I think common-sense moderate alcohol consumption is just fine. Around the holidays I had a few drinks, not in a single evening, of course
! But I never drink more than one drink at a time, anyway. I had a mudslide on my daughter's birthday and champagne at new year's, and a weak rum and coke here and there, and a glass of wine and a mudslide at my office christmas party. The mudslide is mostly ice cream anyway.
I'll have half a beer and, if no one is around to share the other half, pour the rest out so I am not tempted to finish it. I doubt that is even necessary. We have to keep in mind that studies on fetal alcohol syndrome cover a very serious level of alcohol intake. Some wine now and then is no comparison. I also know a few ladies who've smoked pot all through their pregnancy, what I would call fairly heavy use, and have had easy births, healthy kids, no problems. I have had doula clients and a distant cousin who've tested positive for cocaine in labor, which I personally would never do but must admit their kids were just fine.
I drank about the same moderate, occasional amount when pregnant with my daughter, who's now ten, has skipped a school grade and has always been in excellent health. So while I do sometimes feel morbid and worried about it, I really don't believe such small alcohol intake is at all dangerous.
I also have alcoholism in the family history but it has never been a problem for me. I love beer and wine and fun drinks but have rarely been drunk, and months can go by without thinking of buying or ordering alcoholic beverages. Of course others must be more careful, and I have a friend with some kind of syndrome, I forget what it's called, but she cannot drink even a sip of alcohol without getting very drunk, even completely ill. It took her a long time to figure this out and have a diagnosis and now must totally abstain.
We have borrowed a moses basket- we had one next to the bed for daughter and used it a lot, so I plan to use this one as well. I have made some rainbow silk/flannel blankets for me and am making some more to sell & for expectant friends. In fact I am mixing up the dye solutions today. At the consignment store, I got some newborn gowns. Washed whatever old things we have from ten years ago that will work.
I plan to visit the consignment store and get a tilted nursing stool, or a new one for now as my back hurts. Either at consignment or babies r us, plan to get a pack-n-play with the bassinette feature. I am not doing a nursery/crib this time but want somewhere for the baby to sleep in various rooms of the house when convenient. We were in a studio part time when my daughter was little, and when we stayed in the studio she slept in the playpen until 18months. She had her own room at our big house, but in the studio it was great to be able to move the thing about or fold it up.
I was also looking at that maclaren stroller. $200 is a lot for a stroller but they do hold up well and are very lightweight. My goal for this new bout of mommyhood is to be even less encumbered than the first time, and we were pretty low on all the "stuff" then except what people bought us. We still have things that are short term like the bouncy seat- thank god we have one that's ten years old, from the days before vibrators and music and lights. egad. I don't think a three month old needs to be as addicted to a vibrator as mom!
The major expense will be from diaperaps. I like their covers, and I think their prices are the best for very good quality. Of course I gave the diapers away all those years ago, and the highchair and the bike seat, and the folks I gave them to still have small children.
It's hard to believe it is almost time really to make sure all this stuff is here. I want to be ready by the end of the first week in May since my daughter was three weeks early. I have moved along very fast and kind of expect this one to be early. I hope so because there is now a chance my husband will be working at bonnaroo, doing sound! I will be sad to miss the shows either way but I sure hope the kid is born before then so I don't have to worry about holding it in those three days. This is still tentative but I am the kind of person who needs to plan out how I will do things under every contingency, however unlikely.
A few weeks ago it seemed way too early to be getting ready and now, if this baby matches his/her sister's gestational age, I only have ten weeks!
A bigger worry is a tooth fell apart the other day and I have to get it pulled. This wouldn't be a problem except it has been so far impossible to get through to the oral surgeon's office. It doesn't hurt, knock wood, but I'd sure like it extracted before it starts to.