If he was telling the truth about getting married to her then they are all ready married and raising their baby together.
I anticipate him calling me "bad and crazy" and again and telling me how impossible it is for a baby to have been made by the two of us. We will misunderstand one another and I will not be able to say what I really need to say. We can NOT talk on the phone at all the language barrier makes it way to hard for that.
Telling him the news is going to be most important thing to do and telling him what I expect from him in terms of support etc... is hard. I just want to be clear about everything from the start and make sure he knows what I'm wanting. I feel like if I tell him before I figure out a few things I'll mess everything up for my baby.
I all ready feel pretty crappy for not doing what's best for my baby in the way of eating properly. I have to forgive myself for that though since I wasn't able to eat anything really in the last few weeks but now that I'm feeling better I can start now to eat better.
Please remember that I only found out 3 days ago. Just 3 short days ago and I need time to take a deep breathe and let it sink in and decide what to do for myself and then start to figure out how and when to tell him and check out what rights my baby and I have.
I have a lot of work to do in the next few weeks with seeing a nurse,getting the OLO program for some extra food,getting the vitamins,first appt. with the doctor in March,finding out the legal rights and getting the housework all caught up and figuring out a safe way to clean the cat box!
I'd like to tell him within the next 2 weeks. That means I have to find and talk to a lawyer or law student or someone and get some advice and try and arrange to meet though that is not going to be easy at all. I may end up having my friend call and explain it all to him,send a letter as well and then ask that he either start to build a friendship with me now for the sake of the baby OR not call me until I let him know the bay is born. I'm just afraid that he will call me and call me and ask questions that I can't answer or try to convince me that this baby is not his. I don't want to argue about it like they do on Jerry. A simple test after the baby arrives will give the answer.