I am 40, DH is 42 and this is our 3rd somewhere around Dec 12th. Had DD at age 34 with CNM in hospital; DS @37 with regular MW at Birth Center and barely made it there on time. So, we are hoping to stay home with #3 with the MW who will hopefully make it in time.
Feeling really stressed right now with way too much everyday stuff and too much on my plate so am hoping to have a few things calm down after we move next week and then hopefully start to think about baby.
I did the NT and then an ultrasound at 20 weeks and all looks good but feeling a little worried about my sugar intake and am trying to cut back. I have the gender envelope at home and waiting for a calm moment to celebrate whether we are having a boy or girl. Is there ever a calm moment with 2 very active, high energy kids?!?
Well, pleased to meet you all and I hope I can get some calmness from reading some of your posts.
Please Add me to the list I would love to join - I am 45 and due with baby #3 10/23/10 waiting to be surprised. The odds are really low that this would happen and the beginning was the toughest - much more difficult than my others. I was in the midst of pre-menopause when this happy news arrived - this is my 6th pregnancy (3 miscarriages in all) and hoping and praying baby #3 will arrive safe and sound. I had a CVS done early and all was OK. I have a 10 year old daughter and a 5 year old son. I am so excited for this little one to arrive!
It is so nice to connect with you and others who have traveled difficult paths to create a family! You never know what will occur when you start down the road toward pregnancy - I never would have anticipated that it would be 5 years between each of my children with miscarriages in between but I am so grateful for each of my children! Hang in there - I had such a hard time thinking I would ever get to September and here it is!
great idea! i'll be needing those too.
i found this thread in the homebirth helpful resources sticky in the homebirth forum.
I'm Karen, 37-will be 38 when this LO is due. DH is 37. I have an older son (14) from previous marriage and DH has a daughter (9) from his previous marriage. We have our "miracle" daughter, who is 14 months (after 5 years of TTC) and now are expecting another little miracle...EDD May 12, 2011 (we decided to not prevent since we thought it would take a long time again )
I did the Genetics consult, NT scan, Quad screen and anatomy scan with DD and with "low risk" results, we stopped there. Not sure what I'll do with this one...probably the same, minus the genetics consult
Karen 37 (38)
DH- Chris 37
EDD- May 12, 2011
undecided regarding finding out gender
and cautiously due May 12, 2011!
DH will be 35. DH has a 7 year old son from a previous marriage.
I too have gotten the "advanced maternal age/high risk" crap from a Dr at a walk-in-clinic. All he knew was my age, didn't bother asking if I have any health problems (I don't, aside from mild asthma/allergies.) my blood pressure is fine, I have never had any "female" problems (other than infertility.)
I now go to a birthing centre / midwife, she is totally unconcerned about my age, just asked about genetic stuff in my family/ DHs family. Was OK I didn't get the quad screen and my refusal to do an amnio. She asked if I wanted to do an anatomy ultrasound screen and I said sure. The U/S tech said everything looks ok, no markers etc. I do know U/S are not diagnostic, per se but it's a relief anyway. We're going to be screened for CF as it's just a blood draw. I will submit to all blood draws to check for immunities etc/maternal health checks etc.
They had a woman have her first baby at 42 years old at the birth centre, no wonder they don't think 36 is such a big hairy deal.
I've taken the attitude of expect the worst, hope for the best. It has made me be able to maintain my sanity through the fears of Downs etc. I came up with a plan B in case our son comes out not 100% healthy.
I'm having a blah kind of day. Had to have blood drawn yesterday and that's always an ordeal. I'm a hard stick and over the past two days she stuck me NINE TIMES to get 14 tubes of blood. I loss a child due to high insulin levels, and there's also a possibility of clotting problems, so I understand why they need to do these tests, but man am I tired today.
We told my mother in law and much to my amazement she was absolutely thrilled. After all, not only am I 46 years old, we have absolutely no money and I'm on Medicaid. Though for the most part that's because I can't get any other insurance do to pre-existing conditions. It's still embarrassing though. I've worked since I was 14 years old, and now can't find a job anywhere. I'm trying to focus on being grateful for this miracle, but it's hard. And omigod I'm so scared. I don't know if my soul could endure losing another one. It's been unbelievably hot here and every time I'm the least bit sweaty "down there" I have to go check to make sure I'm not bleeding. Sorry to be such a buzz kill, but I'm so scared.
The one thing the genetics counselor talked about was NOT doing the quad screen if you are getting the NT. She said the NT was a better detector and that there is a risk of a "false positive" with the quad after doing the NT. My OB also said the same thing.
Im 35 and 20 wk pregnant. I will be 36 upon delivery.
I have chosen NOT to do extra tests that some say you should do if 35+. I just think it would add to the stress level thinking something is 'wrong' or whatever before one knows for sure and not just enjoying the process of growing and giving birth. We did do the US and everything looked fine so Im not going to trouble with worrying.
Im really did not plan on having any more children so this is a fun twist in my life at this point. Enjoying each stage.
DH- Scott 43 (44)
EDD- Jun 14, 2011
Will discover gender at birth
We had finished our homestudy and were in the process of searching for our child through adoption when I found out I was pregnant. Total surprise. It was difficult to conceive our youngest, and 7 years after her we just figured we were done making babies. We go the low intervention/testing route, and this baby is planned to be a homebirth like her sister.
DS: 18 DD: 15 DD: 8 11/10 4/11
DD: 3 8/11
I'm 25 weeks today, can't believe how the time is flying.
I'm starting to get creaky and am having trouble bending over. I've never been this pregnant in the fall/winter before and have realized that putting socks on my feet isn't as easy as putting on flip flops. Ugh.
Other than that, everything is great... sailing through the weeks and getting excited for the upcoming holidays. I think the time will fy now.
Hope everyone is doing well!
Mama to ~ Finnegan(10/06) ~ Samuel (7/08) ~ Henry (2/11) ~ He's here! Baxter (11/12)
Me , DH married 24 yrs.,DD #1 (89), DD #2 (91), DD #3 (05), and DD #4 (6/11/11)
Baby expected middle June
Hello! I am 36, will be 37 next month. Dh is 40, 41 when our baby arrives. We have 10 children, in my sig, and are expecting a baby next June. This will be our 7th UP and 8th UC, and baby will be a surprise.
Annabelle Catholic wife to Jeff '92 and mom to Makaley 19 Arden 19 Anniston 17 Taegan 14 Balen 12 Kellen 10 Ellery 8 Innish 6 Eiley 4 Finnian 3 Esca 2 our 8th and expecting sweet pea January 2014.
I'd like to join the tribe.
I'll be 36 when this little one's born, DH will be 35, EDD is 4/02/11, and gender a surprise.
I have had no tests, and plan on having none unless my midwife suspects something is wrong and recommends one. I plan to have my second home birth. I absolutely loved having my last baby at home.
Glad to be here!
DH Dave will be 42
EDD 7/2/11 We will find out the gender at the birth!
Hi everyone! I am Tracy and I am officially AMA!! I had a c-section with my first, a home birth with my second and am planning a home birth with this one as well. The only testing I plan on doing is the 20 week ultrasound. I thought about skipping is, but I have had placenta previa and vasa previa with my first and just want to be sure all is well this time around.
Proud Mama to DS1 09/07 , DD 07/09 , and DS2 06/11 . Feeling more and more blessed with each day!
Caryliz, 44, DH 54, expecting DS2 somewhere around January 31, 2011.
Wondering if any other mamas have funny stories about being older and pg?
My favorite came from the u/s tech at the hospital, when I went for the initial screening and to determine date of conception. (And can I say, it always cracks me up when, right after you discover you are pg, a member of the medical profession asks the date of conception. I'm always like, "You tell me! We were trying our best, which means we have NO IDEA which episode was the one that produced results!!!" - of course only belatedly did I realize that they assumed we would know because we were using assistive reproductive technology...but I digress.) Anyway, there I am lying on the table with that giant napkin over my lap and the u/s tech, who I have to say looked about 19 (ok, I AM getting old!) looks up from her paperwork and says, "So, how did you get pregnant?"
This one kind of threw me - I mean, honestly, I guess I wasn't thinking about the larger medical picture, because the first thought that popped into my head was, "Are you kidding me? You really need me to explain this to you?!" But my better self prevailed so I just said, "Excuse me?" and she patiently tried again with "How was this child conceived?" I paused for a moment and then said, "Um, I had sex with my husband?" to which she responded brightly "Oh, that's great! It's so unusual among women your age!" This left me dumbfounded for a moment, until I blurted out, "No, actually, there's still sex after 40!"
I can never, ever come up with a good comeback on the spot, so I was particularly tickled about this one. Also gave me something to feel good about after an hour of listening to everyone describe me as (I kid you not) "geriatric". Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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