told them about the pregnancy)

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When I get pregnant with DD1, we were in a similar situation. Living in Bay Ridge... two boys... I was SAHM... DH was a resident (low salary). We just started living on Craigslist, and finally found a 3 bedroom in Bensonhurst... 1st floor... cement backyard.... for about $150 more. It was a closet 3rd bedroom, but still, we could fit 2 toddler beds in it. DD ended up sleeping with us for the 1st year anyway--so the bedroom wasn't as critical, but it was nice to have.

I guess I just wanted to say, you have almost a whole year to figure things out... should you go ahead with the pregnancy... so don't worry.

I was really worried how DS2 would take things... as he was less than 2 when she was born. He ended up self-weaning on his own... and we started him off in a toddler bed in our room, before moving him in with his big brother. Both boys were such good big brothers to our little DD...still are. I actually found that 3 was easier than 2.... and I'm hoping that will hold for #4. LOL

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I'm there with you. Our first was totally unexpected and unplanned (we were in college and hadn't been dating very long). Then we ttc for 2 and 1.5 years with #'s 2 and 3, respectively. Our youngest is now 19 months old and I am 19 weeks pregnant. It was one month off of my birth control because insurance stopped covering what I was on and we were moving so i didn't get a chance to get on something else. I wasn't too worried since I had been ttc for most of my adult life. Haha Guess this is my "reward" for losing 50 pounds last year...spontaneous ovulation.

Our living conditions aren't quite as tough as yours, but we don't have a ton of extra space and my dh just took a huge paycut and went back to school to pursue a completely different career path. I'm still working on being excited about this baby. Maybe at my 20 week u/s next week that will start.

I have always been very decided that I would never terminate a pregnancy, but I actually seriously considered it at the beginning of this one. I'm sure I won't regret my decision but I'm very thankful that we have 8 months (from the time of the bfp) to get used to the idea.

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I actually found that 3 was easier than 2.... and I'm hoping that will hold for #4. LOL
This is interesting...I've heard from other moms of 3 or more that it's actually easier to go from 2 to 3 (or 3 to 4) than it is to go from 1 to 2. I overheard one mom at the park once saying that once she had 2 kids, that pretty much broke her in so having 3 didn't faze her as much. I really hope this is true!

I think we're leaning in the direction of keeping the baby, but I'm having a really hard time making a firm commitment to that decision. The fact is, I'm TERRIFIED when I think about adding another child to our lives. I know deep down that we'll do what we have to to make it work, but still....just can't seem to shake this feeling of dread.
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I think we're leaning in the direction of keeping the baby, but I'm having a really hard time making a firm commitment to that decision. The fact is, I'm TERRIFIED when I think about adding another child to our lives. I know deep down that we'll do what we have to to make it work, but still....just can't seem to shake this feeling of dread.
I can totally empathize with this! I'm finally to the point (with #4) where the anticipation is outweighing the sheer terror, but it's still pretty close.

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Yes, going from 1 to 2 was the toughest transition for me by far! The next two were a breeze.

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It sounds like a challenging situation. If I were in your position, I think I'd terminate, but it's hard to know. We're also Brooklyn dwellers and are planning on stopping our family at two children (I'm more open to the idea of a third than my husband is), so I think I have a sense of where you're coming from even though I still haven't given birth to my first child.

You might want to consider scheduling an appointment with Planned Parenthood for options counseling so that you'll have a better opportunity to come to terms with whatever decision you do make. I volunteer with PPNYC (with the education/political wings, not in any of the clinics) and I know that the staff members & volunteers at the Sanger clinic are great. They'll help you sort through your options and can offer support in a number of ways.

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I am feeling numb, and I'm so glad to have found this thread. I knew with #2 (during pregnancy, and not knowing or caring about the baby's sex until birth) that I was DONE. I felt complete and fulfilled. I still feel that way. I adore my two kids- 5 and 2. They are my life.
DH and I are another story. We're definitely rocky, yet committed, although definitely not happy. And in the back of my mind, somewhere was the faint countdown of 16 more years. Then, freedom from him- though I truly wish I didn't FEEL this way.
In Aug. my cycle came back, and it's been funky, not yet regulated. Which is why I thought that, giving it roughly a month, when it didn't come in late Jan., it was just another funky month. But the past few days I've felt a bit of nausea. I thought surely I was feeling sympathy pains for my sister, who I keep hoping becomes pregnant soon!
Today I bought a pregnancy test. I was absolutely dumbfounded when it showed positive. So I told dh the test didn't work and bought another one. Positive again. Dh is sleeping so he doesn't know yet- and I'm not even sure I want to tell him, considering I'm seriously grieving this and he'll be so happy and non-supportive of my feelings.
I absolutely believe things turn out the way they are meant to, but right now I'm just so sad. This is one area where I was trying to avoid and I think we dtd maybe once this month. And I was sure that it was no where near a fertile window.
I hate that I keep wishing this wasn't so, or that something else was causing the positive results.
I'm still in denial as well, and plan to get a blood test tomorrow to be sure.
I'm glad to have found this thread, bc like others who've posted here, I really need the support and validation of my feelings.
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to you seeking...I so feel for you right now. I know that feeling of sadness and regret that you're feeling - at least I think I do. We are here for you through this, whatever happens.
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Thanks everyone! I'm still in the "figuring it all out" phase, and this is very helpful to hear others talk about their own experiences.

The other thing is, I have a pretty rough time during the 1st tri and I'm a little nervous about feeling so crappy with 2 kids to take care of. I honestly admire anyone who has been able to go through this.

It seems like there are a few of us in very similar situations; maybe we could even form a little buddy group on here. If I do end up sticking around on the pregnancy forum, I could really use the support.

*I* would choose a trimester of feeling crappy over a lifetime of regret. I hope that you are able to take a look at not only the short term but the long term implications of adding to your family.

Good luck to you!

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DD was unplanned. While she was our first, and we *were* planning on having children eventually, DH had/s a lot of college debt and had just graduated and gotten a job a few months before we found out we were pregnant. We had planned to wait for 1.5 years to pay off some of the debt since we had 2 incomes, but then came DD.

I have to say, I spent the whole first tri really not wanting to be pregnant. I was horribly morning sick and then got the bad influenza at week 12 and it just sucked overall. Plus, I was still working fulltime watching a 9mo and a 18mo and that was rough.

Anyway - I could not imagine life without her now. She seriously is one of the highest need kids I have ever met but she is also so highly rewarding and affectionate. DH has become a softer, more gentle guy (which is something - DH is your typical redneck). Everything will work out either way - I hope you find peace in your decision. *hugs*

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I know our society has certain expectations for how things "should" be in terms of number of kids, space for each kid, etc. But really, we're all just really spoiled in this country and time period. People used to live in much more crowded quarters... and most people in other parts of the world still do.

We have 3 boys, with #4 on the way. We do have three bedrooms, but one is being used as an office, so we basically just use the two... we have plans to put a bunk bed in the kids' room... a double bunk on the bottom, and a twin on top, although right now everyone is still in our room! There are ways to save space. Your kids will be little for awhile; I don't think you'll really need to worry about more space for a few years. Did you read the Mothering article about living in a small house a couple months back? It could be inspiring. I don't think you need to worry about whether you need to move or have the money to do so. Circumstances could completely change in a few years, and then the right choice will be much more obvious to you.

It's always hard to think about supplanting the baby of the household with a new baby... I always have trouble with this. I get a little misty thinking of my poor baby not being the baby anymore. But I am always amazed at how much the baby grows up during the pregnancy. Nine months makes a huge difference. My boys are 28 and 29 months apart. It is a great age gap. My boys are best friends, and they play together so well.

It can be so hard to wrap your head around big changes, especially when you had a terrific plan about how your life would be!

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