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welcome to the thread
for pregnant women 35 and older!

our pregnant members are listed by due date with
username, name (if given), age at delivery, EDD and sex of baby (if known).

if you'd like to be added to our list, and when you have updates,
please post your request in bold.

PREGNANT MEMBERS
Susanneprincess (susanne) 43, 08/05/11,
egmaranian (erica) 35, 08/06/11,
number3at43 (dawn) 43, 08/19/11,
Ttarail 42, 09/04/11,
Mommel 38, 09/05/11,
FarmerCathy (cathy) 35, 09/16/11,
Gracecody (heather) 36, 09/27/11,
JoyousJenny 36, oct '11
Flor 35, oct '11,
capretta 35, 10/01/11,
beautifulmoon 37, 10/11/11, stork-girl.gif
saoirse2007 42, 10/25/11,
MrsHin2002 39, nov '11,
bubbagirl 38, 11/03/11,
Rachelette 40, 11/10/11,
sorprendida11 44, mid-nov '11
Anglyn 42, 11/19/11,
Gemini13 (dyanna) 35, 11/21/11,
CNM2B (jennifer) 39, 11/27/11,
Awakeman (amy) 39, 12/01/11,
dreamgirl 40, 12/02/11,
sagewinna (kim) 43, 12/05/11,
Eileithyia 35, 12/07/11,
junebugmidwife 36, 12/12/11,
Gloverby (keely) 39, 12/21/11,
lotus1 41, 12/27/11,
NishaG 38, 01/07/12,
Shenjall (laura) 38, 01/14/12,
JuniperMama 36, feb '12,
Nazsmum 38, 04/01/12,
lovinled (jen) 38, 04/04/12,
Marnica 39, 04/14/12,
UnassistedMomma 42, 04/26/12,
jess in hawaii (jess) 41, apr/may '12
wigirlprb 42, 05/06/12,
4evernow 47, may '12
cookie_ 36, may/jun '12,
buterflymomma 36, may/jun '12,
DiannaK (dianna) 39, june '12
halifax40 45, 06/10/12,

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BIRTH ANNOUNCEMENTS
gradstudentmommy - kellan joseph arrived on 09/16/10
JessieBird (jess) - asa oderin thomas arrived on 10/05/10
honeybee (melissa) - camden arrived on 10/10/10
juliebird - benjamin porter arrived on 11/05/10
jensb - sanjay arrived on 11/08/10
stormgirl - calliope fern arrived 01/11/11
tinynyota - saskia rosemary arrived on 11/18/10
batlvr - sadie carroll arrived on 11/23/10
Qbear'smama - jack everett arrived on 12/17/10
teeg1973 -   norah   arrived 12/23/10
lillymonster - elise margaret arrived 01/04/11
justduckyangie (angie) - natalia quinn arrived 01/10/11
myk - katelyn leanna arrived 01/10/11
Hope4six - lucas & david arrived 01/14/11
m0xxie - lily arrived 01/29/11
pregnant@40 - a son arrived 01/29/11
Monkey pants - maximillian louis arrived 02/04/11
finnegansmom (michelle) - henry beckett arrived 02/19/11
DaniTall - micah arrived 02/19/11
kgreenemama (krista) - gemma clare arrived 04/04/11
mclisa - flynn thomas arrived 04/26/11
snguyen - lily anh arrived 04/27/11
WhiteHorse (heather) - sarah arrived 04/27/11
samstress (sam, 39) - jude michael arrived 05/16/11
Mamatoabunch (annabelle) - esca eirnin arrived 06/02/11
Max'sMama - julius michael arrived 06/04/11
BHappy - eliot quinn arrived 06/08/11
Buddhamom - lotus maya arrived 06/11/11
tracymom1 (tracy, 36) - jude lewis arrived 06/16/11
sundaya (43) - little boy arrived july '11
ArcticRose (misty, 38) - samantha jade arrived 07/08/11
greenmama66 - little boy arrived on mama's 45th birthday
HawaiianBlesing (becky, 36) - rafe edward arrived 08/02/11,
mia's mama (37) - ava elise arrived 08/06/11
amycolefarrell (amy) - lennon august arrived 08/28/11
Snugglebugmom (iris, 42) - little boy arrived 10/07/11

 


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i've looked all over for a 35 and over pregnancy tribe (one that isn't month specific), but couldn't find one (please direct me to it if i've missed it).

anyway, i was in one last year and found it to be one of my favorite (and most supportive) threads, so i thought i'd start another.

hope to see it grow.

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hi there! i'm 36, and my husband will be 43 when this kid arrives. our EDD is january 19th, but i'm scheduling a caesarean so it'll probably be first week of january. don't know the sex yet, we'll find out in a few weeks.

i also have a 5 year old who is VERY excited to be a big sister.

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Yay! I am 37, baby boy is due in December and I would like to join this tribe! My DD is 4 and is also thrilled to be a big sister, she'll be 4 3/4 when the baby comes. We're planning a natural birth in a birthing centre, which is how we had DD.

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hooray! i'm no longer the only member. welcome ladies!

i too have a little girl and am sure she'll be very excited to be a big sister (as soon as we tell her). she will just turn four when the little one arrives.

dd was an emergency c-section. am hoping for a vbac this time around (ideally an hbac).

had a miscarriage last fall, so am a bit nervous, but can't help being very excited!

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I will be 39 (maybe) with #2 - if she comes on time. If she is 9 days late, I will be 40. I had my first at 36.

DH is younger than me : ) He will be only 36 when DD #2 is born

Due date is 1/10/2011, we are having a girl
My birthday is 1/19

I will be vbac, so it's a little tricky with my age and finding someone confident enough to let me go. I have been told at 40 weeks they will schedule me for a c-section at 42 weeks. Not happy about it, but I don't know if I can find anyone else who would let me go longer. I live in the boonies, so an emergency would be a looong drive to the hospital. If I lived closer, I'd probably HB.

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welcome lillymonster. i'm gonna assume she'll be on time and put you down for 39.

here's hoping you get your vbac. when i was pregnant last year the dr i had said he was supportive of me having a vbac, but i was never 100% convinced. that's why i'm going to go the midwife route this time around.

i notice your first was born 4/9/07 (my first was born 4/8/07).

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I would like to join!

I am and will be 37 when this one arrives. DH will be 40.
We are expecting a baby girl, due 1/6/11, but if I go with a RCS she will likely come in late December (undecided on VBAC or CS due to medical issues and my own anxieties due to several losses).

I have an almost 4 year old DD who right now is thrilled about being a big sister....I have a feeling she might be a bit surprised once the next one comes along though.

Nice to see other *mature* momma's!

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Hi all,

I am 36 (and will be at baby's birth), dh will be 34. We are very excited to meet our newest little one next year.

This time around has been different. Nausea, fatigue and cramping hit very early this time around. And some new symptoms too...dizziness and near-fainting. Woo-hoo!

We missed the cut-off for the Quad-Screen + Nuchal Translucency test at 12 weeks. Not sure how I feel about that.

Last pregnancy we had an ultrasound and Level 2 us at 19-20 weeks that showed multiple problems -- ultimately ended up with an amniocentesis. Baby was perfect. That was a scary couple of weeks and now I'm both hesitant to be led down that road again and wanting to know (because of increased risk/age) so that I could potentially be prepared.

Anyone else doing testing? I really need to go back to the research on those tests -- risks vs. reward vs. false positive.
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welcome tracy and kim. so excited that our little tribe is growing already.

undecided about testing. i had an amnio with my daughter and it was such a relief to know that everything was fine, but i'm having second thoughts this time around.

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Hi Everyone!
I'm Angie, I turn 40 in Dec and Dh will be 41
This is by far my most challenging pregnancy...we find out the sex on Wed, so I have fingers crossed it's a very tiring pregnancy because it's a boy and not because I'm old LOL!

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Anyone else doing testing? I really need to go back to the research on those tests -- risks vs. reward vs. false positive.
I did the quad screen for my first at 36, and then for this one I did n/t us with blood test and the neural tube part of the testing at 20 weeks. Midwife said not to do the sequential testing because that can bring inaccurate results. I did not do amnio because I am very squeamish about it.

I did anatomy scan at 20 weeks and they said she cooperated very well and they saw nothing on the scan.

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Hello! I am 36, will be 37 when DD is born in late November. My DH is 32. I had my first DS when I was 21 so it's been a few years This has been a pretty easy pregnancy so far. Very little morning sickness, very little weight gain, but I am already on the "fluffy" side. Lots of little aches and pains but nothing severe. I am really enjoying being an older mama and feel super blessed to be having this precious little girl!

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Hi mamas!

I'm 39 and due with #2 September 15th. I was 36 when I had DD and this pregnancy has been much more challenging. I wish this tribe had been around earlier! I also had a loss this past September so I've been a little anxious this whole pregnancy.

Lillymonster and Samstres-my DD was born 4/19/07!

I always do the level 2 ultrasound but I've never had an amnio. They scare me.

Congratulations to everyone on their pregnancies!

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welcome angie, batlvr and grad!

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...I have fingers crossed it's a very tiring pregnancy because it's a boy and not because I'm old LOL!
well, if you're old, you're in very company.

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I am really enjoying being an older mama and feel super blessed to be having this precious little girl!
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Lillymonster and Samstres-my DD was born 4/19/07!
oh, very cool. my b-day is also april 19th (but just a few years prior to 2007).

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My husband and I will both be 43 when our first baby (a girl) is due (1/23/2011). After 2 years of trying, and a miscarriage, we are both ecstatic about achieving a natural, unassisted pregnancy.

We did both the first and second trimester screening blood tests, and attempted the nuchal translucency scan at 13.5 weeks, but the baby was measuring a week ahead of schedule at the scan, so the measurement could not be used. The results from the blood tests alone gave us "phenomenal" results, 1:7300 for downs syndrome, and a level 2 ultrasound found nothing of concern so we opted to skip the amnio. We're going back for another ultrasound at week 20, and keeping fingers crossed that all will be well.

Aside from severe morning sickness and exhaustion through the first trimester, the pregnancy has been going well for me, and I don't feel my age has been any impediment. In fact, I forget that we are somewhat exceptional, except for some strange comments from medical personnel like, "Is this your own egg?" or "Did you wake up one day and just decide to have a child?".

Is it so strange that I would want to wait until conditions in my life were optimal before trying to conceive? That I would want to be sure I had a great partner, a solid relationship, and a measure of financial and emotional stability before attempting to bring a new life into the world?
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due date: 10/13
This baby is a surprise.
This is our 4th baby, will be our 3rd homebirth.

I have not done any additional testing. To each their own, but I'm very low-interventionist in general, and I don't see any need to do something different now that I'm past the "magic" age of 35. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with all the "advanced maternal age" crap from my wonderful CPM (who birthed her son at age 37ish, I believe).

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Melissa
Age: 36
dh's age: 35
due date: 10/13
This baby is a surprise.
This is our 4th baby, will be our 3rd homebirth.

I have not done any additional testing. To each their own, but I'm very low-interventionist in general, and I don't see any need to do something different now that I'm past the "magic" age of 35. I'm so glad I don't have to deal with all the "advanced maternal age" crap from my wonderful CPM (who birthed her son at age 37ish, I believe).
I do believe medical personnel are more relaxed if you have had previous children than if your first is after the age of 35 (or 40). That is what I was told by the tech doing my sonogram anyway. If you have had previous children with no genetic issues than it's easier to deny those services as opposed to women who have never had a child. She told me she was had to do a u/s scan for a woman having her first age the age of 45, they would not have considered her as high of a risk if she had other children. We got into this discussion when she basically asked me if my age was on my only "risk" and I said yes, and she went into a long conversation about it, it was interesting how that practice treated it. I only went there for the sonograms.

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Yay! Please add me!

Michelle, I'll be 39 when the baby comes. My dh is 40 and will be 40 when the baby comes. This is our last baby.
I'm due Feb 8, 2011.
This is our third baby, my fourth pregnancy. I had a loss at about 13 weeks (a missed MC) in Feb. It took about a year to get pregnant with this one, including the loss. I'm thrilled to be here and can't wait to get to know you all better!

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I get to join in as well. I thought I would be done having kids by that dreaded age of 35, but I guess not.

mclisa, 36, dh will be 42, due april 25, 2011

This will make #6 for us and our last. I've had all hospital births and plan on that again. Last time I even went into spontaneous labor on my own. Otherwise I was induced anywhere from 41-41w5d gestation.

We've never knows the sex of the baby before and don't plan on it this time. I've never done the quad screen and I've turned down the 1st trimester testing for this pregnancy (blood work and u/s at 11 weeks).

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DH and I are first time parents. I am glad this new tribe is forming!

I am 42, and DH is 46. Our baby is expected to arrive around November 30th.

I have been seeing a CNM. I thought she was okay with my desire for few or no interventions, but at my last appointment she told me I'll need to have weekly nonstress tests and ultrasounds beginning at week 36. When I asked why, her response was "advanced maternal age." I told her I am not crazy about all the ultrasound exposure and want to talk more about it at my next appointment. In the meantime, I scheduled a consult with a CNM at another hospital who (I have heard) really believes in the spirit of midwifery and is not overly medicalized.
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I'm 37, DH is 36, and this is our 3rd child. My first were born at ages 28 and 32. I am way more exhausted than I remember being before; don't know if that's because of age or having a boy!

This will be VBAC #2. We opted for the NT, complete screen, and level II ultrasound because we like information. All our risks from that came out very low, so we did no amnio (it would have taken a very high risk for me to agree to that). I think this is my last pg unless mother nature decides otherwise (I was still on the fence about #3 when she decided for me this time).

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I'll be 40 in a couple weeks, DP is 39. My others were born when I was 30 and 36, and we had a 2nd trimester loss last year. His twins were born when he was 33.

This has been a rough ride, as with the last 2 pregnancies. Hyperemesis, which this time I am taking zofran for, which is helping. Im still often queasy, but the vomiting is almost gone. Totally exhausted, though! I could nap every day, but don't always get to with the boys.

We did the NT scan and the first part of the quad screening, numbers came back great, and then I missed the date range for the 2nd blood draw for the quad screening. I am also doing another ultrasound, but not sure if we'll find out the gender. Leaning towards not. 1st ds was a hospital birth, 2nd was a home birth, miscarried in the hospital, and this baby will be a hospital birth, b/c that's what our insurance will cover, and the economy has not been kind to us. I'd prefer to birth at home.

Last pg for me. It's too hard on me, and we already have quite a rowdy brood, and will completely fill a minivan.
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i did the maternal serum (quad) screening and came back with a 1/175 chance of having a child with down syndrome, which is double the normal risk based on my age.

then i had a level 2 ultrasound which also showed soft markers, so my risk went up to 1/20.

tomorrow (monday) i go for amnio to see if this child is chromosomally normal, or trisomic. i'm nervous but the way i see it, the sooner i know, the more prepared i can be. i'll update in a couple weeks with the result.

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Hi everyone!

I'm Jess and I'm 36, will be almost 37 when DS#2 is born. I'm due around October 10 or so. DH will be 42, maybe 43 but I sure hope I'm not still pregnant on his birthday (I'd be 42 w)!! I just can't wait that long. This pregnancy has been sooooo much harder than my first, which was less than two years ago. Someone told me that I didn't leave enough time to recover between pregnancies and though I was really annoyed with her at the time, I think she was right. I've been so exhausted and very very sick. Hospitalized with HG and hyperthyroid. The thyroid has resolved thank goodness but I'm still puking daily and feel awful. Thank goodness DH and DS are both really easy, happy guys and they're taking it all in stride.

As for testing, I did what's called "integrated screening" here - results from an ultrasound at 12 weeks plus blood tests at 12 and 15 weeks are combined to give risk factors. It's far from a sure thing and there are tons of false negatives but I came to terms with that. If anything spooky turned up, I would do amnio I think. I also had a heart-specific ultrasound at 21 weeks because hypothyroidism can cause heart defects. All clear as far as we could tell.

The biggest life change I'm going through now is that as of last Friday, I'm officially a SAHM. I liked my job and having DS in daycare was working out well enough but the days were going by too quickly and I really don't want to miss a thing. I think my age has something to do with that - time is more precious than it was, yk?

Nice to meet you all! Myk, I'll be thinking of you and I hope that you hear reassuring news as a result of the amnio.

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oh, very cool. my b-day is also april 19th (but just a few years prior to 2007).
My DD's birthday is April 19 also! (2006) she's in good company!! She and I are both Aries, makes for a spirited meeting of the minds!

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tomorrow (monday) i go for amnio to see if this child is chromosomally normal, or trisomic. i'm nervous but the way i see it, the sooner i know, the more prepared i can be. i'll update in a couple weeks with the result.
Good luck today, myk!!!

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Also, I have an 18 year time span between births. I have 3 sons: 24, 20 & 17months old & 1 in the oven!
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thanks the amnio went well. it HURT, but i expected it to (i have a much lower pain threshold than average people). so far no amniotic leaks or anything, just mild cramping. i should get the FISH test results in 2-3 days and the karyotype in 2 weeks or so.

hopefully then i'll be able to just relax

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to our newest members: m0xxie, honeybee, finnegansmom, mclisa, Cassaba, jensb, stormgirl, JessieBird and baby4at44.

if i've posted anyone's info incorrectly, please let me know. i'm bound to make a mistake sooner or later. i've sorted our members alphabetically (i'm kinda obsessive about alphabetizing -- books, cds, the kitchen cupboards, the medicine cabinet, the linen closet -- yes it's possible). however, i'm realizing that it would make more sense to arrange by due date (so it will be easier to see whose due date is coming up). so, i'll be fixing that soon.

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My husband and I will both be 43 when our first baby (a girl) is due (1/23/2011). After 2 years of trying, and a miscarriage, we are both ecstatic about achieving a natural, unassisted pregnancy.

Aside from severe morning sickness and exhaustion through the first trimester, the pregnancy has been going well for me, and I don't feel my age has been any impediment. In fact, I forget that we are somewhat exceptional, except for some strange comments from medical personnel like, "Is this your own egg?" or "Did you wake up one day and just decide to have a child?".

Is it so strange that I would want to wait until conditions in my life were optimal before trying to conceive? That I would want to be sure I had a great partner, a solid relationship, and a measure of financial and emotional stability before attempting to bring a new life into the world?
how wonderful for you both. you must be thrilled!

it's shocking the things people say. i have a list full of them.

i know what you mean about waiting until everything was right. i feel exactly the same way. someone once asked me why i waited until i was 35 before i had my first child. my reply, "because i didn't meet the father of my children until i was 33". duh!

yes, i could have had children at 20 or 25 or 30, but i (speaking only for myself, of course) wouldn't have been the mom i wanted to be.

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This is our 4th baby, will be our 3rd homebirth.
oh, how wonderful. i'm hoping for a homebirth.

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I do believe medical personnel are more relaxed if you have had previous children than if your first is after the age of 35 (or 40). That is what I was told by the tech doing my sonogram anyway. If you have had previous children with no genetic issues than it's easier to deny those services as opposed to women who have never had a child. She told me she was had to do a u/s scan for a woman having her first age the age of 45, they would not have considered her as high of a risk if she had other children. We got into this discussion when she basically asked me if my age was on my only "risk" and I said yes, and she went into a long conversation about it, it was interesting how that practice treated it. I only went there for the sonograms.
i think this is true. i had my first at (nearly) 35 with no genetic issues and i've been told that the likelihood of having another uneventful pregnancy and healthy child at 38 is very good because of this.

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This is our third baby, my fourth pregnancy. I had a loss at about 13 weeks (a missed MC) in Feb. It took about a year to get pregnant with this one, including the loss. I'm thrilled to be here and can't wait to get to know you all better!
so glad you're here.

i had a loss last year and it also took me a year to get pregnant again. i must say i'm thrilled, but nervous because it's early still.

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I get to join in as well. I thought I would be done having kids by that dreaded age of 35, but I guess not.
oh, it's not so bad.

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DH and I are first time parents. I am glad this new tribe is forming!
glad you found us.

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I'm 37, DH is 36, and this is our 3rd child. My first were born at ages 28 and 32. I am way more exhausted than I remember being before; don't know if that's because of age or having a boy!
oh, let's say it's the boy thing!

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I'll be 40 in a couple weeks, DP is 39. My others were born when I was 30 and 36, and we had a 2nd trimester loss last year. His twins were born when he was 33.

This has been a rough ride, as with the last 2 pregnancies. Hyperemesis, which this time I am taking zofran for, which is helping. Im still often queasy, but the vomiting is almost gone. Totally exhausted, though! I could nap every day, but don't always get to with the boys.
hope you're feeling better soon.

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The biggest life change I'm going through now is that as of last Friday, I'm officially a SAHM. I liked my job and having DS in daycare was working out well enough but the days were going by too quickly and I really don't want to miss a thing. I think my age has something to do with that - time is more precious than it was, yk?
big change, but sounds like a positive one. enjoy!

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My DD's birthday is April 19 also! (2006) she's in good company!! She and I are both Aries, makes for a spirited meeting of the minds!
it sure does! dd and i are both aries and i was sort of hoping for a houseful of aries women (for my pisces husband to contend with).

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Also, I have an 18 year time span between births. I have 3 sons: 24, 20 & 17months old & 1 in the oven!
wow, how cool. there are 20 years between my mom (she's the oldest) and her youngest brother. i always liked the idea of that (tough to do, however, when i didn't have my first until 35).

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thanks the amnio went well. it HURT, but i expected it to (i have a much lower pain threshold than average people). so far no amniotic leaks or anything, just mild cramping. i should get the FISH test results in 2-3 days and the karyotype in 2 weeks or so.

hopefully then i'll be able to just relax
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