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#61 of 184 Old 08-16-2012, 08:40 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Monkey, I am at the checking-in-obsessively phase with you! I can relate to your patience - one my due date with DS, who arrived just shy of 41w after eviction, my OB called me the happiest pg lady he'd ever seen. At that point I did feel ready - I wasn't quite as wise as you are! yes, those first days (okay months) are super intense - but I was mostly content to stay pg until DS was ready. Everyone is right, you know. Baby boy is going to show up on the day you have plans! Lots of good news too from the insurance and about the car. I am not surprised at all that so many people turned out to celebrate you during the second shower. :) I didn't even realize that you could rent carriers, so thank you for sharing the site! I am considering whether I want to rent a wrap from them. I can't decide if I'll use it enough, or if I'll end up paying its purchase price by the time I return it. (Does anyone happen to know a good site for buying used babywearing stuff?)

 

deportivo, welcome to the sunny side!! Sending you lots of good thoughts! I am so glad you said that about the whole relaxation bit. I also was a wreck by the time I finally got pg. I mean, I was working hard to stay positive and I felt positive about the cycle when it happened. But for the first year and a half of ttc#2, I was able to be much more at peace. Even through my whole complicated m/c. It was only after that, over the last yearish of it, when we were finally able to try again, that I started coming undone. My rare endocrine tumor and a tricky failed pg threw my body out of whack, and it took modern medicine to put ti back together. That's why I was able to get pg. I shudder all the time thinking that I had I been born even a generation ago, honestly I would probably never have been able to have more children. And I might even have lost some of my vision. So scary and sad to think about. But now onto the happy - 13w! I hope you only have a few more weeks of morning sickness ahead of you, and then can enjoy the loveliness of the second tri!

 

Valarie, congratulations on your beautiful family! If you are thinking of ttc#2 you may also want to join the IF One Thread in ttc>fertility>infertility. I think I can speak for everyone when I say we are all hoping more of the amazing ladies over there who shared out journeys join us here soon. They will offer you tons of support. 

 

wissa, okay EDD buddy, I am glad I'm not alone feeling like I need to slow down just now. I am still not sure when it's contrax feeling, but grocery shopping feels...unduly tiring for sure. DH, my sis, and my mom are officially not letting me do it anymore, so I am off the hook. How has the kicking been since you posted? I really hope you are feeling reassured. Speaking of which, thank you so much for the reassuring words about my whole GD debacle (more below) - I hadn't realized how guilty and defensive I'd been feeling till your words helped release my tension about it like a cloud of steam! Just remembering that this was about my pancreas and my body growing two babies, and not about my OB accusing me of eating a steady diet of doughnuts helped tremendously.

 

AFM, well, the whole GD thing seems to have turned into a nonissue. I can't decide if I should be frustrated or grateful! I day I had my appt. to bring in my numbers from the week of taking my sugars (and not being able to eat for two hours after every meal), the office was running way behind. The dr. almost forgot to ask me about it. I gave him my numbers that I had dutifully written down in a chart and he was like, "Okay, these are fine." Then he filled in some blank on my chart in the computer. I was almost afraid to ask, but he mumbled something about "I just need to fill this in because they'll check it when you get to l&d." So I think he wrote negative? Then I handed in my numbers for my file and that was that. I am still a little on edge about it, like they are suddenly going to pull something on me, but I think it's pretty much over.

 

Then yesterday, I had a little bit of a scare...I have been pretty much feeling great, but in the past week or so, I've just been a little more uncomfortable, especially sitting in regular chairs. The heat is getting to me a little, so weird for me because normally I'm always cold. I don't have as much of an appetite. Then yesterday out of the blue I started feeling some pretty intense cramping. The OB had me come in for an NST and thankfully everything looked great, nothing worrying. However, they also did an exam and it turns out I am dilated 1cm. I was just so surprised, because with DS my stubborn cervix refused to do anything at all. The doctor reassured me that this could be nothing more than a second baby, but still told me to take it easy. Not bed rest easy, but keep walking around, housework, etc. to a minimum. I spent most of yesterday lying down and I feel much better today. I am a little bit more in getting-ready nesting mode mentally though!

 

Hope you are well, my girs! I always look forward to your updates even though I don't often have the time to write my normal novels. ;)


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Since I know people are stalking, just wanted to drop by to say, no, no baby or labor yet. More contractions and spotting this morning after DTD, and I think I may have for real lost my mucus plug a few minutes ago, but only time will tell!

 

Back with more later, but just wanted to say to gozal - YAY for the GD thing being resolved!


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Okay, after a night of contractions and spotting, one of the midwives is on her way to my apartment to check me and the baby and see if it's time to head to the birth center. Not sure what answer I'm hoping for!

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Okay, after a night of contractions and spotting, one of the midwives is on her way to my apartment to check me and the baby and see if it's time to head to the birth center. Not sure what answer I'm hoping for!

 

At this point you just have to go with it!!!  You've waited a long time for this day, don't wish it away until later.  (And honestly, if your're spotting I'd go for sooner rather than later.)
 

 

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Monkey!!! So exciting! I couldn't have said it better than our Wissa. Sending out tons of good thoughts and prayers to you!


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Go Monkey go!


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IUI#4 success! Welcome Guy V 11/14/12

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He is here... More later, but a few details in my DDC. Need to go try to feed him!

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YAH MONKEY!! Congrats!!!!


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Congratulations!! Yeah.


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Congrats Monkey!!!!

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Congrats Monkey! Great job Mama!


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Yay again!


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Congrats Monkey!!!  Can't wait to hear all about it!!!!  Happy Birthday little Pirate :-)



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Welcome baby pirate!!! Congratulations Monkey! I cannot wait to hear about it, of course! joy.gif


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He is here... More later, but a few details in my DDC. Need to go try to feed him!

WOO HOO!!!

 

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Yay!!! Congrats Monkey!! Welcome little Pirate. :) Can't wait to hear how everything happened!


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Flyby pic of him today - sorry for still no details - dh is getting tired of bouncing a gassy baby without any help from mommy. Maybe more tomorrow? Don't know, baby is needy right now!


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Monkey, I'm melting!! He is way, way too cute. Look at those cheeks! That is a baby monkey I spotted on his shirt, right? Don't even worry about posting right now, just enjoy your new family of three. (But remind yourself and DH that mommy also needs to recover for l&d and it might be a little uneven in the bouncing department right now - something I leared the hard way with DS. We'll see if I learn to take my own advice...) 


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Monkey - What a sweetheart!  Looks like he has got a little baby fuzz for hair, so cute!  
Yes. They are very needy at this point!  It does get better I promise!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Has your milk come in yet?  I'll bet he will quiet down a lot once that happens.  --- And gripe water, I hear works wonders.

 

Also, my DS was a bouncer...he loved for someone to bounce him on one of those exercise balls.  So, maybe your DH could try that.

 

(And I just want to add...If you did tear make sure your mid-wives stitched you up right.  If not, it can cause problems later.  However, since you had CNMs it shouldn't be a problem.)
 


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Monkey - thread crashing to say Congrats!! He is precious!!!!!

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Mostly copied from BSL Grads: Newborn parenting... not all it is cracked up to be! Little guy has been enormously fussy the last few days, especially at night, so Pirate and I have been doing shifts staying up with a baby that is often screaming inconsolably. He is about to wake up, it sounds like, so no more for now! Except to say good eye to gozal - That is a monkey on the onesie!


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Lots that I should respond to, but I think I'm going to go back to sleep while I can. Just wanted to update and say that my milk has come in, and we're doing way, way better with breastfeeding, which is make life (especially at night) much better for everyone. Poor dh can't seem to sleep/get back to sleep, so he's really struggling. I have my moments, still, but I am doing okay. I'm a little daunted by how life-consuming it is going to be to feed this little guy, but I'm trying to remember how much I wanted to be a SAHM, to make this my life. Baby is so precious and cute and I worry about him so, so much, but really enjoy looking at his sweet sleeping face. Slowly but surely we are making it through each new hurdle. I'm sure I'll be waiting for the "easy" part for the rest of my life, but after days of worrying about no dirty diapers, I'll take a pile of pee-soaked clothes and blankets with gratitude for now!

 

Hope everyone is doing well, and maybe someday I can actually properly get back to people!


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Congratulations Monkey! He looks adorable! Take care of yourself and we'll wait patiently for your updates! :-)

 

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Monkey - Newborns are not easy.  Some are easier than others.  My experience with a newborn was pretty much the most miserable I've ever been.  I had days when I couldn't tell you the last day I had a shower!!  Hang in there.  It takes time to figure out what will work and what doesn't.   

 

Gozal - You most definitely are not the only one having to slow down.  It's so nice that you have people to go the store for you.  My DH would go, but he doesn't always come back with I what I really wanted.  Plus, I hate to ask him to go after he has been at work all day.  For now I just make a lot of mini trips instead of one big trip.  Sometime in Sept. I'm going to Sam's or Costco and buying lots of things in bulk so will have stuff for a while after the baby is born. 


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Thread crashing to say congrats Monkey!!!  He is absolutely adorable!  I'll have to agree, newborns are way harder than anyone lets on to :) Sounds like you are doing a great job...keep enjoying the sleepless nights/days with your tiny baby, it will be over before you know it luxlove.gif 


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Monkey, he's sooooo cute!!! Congrats again! yah!

 

Gozal, oh my gosh, where has the time gone! you're almost there, lady! How are you feeling!?

 

Hi to everyone else! Still lurking to see how everyone is doing although it has gotten much busier so i haven't been able to follow as closely as I would like. Everything going well here, although I'm dreading going back to work next week. Sigh. I didn't think I would love being around my kids as much as I do. I love my work but I looooove seeing the little ones doing yet another new thing. 

 

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Okay, baby is sleeping on my chest in the Ergo, so I'm going to see if I can do a real update! (Of course, as soon as the key started clacking, he wiggled, so we'll see!)

 

Thanks to all the stalkers who popped in to congratulate me. Still cheering you on! (Sila, Cait, Blue, Milk, Belly, and anyone else I missed!) I am also stalking/cheering/praying for all of you in your various stages of this IF journey.

 

gozal - Hope you are doing okay and being able to get some rest. As far as the rental thing goes for baby carriers, it's on a month-to-month basis, and they send you everything you need to mail it back, including packaging, so it's super easy to just drop it in the mail when you want to return it. I'm glad I rented the ring sling, because it is NOT working for me at all - glad I paid less than $20 to find that out! I do kind of want to get someone who really knows how they work to help me with it in person, but after multiple watchings of the instructional videos and many attempts on my own, I'm not that excited about it. Oh, and when I posted about daddy being tired of bouncing the baby - he was okay with bouncing him, he just wanted me to come to bed, too!

 

wissa - I wish I had an exercise ball! Maybe I can put it on my Christmas list. :) Baby boy definitely does love bouncing! I thought about gripe water, but wasn't sure if I should try it. He is doing better now, so I'm leaving that decision on hold for the time being. As far as my stitches, well, I hope they did them right, too! But I did have them checked at 9 days postpartum by a different midwife than the one who did them, and she said everything looked great, like I was stitched up perfect and everything was healing as it should. (Which does not mean it didn't/doesn't HURT!) Since the comment about the stitches was completely unsolicited on my part, I trust that they were done well. And yeah, the mw who did them was a CNM with many years of experience. Also, I'm glad to know I'm not a complete weirdo for struggling with his newborn days. Everyone else is just drooling over him, and everyone who's had kids talks about how fast they grow up, and I'm like... I don't think I've gotten enough sleep to think straight in a year. Even though he's only two weeks old. Which isn't to say that I don't drool over him sometimes, too... I just also cry on his poor little head sometimes!

 

gozal & wissa - You ladies are next, and Gem isn't too far behind! Getting excited for you! I actually just got a text from one of my best friends, the one who was due a month after me... she is in labor! So my little guy was 4 days "late" and hers is probably going to be 5 or 6 days "early", so there going to be even closer together than we thought.

 

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Okay, trying again - potty break turned into a potty/nursing/nap/lunch/laundry/etc. break!

 

AFM, doing okay. Doing much better today since Baby Bird only woke me up once in the night. Okay, actually, I woke HIM up, because it had been 4 hours or more since he'd eaten, and I was definitely ready for him to do so! Apparently, at some time after, or possibly before (or both) this feeding, Pirate was waking up every so often to bounce him because he was making noise. (Yes, my baby is now sleeping in a bouncy seat. If this is a safety hazard, I think I'd live happier not knowing that.) So I slept from the end of his 3:30 AM feeding until the alarm went off at 7, when I woke up and fed him again before taking Pirate to work. (Yes, Pirate's car is still down for the count - maybe more on that later. It at least starts now.) I feel bad not hearing him, but I guess he couldn't have been that loud or that hungry if Pirate was able to bounce him back to sleep. Taking care of a newborn is pretty exhausting. All I really get done in a day is basically food, sleep, and potty for me and the baby. Maybe a load of laundry or a simple meal if I'm lucky. Two days ago, my mom came to help, and I managed to get in a pediatrician visit (turns out congestion is normal in newborns?) before she came, and with her help, a trip to the grocery store and to the children's store to get an Ergo and a nursing bra. Nursing bra experience took FOREVER, due to a super nice but not particularly competent first fitter (second person, the LC who owns the store, was much faster and more helpful), plus a baby that started howling with hunger halfway through the experience. Luckily, I was able to just feed Baby Bird (as I have dubbed him, based on his constant making of what I call "baby bird mouth", aka, Feed Me Mom! face) in the lactation consult room. Okay, wait, just realized that wasn't two days ago, that was yesterday... yeah, I'm pretty blitzed. I've really kind of stopped trying to keep track of how much sleep I'm getting/not getting and when.

 

Rewinding back... a really short birth story. I really need to try to type up something coherent and longer at some point, but I just haven't had that kind of time with my hands free. So, after I posted that Saturday about the midwife coming to check me, she did. She got there right after Pirate had served me a breakfast of steak, eggs, and pancakes. I was impressed by his ambitiousness. I'm not sure if I ever had the restless energy of early labor, but he sure did! So she chatted with me while I finished my breakfast, then did a cervical check. 4 cm dilated and 95% effaced. (This was about 10 AM.) I was so, so happy to hear that my being up most of the night with contractions wasn't for nothing. I would have cried if that had gone on for days, like it does for some people. Honestly, I think she was a little surprised - she hadn't seemed too convinced I was in labor when I spoke to her on the phone. And I understand - contractions were probably about 5 minutes apart or less, but only about 30 seconds long when I called around 8 AM. I was still semi-able to talk through them, and was totally normal between them. Anyway, she recommended that we "mosey" to the birth center at that point - maybe go for a walk around the apartment complex or the mall first, or even get in the swimming pool. She also confirmed what had seemed to me to be the case - the baby had flipped from being LOA (considered the most favorable vertex presentation) to being ROA (still vertex, and possible to deliver that way, but more risk of the baby going posterior). Still not exactly sure when he did that, but I had definitely been feeling much more baby on the right than I was used to. Anyway, because I was having back labor, and because of the concerns about him flipping posterior, she recommended that I bend over pretty far with each contraction to keep the baby anterior and to make it easier for Pirate to do some counterpressure. Because of that, I nixed going walking. I didn't feel like being in public and bending over every few minutes, and I needed the counterpressure (though not as much as I would need it later!). I did walk around the apartment some, take a shower, and finish packing things. We hit the road an hour or so later, and stopped at Panera Bread for some lunch to take to the birth center. We got there a little before 1 PM. When they checked me, I was 6 cm dilated and close to completely effaced. I had been worried that contractions in the car would be unmanageable, but they weren't that bad. They were about 3 minutes apart by the time we made it to the birth center, but still pretty short. Or maybe (more likely) I wasn't really aware they were starting until several seconds after they did. Anyway, things were seeming like they were tough, and I wanted Pirate doing counterpressure with every contraction, but I was managing. I was breathing through them and coping. After awhile, they filled up the birth tub and I eventually got in. It was nice more because I could move my fat, swollen legs more easily in the water than on land, so switching positions was easier. But any time I switched positions, especially if I was on my hands and knees, contractions got really hard to handle, which made me not want to do it. Things were getting more intense, but I was still not seeing how this would ever lead to a baby coming out of me. It just felt like really horrible intestinal cramps, like the food poisoning of a lifetime. At some point in the tub, I cried about how I couldn't do this any more - it hurt too much, and it wasn't getting over. At some point, they got me out of the tub to do a cervical check, and because I felt like I needed to go to the bathroom. The contractions I had laying on the bed while they did the check were murderous. They told me I was only 8 cm dilated, and I wanted to cry. I would guess this was around 4, maybe 5 PM. Really, I have no idea. That was the only cervical check in the whole pregnancy I was disappointed by. (Although through all of pregnancy, labor, and delivery, I only had 6 checks!) They tried to have me lay on my side so I could rest a little more between contractions, but contractions laying down were so agonizingly painful I couldn't do it. Two contractions later, I was on the toilet. Although I'm fairly certain now (and probably should have known then) that I was feeling a baby, not a bowel movement, at the time I was convinced I needed to go. I had gone to the bathroom a few times earlier in labor, and contractions on the toilet were not fun. I'd gone by myself before, but there was no way I was facing contractions alone at that point. So Pirate came with me. The contractions were absolutely brutal. At this point, I was screaming through them, and grabbing Pirate's sides for all I was worth. I contemplated biting him once or twice. Don't ask me why. It seemed like it might help with the pain, but I restrained myself. They were (or at least seemed to be) incredibly close together. I would only be starting to pull myself together from the previous contraction when I new one would hit. I tried not to scream, I tried to moan, but I mostly didn't succeed until the peak of each contraction passed. I wanted nothing more than for it all to stop. If there had been any way out of it other than through it, I would have taken it. If someone had told me that I could stop this whole thing, but that I would never, ever have another chance to birth or adopt a child, I would have accepted the deal in a hot second. Everyone kept telling me I was doing a good job, that I was brave, that I was doing it, but I was like... I am doing this only because there is nothing else to do! I can't make this stop, there is no escape hatch. Time felt both enormously stretched out, and in a way, curiously short. I would say I was in the bathroom for the most agonizing 20 minutes of my life, but I'm betting it was actually more than an hour. At some point, one of the midwives said I was sounding kind of pushy - and part way through the time in the bathroom, the pressure definitely had gotten really intense. I probably was pushing a little bit at that point. So she checked me, and said I just had a lip of cervix left, and she was going to try to push it aside so we could get down to business. I really don't remember a whole lot of what happened after that. At some point, I got back in the tub. Once I was officially pushing, things hurt slightly less. Not a lot less, but there was a different quality to it all, somehow. I was still doing a fair amount of screaming, though I was getting in more low moans. When the midwife (and I'm just keeping it simple here - there were actually 3 midwives plus a student midwife around at various points, and during pushing, all 4 were there) told me she thought I had about another hour before the baby would be out (and she sounded cheerful about this, like it was "not long"), I about lost it. I became very, very determined to get that baby out at all costs, because I couldn't take it any more. I actually felt more motivated when I started to feel the "ring of fire" sensation, because it meant he had to be close. I was actually frustrated by the number of contractions I went through with that sensation without being able to push him out. (First time moms - if you want to know what pushing a baby out feels like, at least for your birth canal, imagine the worst constipation you've ever had and quadruple it. Imagine pooping a coconut, or trying to!) Apparently, I pushed him out in about 40 minutes. It seemed shorter to me, but my time-keeping consisted entirely of contractions, not minutes. He ended up having a nuchal hand (left hand just under his face by his neck), and I ended up tearing in two places - one first degree tear near the top, and a second degree tear near the middle/bottom. I think I probably wouldn't have torn so badly if I hadn't been so fiercely determined to get it over with, but who knows?

 

Okay, that was NOT short... but believe it or not, I could still add a lot more detail! Anyway, Baby Bird is fussing, so I need to go again!


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wow, Monkey, and ouch. That sounds intense. the pain that you describe is exactly what I felt when I had DS. Congrats!!!
 


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