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BFS: I wish I was crafty. I definitely need to wear a pad every day now due to the discharge. I swear between the colostrum and the cervical/vaginal discharge, I feel like I'm leaking all the time! It will only get worse before it gets better, huh?


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Thanks ladies. Things have calmed down and I feel a lot better. The 'bleeding' stopped during the day, and then it looked like it was going to start again last night at work, but it was only a few drops, and now it's tapered off to nothing again. It never got any darker or more red, just light brown CF. My boobs still hurt, I'm still hot as heck, and I think 'morning sickness' has been kicking in. I'm not throwing up, but I just feel horrid, and nothing looks or sounds appetizing. I'm leaning on all these things. I think basically as long as the spotting stays away for a few more days I'll be able to calm down completely.

 

In positive, I'm hoping for the best news, I bought a high chair yesterday. lol. I wasn't planning on buying it for a while, since... it'll be a year before we need it, but it was the same one I'd be looking at through the kijiji ads (like craigslist) for a while, as being nice and plain, but having everything I wanted... and the girl posted it for $10. I couldn't pass it up. It's sitting in our living room right now, and the dog keeps sniffing it like crazy trying to figure out what we're bringing into the house...

 

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JJ ~ hug.gif. I'm so sorry you are having this stress. Sounds like things have calmed down a little bit. I'm hoping everything is ok for you. I might want to talk to my hcp about it if I were you. Maybe working is too much for you right now. IDK. I don't want to cause you more concern, especially if you can't stop working. It's just something to think about. Have you heard from the midwives yet? I meant to ask how all of that works there but can't remember if I did. When do you normally have your first prenatal? Here a lot of hcps wait until after 12w before they'll see you at all, except for maybe a quick visit just to confirm that you are pg.

I've had a couple of exciting days. DS3 fell off the bed Wednesday night and hurt his arm. He cried for a bit and then fell asleep so I figured he just bumped it. Sometime around 11 pm I scooted him over a little bit and he woke up screaming. His arm was completely limp. He wouldn't do anything with it. I took him to the ER where they decided he had a possible fracture. But the hospital here doesn't have any kind of pediatric orthopedic specialists so they referred me to a couple of places in Jacksonville, FL, which is about 2 hours away. After spending all night Wednesday and most of Thursday morning (we were there until around 5 am), I got about 3 hours sleep from 6-9 am and then had to start calling around to places in Jacksonville to see if anyone would see him to cast his arm. No one would. I had to take him to the ER at the naval hospital there and go through everything again. After that I got an appointment at the orthopedics clinic for today for him to get a cast. Luckily, I have a friend in Jacksonville with whom I was able to stay. So, now my 3yo has his arm in a cast. greensad.gif

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hug2.gif JJ, I'm glad you're feeling better!

 

I had my ultrasound today, after 4 reschedulings.  DH & I weren't able to settle the debate over finding out the sex or not, plus he couldn't be there today, so I didn't look & the tech put it in a sealed envelope for me.  Baby was measuring right on, but one kidney was "backed up"...just over the normal threshold (but compared to the other one, it looked rather dramatic).  The tech was very nonchalant about it & said that the kidneys are just starting to function at this point, so it could be that one hasn't "turned on" yet, but they'll want to do another ultrasound in the third trimester to check on it.  I'll google it after the girls are in bed to see what there is to freak out about.  orngtongue.gif  A friend gave me her copy of Spinning Babies and it was cool to see that Baby is positioned just how I thought.  Although s/he's got more room in there than it feels like!  We saw it stretch it's little legs out 90 degrees at the hips but straight from thigh to toe!  And the umbilical cord looked huge, but maybe that's just in proportion to the 1lb baby?


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MW: x-posted w/you...  I'm sorry about the broken arm!  N broke hers when she was 2.  It was so pathetic to see her with a cast on!  It didn't phase her much though.  lol.gif  She was with DH when it happened, and it took 2-3 hrs before he figured out something was really wrong & took her to the ER.  


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MW: x-posted w/you...  I'm sorry about the broken arm!  N broke hers when she was 2.  It was so pathetic to see her with a cast on!  It didn't phase her much though.  lol.gif  She was with DH when it happened, and it took 2-3 hrs before he figured out something was really wrong & took her to the ER.  


Glad to know I'm not the only one who misses stuff like that. I felt so bad that I just let him go to sleep. He only feel like 2 1/2 feet, at the most, onto a carpeted floor. I had no idea that could cause a fracture. Once I realized it was something serious I felt even worse because I just scooped him up off the floor and put him back on the bed. Looking back I probably should have known it was something more serious than a little bump because he wouldn't let me look at it or kiss it. Usually, if he gets hurt, he just wants a kiss and then he's fine. I know I can't have known since there was no obvious break. It's a very small, thin fracture. The first radiologist who looked at it wasn't even sure there was a fracture at all. But still...greensad.gif

Will you open the sealed envelope? Where did you go for your u/s, NHCL or Dr. Wright or somewhere else?

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H was spinning N in DH's office chair at his work & she flew out...from the way it broke, we think she probably hit it on the desk.  DH didn't see it happen.  Then he took them to his friends house & they watched a movie while he helped his friend w/something & she was more or less ok while she was distracted & not moving.  

 

Is the carpeted floor cement underneath?  Our new house is on a slab foundation & it is really worrying me for falls...the old house was on a crawl space so the floor had more give.

 

I don't know if we'll open the envelope or not!  If we do it won't be until next weekend at the earliest b/c DH won't be home until then & if we look he wants to look together.  I went to NHCL.


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JJ - Glad all is ok.  Whew, you had me worried with your silence!  GREAT deal on the high chair!!

 

MW - Oh what a bummer about your son's arm!  greensad.gif  I'm sorry.  He will be fine, I'm sure.  But aw, poor guy.

 

Shannon - Yes, when are you going to open the envelope!?! Oh goodness the suspense!  I'm sure if the tech wasn't concerned about the kidney, then it's something fairly common that resolves itself.  Right?  Hugs.  Don't worry. hug.gif

 

AFM - Baby is moving around so much!! I can't wait for DH to get back from his business trip so he can feel.  He has only felt the baby one time and it was a fluke.


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I don't know what's underneath this floor. We're in a hotel on the bottom floor. I think maybe he hit it on the nightstand. It all happened so fast that I didn't actually see how he fell. I just saw him sort of flip off the bed and then he was on the floor.

I'd wait til dh got home, too. I wasn't sure if he was home or not. I can barely keep track of where my dh is, much less anyone else's. lol.gif

What was it like at NHCL? I'm just curious for comparison. Will a doctor review your u/s and contact you or Olivia or will they just end a report to Olivia? I assume you don't just go by what the tech said.

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I don't have time to do personals unfortunately - Just touching base.

 

I am not returning to work - I called and told them that I would be happy to return if I could work from home (we have a 70 mile daily commute otherwise). And even though they've been telling me for 3 years it would be just "six months" it will still be at least "six months". So if they ever get the resources so that I can work from home we'll talk about me returning, otherwise I am currently a fulltime SAHM. Craziness!

 

Can anyone tell me what NFP/FAM looks like postpartum? Because we have to supplement I don't know that I can count on those first 6 months being "safe". My lochia has only just stopped in the past couple of days, what am I supposed to do now?

 

 


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What was it like at NHCL? I'm just curious for comparison. Will a doctor review your u/s and contact you or Olivia or will they just end a report to Olivia? I assume you don't just go by what the tech said.


Actually, IME the tech is usually the best feedback I get.  The level 2 we did in Wilmington w/N was different, but the tech at NH tells me everything & has got it all right so far.  She called the radiologist(?) while I was there to double check on the kidney thing...was on the phone right in front of me.  I'll ask for a copy of my results at my next appointment to bring to Olivia.  I still need to bring her my lab results, too!  At my friend's ultrasound the tech told her that her placenta was up high, then the report said it was low, nearly a previa, but when she went back in for another it was indeed up high.

 

lyterae: You're right, if you supplement you can't use LAM.  You have to establish a basic infertile pattern (BIP) and then any time you deviate from that you're not safe.  There are sections in both TAoNFP & TCOYF on charting while breastfeeding.  


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Actually, IME the tech is usually the best feedback I get.  The level 2 we did in Wilmington w/N was different, but the tech at NH tells me everything & has got it all right so far.  She called the radiologist(?) while I was there to double check on the kidney thing...was on the phone right in front of me.


I didn't mean that the tech was unreliable or not knowledgeable but that everything still had to be reviewed by a doctor. Even with a MD looking at DS3's x-rays, they still also had to be reviewed by a radiologist or maybe it was vice versa. KWIM? I've had techs tell me what they see and don't see on u/s. Dr. Wright's assistant does that and she's been correct every time. But, Dr. Wright still needs to look at the u/s pics, review her notes and he also does his own quick u/s to verify everything. I know that's not exactly how things are done at MTFs. They usually have a tech or lower doc (Is that a resident or a step below that?) do the direct patient care but they have to report to the docs in charge for review of everything they do.

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lyterae, how much are you supplementing? I forget. You're right that you can't rely on it, but if you're only supplementing a little, AF might hold off for a while yet. It could be confusing. What I would do (and plan to do) is just watch the CF and use a condom or abstain whenever it starts getting wetter than usual. Then when you get your first bleed you can start temping and return to business as usual.

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Wah, I don't want to think about charting and temping after this baby!!  But of course, at some point, I will.  B/c I refuse to use any hormonal bc ever again!!

I worry that once I'm fertile again I'll get the baby crazies!  Ack what if THAT happens!?  LOL!!

 

What do you guys think of Nicholas/Nicolas?  It's pretty popular, I know, but it's also classic.  The only thing that gives me pause is there is a brand of pjs and slippers called Nick and Nora -- do lots of people know that brand?  Will they make that connection and think we're corny?  DH also said that we could name him Nicholas but just call him Dax.  There's no reason not to.  Ukwim?   WDYT?


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I like Nicholas. I was familiar with the Nick and Nora combo but didn't know it was a brand of something. I just thought it sort of flowed together. You certainly call him Dax. That would work.

I don't really want to think about temping and charting, either. I don't know what we'll do after this baby. My MW gave my dh a lecture about getting a vasectomy asap the one and only time he was able to come to one of my prenatals. I was pretty mad about that. She said it as if she thought it was his fault I kept getting pg and miscarrying. She told him that I didn't need to go through that anymore.

First, he's not the one who's against him getting a vas. I am. He would have done it years ago if I had let him. Second, it's not up to him and certainly not up to her whether or not I can go through risking anymore miscarriages. That should be up to me. Third, I'm definitely done after this baby. I wouldn't be ready to even start thinking about having another baby until this one is 2yo, which would make me 43. With my track record, that would mean not actually having a baby until I am 45+. I know I don't want to have any more babies at 45. Plus, I don't want to risk having boy #5.

I don't think my dh trusts FAM/NFP, though. That's sort of my fault since I convinced him to use it and then I kept getting pg. But that was because we weren't really following the rules, which I didn't press but, imo, it was mostly his failure. I don't know if I can convince him that it will work. We talked about it after the lecture and I told him I would be fine with abstaining/condoms rather than withdrawal since he obviously doesn't have the control for that. I don't think he wants to do that, though. So, we shall see. I did tell him he better come back from Afghanistan with all of his body parts in tact. lol.gif

lyeterae ~ Once you start supplementing with anything, even a pacifier or a bottle of expressed breastmilk, you can't rely on LAM anymore. Shannon covered what to do. Determine your BIP and then use precautions whenever there is any CF wetter than that. Do you remember how quickly your cycles returned before? That might give an idea of when you can expect it this time.

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MW: Yeah, the tech isn't a radiologist, so she sends the stuff to the radiologist, and then I get to ask the MW questions at my next appointment (which is Tues, so not long!).

 

Carrie: I like Nicholas, but I'd be worried about the Nick & Nora combo, too.  On the one hand they sound cute together, on the other hand, people might think you're totally in love with the pj's.  wink1.gif

 

While we're talking names, DH & I talked a bit about names today.  We've been pretty solid on Andrew for a boy.  It's a family name plus the name of a friend of DH's who is like a brother.  But DH wants Eustazie (also a family name) for a middle name.  I do not like Andrew Eustazie (last name starts with G, is three syllables & ends in "ski").  I think I could go with Miles Eustazie if he's stuck on Eustazie though.  What do you guys think?

 

For a girl, we both like Leia (but are concerned about the Star Wars thing).  We both kind of like Rebecca...it's odd, we used to like it a lot more, but we've both drifted away from it.  And then he has two that he likes & I'd tolerate w/a nickname: Helena (Lena), and Delilah (Lila).  And I've got another that he's ok with: Mira.  


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lyterae: You're right, if you supplement you can't use LAM.  You have to establish a basic infertile pattern (BIP) and then any time you deviate from that you're not safe.  There are sections in both TAoNFP & TCOYF on charting while breastfeeding.  

 

 Thank you, I've read up more on establishing a BIP and sounds sure enough. Currently the idea of getting pregnant is downright frightening so I want to be sure it doesn't happen right now, but hormonal birth control is right out...
 

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lyterae, how much are you supplementing? I forget. You're right that you can't rely on it, but if you're only supplementing a little, AF might hold off for a while yet. It could be confusing. What I would do (and plan to do) is just watch the CF and use a condom or abstain whenever it starts getting wetter than usual. Then when you get your first bleed you can start temping and return to business as usual.


 Our current supplement is about 20 ounces a day, my supply has topped at about 6 ounces. So he takes all I can give him and nurses about 6-8 times a day.

 

 

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lyeterae ~ Once you start supplementing with anything, even a pacifier or a bottle of expressed breastmilk, you can't rely on LAM anymore. Shannon covered what to do. Determine your BIP and then use precautions whenever there is any CF wetter than that. Do you remember how quickly your cycles returned before? That might give an idea of when you can expect it this time.

 

 

Last time my cycles didn't return until 5 months(a few weeks after I stopped nursing) , same story though I think my supply was a little bit less. So I don't expect them back yet, and because I hope to continue to nurse longer this time I don't know if they will stay away any longer or not. 

 

Okay, so the plan is to start charting and temping again. I'll take 2-3 weeks to establish my BIP and then we'll go from there. Thank you for your help! Last time around with the PPD I was on antidepressants and birth control (granted being depressed really doesn't do much for your sex life anyway).

 

 


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Last time around with the PPD I was on antidepressants and birth control (granted being depressed really doesn't do much for your sex life anyway).

 

 


Neither does hormonal birth control and that alone makes me depressed. That's one reason I refuse to ever take it again. Last time I was on it I became suicidal.

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There should be a statue of limitations on reasons why husbands veto baby names.  Seriously.  Your old boss who you don't even work for anymore's son's name?  Really?!  Come on.  

 

I very diplomatically told Chris that if he's going to nix every name I suggest he needs to start coming up with some suggestions.  AND if he wants a name that no one in our life has ever used or heard, he needs to be more open to unusual names.  That's fair, right?

 

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Haha, Carrie. I had to tell my dh something similar. It wasn't until I just told him I was going to name the baby Brenden that he started actively looking at names. Here's the list he just sent me, in response to the list I sent him this morning, I guess. You guys should get a kick out of this because there's a name on there that I told you all he had vetoed when I suggested it. lol.gif

Reamon (ray-mon): Celtic boys name meaning "counsellor and protector"
Kane: Irish meaning "little battler"
Nolan: Irish meaning "champion"

I do not like the first one at all. It's too much like Raymond. We've already discussed Kane several times. That was one of the names I had originally picked and suggested to dh but then decided it was a no go because it doesn't have then -an ending sound. And the last one...you guys should know. So, maybe that will be it.

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Haha, Carrie. I had to tell my dh something similar. It wasn't until I just told him I was going to name the baby Brenden that he started actively looking at names. Here's the list he just sent me, in response to the list I sent him this morning, I guess. You guys should get a kick out of this because there's a name on there that I told you all he had vetoed when I suggested it. lol.gif

Reamon (ray-mon): Celtic boys name meaning "counsellor and protector"
Kane: Irish meaning "little battler"
Nolan: Irish meaning "champion"

I do not like the first one at all. It's too much like Raymond. We've already discussed Kane several times. That was one of the names I had originally picked and suggested to dh but then decided it was a no go because it doesn't have then -an ending sound. And the last one...you guys should know. So, maybe that will be it.


Yay! Get him to agree to Nolan! I love it so much w/your other boys' names!

 


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Cheer with me, I just finished my first of two back to backs for this week, and I have two days off now! Granted, I have to study tomorrow and write my last final exam EVER on Tuesday, but at least I can sit on my couch and not move for the most part.

 

Tomorrow I'm going to give the midwives a call again to see if I can get an update on whether I've been accepted or declined. I'm getting so pessimistic that I haven't heard yet. Then based on what I hear back, I'll either tlak to them, or call my GP, but I've got to do something about this spotting. It's calmed down to literally just spots here and there, and it is only light brown, definately no red or pink at all... but it seems like everytime I do anysort of real activity (and this includes standing during a shift, and walking back and forth for several hours), then more of it gets "knocked loose". On one hand, I remind myself that if it's old blood, it's not like it's actually -causing- bleeding each time I'm active, but it does make me ervous still. I'm still iffy about getting an US, but I might ask if it starts up again once I go back to work on Wednesday. I have ONE pregnancy test left, so I'm going to take it tomorrow, and cross my fingers it's even darker than before. I think that will make me feel better. But still... if the dr says "well we can put you off work for a bit..." I'd be inclined to take it. I want the money to be able to sock into savings for later... but I also feel like a week or so off to just destress and clear my mind would be very very well received.

 

About the midwife... I forget all the questions asked, but I think normally the first visit is around 10 weeks along. Our scheduled ultrasounds are for 20, and apparently other than that, they don't -routinely- do any others. Of course my epxeirence with most OB's has been they find reasons to schedule lots more, but that's another issue.

 

It's funny MW, because the name Ryan has been bouncing around my head for a while. I've always liked it, but for some reason I can't get it out of my head lately. I haven't asked DH about it, because I'm still torn, and I think part of me is worried he'll turn it down. A friend of mine from high school, who was killed a few years ago in a car accident, was named Nolan Ryan and I've always lvoed the combination-- it makes sense they would be good "brother" names.


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Yay for name agreement! go baby Nolan!

 

Carrie - the Nick and Nora combo doesn't bother me a bit (honestly I was thinking the movie, Nick and Nora's Infinite Playlist, not pajamas!)

 

as for Leia, I like it, and I think we are enough out of the realm of real star wars popularity that her classmates may have no idea who Princess Leia is. I did talk a friend of mine out of naming her baby completely after a Star Trek Deep Space 9 charachter called Kiera Narisse. The baby was named Chloe Narisse instead (I wish she had kept the Kiera and went for something other than Narisse as a middle name - but I do like Chloe too). It's not my kid though, I am grateful I got asked for input.

 

JJ: I really think that you need to see someone asap - I have a feeling everything is OK, but you might need to be taken off work, or put on light duty for a while, since your work seems to aggravate the bleeding/spotting/whatever.  I am not a big fan of ultrasounds for the sake of ultrasounds, but I think in cases where they can give you some peace of mind, they are priceless. The days you have off, take it easy and put your feet up as much as possible.and drink lots of water.

 

AFM: not much here, a busy weekend. I notice the days I am less caffinated (I never have a whole lot, usually just my cup of coffee in the morning) I notice the baby moving a little less - and when he or she does move on those days it is a slow rolling type movement. On my coffee days, baby is more pokey. It could just be coincidence, and who am I to say that the baby may just be going like, give me more! LOL I am so looking foward to when DH and DS can feel the baby move. I think I have another 10 weeks or so before they can, if this pregnancy goes like my last.

 


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Last time around with the PPD I was on antidepressants and birth control (granted being depressed really doesn't do much for your sex life anyway).

 

 

 




Neither does hormonal birth control and that alone makes me depressed. That's one reason I refuse to ever take it again. Last time I was on it I became suicidal.


  Same for me, the only reason it didn't make it worse after Becca was because of the antidepressants.

 


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JJ: I really think that you need to see someone asap - I have a feeling everything is OK, but you might need to be taken off work, or put on light duty for a while, since your work seems to aggravate the bleeding/spotting/whatever.  I am not a big fan of ultrasounds for the sake of ultrasounds, but I think in cases where they can give you some peace of mind, they are priceless. The days you have off, take it easy and put your feet up as much as possible.and drink lots of water.

 

 

I kind of agree with this in regards to the u/s thing.  I mean, no they can't stop something from happening, but the peace of mind they can bring when something unusual is going on can be priceless.

 

Lyterae - hugs on the ppd.  I had it mildly after DD and am looking into placenta encapsulation for after this LO.  Hopefully I can find someone to do it for me that isn't too expensive.

 

AFA birth control after this baby goes...I'm thinking it'll be condoms and charting once my cycles are back.  I don't know when my cycles come back b/c after DD I had Mirena put in right away.  That was so dumb.  Idk what I was thinking.  I didn't do anywhere near enough research on it before I was like, yeah no babies for 5 years sounds good, book my appt, done deal.

 

Chris goes for his blood work today.  I hope we get results quickly.  If he has both genes, we figure it's about a 50% chance I'll get to nurse on demand.  25% chance not at all, and 25% chance at least some.  BLAH.  I just want to know.  I find myself not doing things b/c so much of what I do with new babies revolves around nursing.  I was going to buy a glider to have for nursing -- whoops, wait with that.  Was going to buy some nipple butter --whoops, nope, gotta wait with that.  Was looking at nursing bras -- oops.  It's just annoying.  I want answers.  I don't want to wait forever to find out Chris's status.

 

I think I've decided against doing an amnio, though, regardless.  I've read that doing them in the 3rd tri is a little harder b/c there is less fluid, and I'm not sure I want to take the risk.  I feel like being a parent means doing what's best for your child, and not necessarily what is most convenient for you.  What's best for this baby would probably mean not risking an amnio just for my planning purposes.  What do you think of that logic?  Is it skewed?  

 

MW - I asked DH if he liked Nolan, and would you believe he didn't react violently and said it could work for our baby?  Hahaha!  I'm chuckling.  It sure would be funny if both our sons ended up with that name.  LOL!

 

 

 


 

 


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MW, I like your strategy! winky.giflol.gif Maybe if I just start referring to the baby as Oliver or Owen DH will either a) get used to it, or b) come up with something we both like!

I'll be charting/using LAM/condoms after the baby is born here too. I'll never use hormonal BC again either. If we ever do anything else, it will be DH getting a vasectomy. But I'm not sure if there might be another baby sometime in our future, so for the forseeable future, condoms and charting it is. I actually love charting and am kind of looking forward to it. winky.gif Maybe not the part where my CF is confusing while my cycles are gearing back up...

I'm actually planning to start temping at about 36 weeks and see if my temp drops the morning of labor. It makes sense that it would, and I know it works for dogs...has anyone heard of that working for humans? It would be kinda cool. Of course, I'll probably go into labor in the middle of the night... eyesroll.gif

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Carrie: re: the amnio - that is completely up to you. Amnio freaks me out a little (not really the needle- though it is a big needle) but I do think it can be a useful tool when needed. I like the wait and see approach myself.

 

I am glad DH and I are on the same page with names. much less stress!

 

As for birth control PP. . . my cycles returned, albeit unreliably, at 4 months PP. now, we did use a pacifier (if your child is a thumb sucker, does that also negate LAM? DS stopped using a pacifier around 4 months old and went to his thumb) pretty much from birth. But I did feed on demand. I WOH 2 days a week and I cannot be both food and comfort. We plan on using condoms and tracking CF/temp once this one is born. If my cycles are as wacky this time PP as last, I don't know how truly reliable that will be, but we (well, I for sure, DH is in doubt) want more children at some point, so if we had an oops, I think I could be ok with that.

 

I didn't have any PPD for which I am truly grateful. If I were prone to it, I would look at the placental encapsulization. (don't know how that works with a hospital birth, but still)

 

BFS: in the early months, I use a moby wrap to babywear, then I move to  soft structured carrier, the Ergo for us, but now we use a Boba, it is wider and taller, and fits both DH and I more comfortably. And it is cheaper than the Ergo! I use just a regular diaper bag. Well, I got a Petunia PIcklebottom boxy backback off of eBay. I love it! I would like something smaller for shorter trips, and for DS when when the new one is born, but haven't decided what yet.


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Shannon ~ TBH, I don't like Eustazie. But, since it would be a middle name I don't think it matters too much. I also don't think it matters much if it doesn't sound great with your last name. The only times I can think of when they would be used together is filling out official forms and documents so it would only be on paper. I don't think anyone ever uses their full name like that anymore. KWIM? I am a bit partial to Andrew. That's ds1's middle name. I'm not a big fan of Miles. If I had to choose between the two, I'd go with Andrew Eustazie (Am I spelling that correctly?).

JJ ~ I'm glad you checked in. I was beginning to worry a little and was going to ask where you were. I was trying to remember what your works is like. If you are on your feet all or most of the time, it might be a good idea to ask for a chair or stool to sit on. They should make special accommodations for you in your delicate condition. winky.gif And, yay for the last paper/exam! joy.gif I remember those days and am so glad they are over.

Be careful about Ryan is meanings matter. It means Little Prince, and believe me, my Ryan fits himself into that mold perfectly! lol.gif I thought it meant red, and since his dad has(had) red hair, I thought it would be fitting.

Carrie ~ That's funny about Nolan because another name I like is Logan. I was thinking yesterday that it would be funny if both our boys ended up with the name Logan. The only thing holding me back from putting Logan on my short list is that there is a girl in ds2's TKD class named Logan. It's a pretty superficial reason, though, so not something that completely knocks that name out for me if we get down to the wire. I told dh we could consider Kane, Reese, Reid and Sloan for middle names. I also think I'm going to branch out and look for names that are not Irish or Celtic just to see what else I can find.

Seems like the odds are still stacked in your favor with the galactosemia. From what you've said, there's only a 25% chance you won't be able to nurse at all, correct? That means 75% chance that you will be able to nurse at least some.

BFS ~ I'm not sure what's special about that bag. Can you explain? I looked on the website but really didn't get it. Is it just because it uses all soft materials? Do diaper bags have hard parts? I don't use a regular diaper bag. I have a canvas Roxie bag that I bought at the Marine Corps Exchange in Hawaii. There are no hard parts except the zipper. I doesn't have separate compartments except for one small, zipper pocket inside but it has always worked fine for me. I don't need separate compartments because I don't take bottles or whatever else others might take with them. I only need a place for diapers, wipes and a change of clothes. If I want to use it as my purse so I don't have to carry two bags, I put my wallet and keys in the small inside pocket and I'm good to go. My dh was a little miffed about the bag because it's a girly bag with pink on it but it's mostly white/natural.

I had not heard or read anything about temps dropping when labor starts with animals or humans so IDK. It would be interesting to temp and see after the fact.

AFM, somehow in the last few days my butt has gotten huge! I guess maybe it's from all the restaurant food I've been eating. I've been trying to eat salads and fruit and not snack. I'm afraid I may have to buy some larger maternity clothes before this is over. I was really hoping I'd be able to get by with what I already had. Nothing else really going on with me. We've all got colds now. This getting sick every other week is really driving me crazy. I don't understand why we keep getting sick.

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Some things I forgot:

Carrie ~ On the amnio, I would only do an amnio if it would help save the baby. In other words, if the results of the amnio would tell you ahead of time that you absolutely cannot feed baby breastmilk when you otherwise would and baby could die, then I'd get it. If it won't really make that much difference in how baby is fed in the beginning while you are waiting for test results, I would not do it. If you wait until after baby is born, you will give formula and pump to keep up your supply until you get the test results, correct? I know you said it can take as little as a day or two or as much as a week or more to get the results. Can you get a guarantee that it would be expedited so you wouldn't have to pump for a week and stress about your supply?

As for babywearing, I have a SPF50 or 70 mesh ring sling that was perfect for Hawaii because I could wear it in the water and it dried quickly. I have a cotton pouch that is great for quick runs into a store. The pouch and the ring sling don't work well for me for longer carries. My back starts to hurt very badly. I have a mei tai that was my fave carrier for longer carrying/walks. I also have a wrap that I never really liked. I found it too time consuming to get on and cumbersome to wear and I didn't like being stuck in it once I got it on and went out whether baby was in it or not. It just isn't my style. My dh liked the mei tai the best. He could do a good back carry with that. I couldn't use it for a back carry very well because it cut into my shoulders (even though the straps were padded), always felt like it was going to slide off or just looked strange if I criss-crossed the straps on my chest. Holy lift and separate, Batman!

I have been thinking about getting an Ergo or Sutemi because those look easier to use than the mei tai, especially in a back carry. They are pricey, though, and I don't want to spend a ton of money on yet another carrier that I might not use much.

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MW: I love the Ergo/Boba for DS - we started using it around 5-6 months I think. It is well worth the money if bought new, however check diaperswappers, here, ebay, I am sure you can find a used one for much less $$. for me it is worth the investment since I plan on using it, or having DH use it, for probaby up to DS's 2nd birthday, if not beyond. When we are out and about and DS is tired, it is the best way to get him to sleep and keep him asleep. I can't really figure out how to get him in a back carry without help though. I need someone to help me put him in it.

 

I have thought about a mesh sling, but have been reluctant to buy one. Also torn between re-using my moby wrap or getting a woven wrap. any opinions on stretchy vs. woven for a newborn?


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