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#31 of 35 Old 11-11-2010, 12:31 PM
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Splath, don't you wonder why people think they can argue with you about your due date?  It's not like we're ignorant or something.  I'm only 4 months along, and I've already gotten the twins comments, and the look of shock when they ask my due date.

I'm not sure why so many feel compelled to comment to pregnant women, since so many of those comments are either negative, or easily construed as negative (let's face it, we're over-loaded on hormones!).

I had a really horrible day a couple weeks ago.  I heard all sort of comments, ranging from the nicest "wow, baby has really been growing!" to "are you really sure there's only one in there?"  The worst?  "I heard you're having twins."  Um, hello, how would you have heard that?  Was that supposed to be a lead-in line for me to follow, with "Yes, of course, please congratulate me?"  I simply looked as puzzled as possible, which made them change the subject.  I hadn't spoken to this person in months; wouldn't a simple congratulations have been enough? <sigh>

To the OP, yes! so many of us have been there, and because of it we've learned the nice things to say to pregnant women.

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My dad called me 'Moby Dick'... (if MDC censors that its the really big whale).  Yeah, thanks Dad.  He seems to think I'm going to have a 10 lb baby too.

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I think most people just 'don't think' .. brain's are turned off or something.


Somehow they .. not using their brains.. find it highly amusing to tell someone they look like they are having twins, or say in a threatening tone 'do you know if it's twins or not' ...... my 5 yr old blabbed to some random lady in a store that we were having another baby and her immediate response was 'oh maybe it's twins this time' ........ I was only 8 weeks along and NOT showing.  I just kind of laughed it off.. sigh


That's something my FIL has said in three of my pregnancies.. still waiting to hear him joke if it's twins this time or not.  Might just tell him we don't know :P ha!

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The last pregnancy there was a woman who would not stop with the comments. We were at a faculty meeting and she asked me AGAIN very loudly, since she had an audience, if I was sure I wasn't having twins. Of course, other women were horrified for me. I just looked her square in the face and said, "Why don't you crawl up there and find out for yourself since you are so hellbent on asking me that question 4 times a week? Report back to the group what you see." There was a small applause as her face turned beet red. Serves her right. I suppose she had said several comments to other pregnant teachers, as there were about 4 or 5 of us. One of them I didn't know very well actually thanked me in the hall the next day. 


As for the "popping" questions, I have been known to say, "Watch out! I bet my water might break all over your expensive shoes there. I hear amniotic fluid is hard to clean!" Then they usually slink away. 


I have had and will have many more opportunities in life to be a sweet, uplifting, gracious woman. Pregnancy is NOT one of those times for me. 

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Originally Posted by Mamatoabunch View Post

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but I got lots of "You look ready to pop!" which was really unpleasant.
I dislike that comment the most.

Me too.  Last time I got into an argument with some childless man who would. not. believe. that I was due when I was.  "There's no way you'll make it!"  Hahaha.


Couldn't make him understand that a) he was wrong and b) if he was right it wouldn't be a good thing.

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