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#1 of 3 Old 07-02-2012, 11:15 AM - Thread Starter
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We are pretty private people and, aside from a few close friends, don't announce pregnancies until 16 weeks or later. I just don't want the attention, and I would never want to have to explain a miscarriage to very many people.


With our last baby, we told our older kids before we told most people, around 12 weeks. Their response: "What? Um, why?"


Let's just say I'm hoping for a better reaction this time. The younger kids will be happy but the almost-14 and almost-16yos are so busy with their own lives, even planning their own futures. They aren't going to see the point of adding another sibling.


Any ideas? We're not a Hallmark kind of family, we're pretty straight-up, blunt, simple, so I'm probably not going to bake a cake with an announcement on it, or that sort of thing. :)


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mine were 9, 14 and 16 when i got pregnant. the day i took the test, i called the two older ones to come look at the test and tell me what they thought it meant. that was my way of telling them. they were thrilled, even though they also have busy lives lol the 9 year old saw the test and asked if i was pregnant, she was also thrilled. i can't imagine any of them having a attitude such as, "eh, so what?"


maybe you could get some t-shirts and put iron-ons that say something like "I'm going to be a big sister/brother again!"

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Be straight up, blunt, and simple orngtongue.gif When I told my 13yo he said something along the lines of why? and you promised no more! My 17yo was not moved to happy tears. They'll both adore the new baby, but I didn't expect them to be excited. I think they have a right to their own opinion, but in the end it ain't really their choice. "What? Um, why?" is perfectly appropriate.  

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