I'm frequently amazed at the obnoxious crap people will say when discussing someone else's lives. How many children you choose to have and at what age is nobody's business but yours. I dunno, I'm sure there are raised brows out there somewhere, but no one dares say anything to me. Apparently I look as though I'd let them have it if they get too cheeky with me. And they're right, I would.
LOL! It's funny, I've only gotten flak from two places:
1. Medical professionals (NOT the MW, but the people doing sonograms and such at the hospital) - and really, it's kind of fun to let them have it. The doc who did my amnio kept referring to this as a "geriatric pregnancy" and finally I told him that, unless he was planning to arrange a senior citizen discount for all the stuff my insurance wasn't going to cover, he was going to have to find a different way to talk about someone who was both pregnant and older than himself! .
2. My own mother, which I have to admit is kind of deflating. She and I have always been close, and she really has been a wonderful mom to me and grandmother to my son. For 20 years - literally, from the time I was in college - she was on me about when I was going to have kids. When we told her I was pregnant with DS1, she literally screamed and cried and jumped up and down - she was happier than I was! Fast forward 5 years to our announcement about DS2 - she was so startled you could have heard a pin drop. The first thing she said was, "Did you do this on purpose?!" (Um, yes.), This was followed by, "Do you know how old you are going to be when this child is born?!" (Yeah, did the math on that one, too, Mom.) At that point she composed herself and smiled and said she was very happy for us. And then proceeded to ask if there was any pie left in the kitchen. Like, subject closed. I was stunned, and when I asked her later why she was so subdued about this (when she'd been so crazy excited the first time), she just loooked at me and said, "Look, when I was your age, I had kids in high school and I was going through menopause. I'm just sayin'." I pointed out the obvious ("I got married at 38, I have a child in kindergarten, and clearly I'm not going through menopause, so I guess my experience is going to be different."), but she has persisted. The difference is, she no longer states anything as if it's her own opinion - rather, she prefers to pass along comments from people I've never met. As in: "My water aerobics instructor thinks you are very brave to be having a child at your age!" And then she'll wait for a response. I try not to rise to the bait, but honestly, I've kind of had it. This child is coming whether she is happy about the timing or not, and it would be really nice to feel like she is on board.