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GO TO THE ER.  At the very least call your doctor/midwife.  I know a fall on your tummy is dangerous and can cause bleeding and can put both you and baby in danger.  Don't sit and wonder.  Go get checked out!


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Call your doctor.  Are you bleeding?  Is baby moving?  Giggle your tummy to wake baby up.  Or rest a cold drink on your belly, that always gets DS rolling.


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You should really just call your doctor.  See what she says.  Baby could just be sleeping.  My baby is bothered by cold but yours might not mind.  Call your doctor.


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If this is real- go to the emergency room!  If this is a prank- not funny at all.


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The baby should be more important than you getting into trouble.  Call your doctor.  There is nothing anyone can do online. 


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There is nothing anyone can do online really.  You aren't bleeding.  Maybe baby moved.  There isnt a whole lot else.  Obviously I dont know your whole situation but if I were in your shoes I'd be hailing a cab and on my way to the ER.  Sorry there isnt much else that can be done via Mothering.com.  You need a nonstress test.  Hope for the best.  You see your OB tomorrow.


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You brother should be arrested for assault. Call a friend and go get checked out.
 


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Most definetly a hard blow to the belly can harm the baby.  Can cause the placenta to tear and you to bleed internally which puts your baby in danger as well as you.  My concern is whether or not you are bleeding out.  Damage to the baby itself not too sure about.  There is a lot of padding between the baby and the outside world.  Its so hard to say and I am no doctor. 


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there can be internal bleeding that you can't tell is happening, you really should call a friend to get a ride and get yourself to the doctor's office, if there is internal damage they may have to take the baby out in order to prevent further problems.. You need to suck it up and admit what happened to your doctor, even if you wait til tomorrow your Dr. needs to know what happened or he won't know what to check for .. 
 


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So, yes, a strong kick like this and the physical violence may have hurt the baby. Please share this with your practitioner tomorrow so you can put your worries to rest. I know you're afraid that you'll get in trouble yourself but maybe you can tell the story without getting yourself in troublef? And, can you avoid your brother?

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You need to see a doctor. I understand that you are unwilling to go prior to your appointment tomorrow, but if you begin to bleed or have pain or labor starts, you will need to go to the ER. Please avoid contact with your brother if at all possible.

There isn't much someone online can tell you at this point.

Perhaps some of the hotlines listed on this page might give you some help: http://www.pregnancyandchildren.com/pregnancy/pregnancy_hotlines.htm

I don't think that you will get in trouble if your brother assaulted you in anger. Please be completely honest with your doctor tomorrow when you go in, they cannot treat you accurately if you are not. This is big and important and a potentially very bad situation.

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You need to see a doctor. I understand that you are unwilling to go prior to your appointment tomorrow, but if you begin to bleed or have pain or labor starts, you will need to go to the ER. Please avoid contact with your brother if at all possible.
... I don't think that you will get in trouble if your brother assaulted you in anger. Please be completely honest with your doctor tomorrow when you go in, they cannot treat you accurately if you are not. This is big and important and a potentially very bad situation.

 

OP, it sounds like you are in a very difficult situation. I agree with the PPs and especially with the above. In addition to the options listed above, some of the following may be of help to you:

--An ER cannot refuse to treat you based on your age or your economic situation or your insurance situation.

If you need help getting to the ER:

--Call an ambulance; you can do this even if it the event was several hours ago.

--Call the police; they can assist you and arrange transportation to the hospital.

--Call the hospital and/or your doctor and see if there is a taxi voucher program through the hospital; if there is, you may be able to take a taxi to the hospital.

--Call a local women's hotline or domestic violence hotline; they may know of resources that can provide rides in emergency situations. They can also assist if you need a safe place to stay over the coming days any weeks.

--Call back the friends you called earlier and ask again if they will take you.


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One more thing to add:  A person who would knowingly kick a pregnant woman in the stomach is also a person who would shake a baby or potentially harm an infant in other ways.  I would strongly consider reaching out to an abuse hotline to discuss your options, especially if your brother is going to continue being part of your life.  Under the circumstances, I would cut off all contact for your own and your child's welfare, but I don't know if that's an option.

 

You need to deal with the fact that this is not a one-time assault, but that you have a new and very vulnerable life coming into this environment in the near future.  You need to take steps now to assess the danger.  An abuse hotline like the ones posted above can give you some options.


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I'm glad you're feeling better. However, I wouldn't sweep this under the rug. Your doctor should know about this, in my opinion. I also hOpe that you seek support from one of the crisis centers as I would worry about having your brother around your newborn baby. Keep us posted!

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If you need immediate help, you need to call someone in your area.  You are free to post here as much as you want, but the kind of help that can be offered over the internet is probably not what you need at this point.  Please, if you need medical help or police help, you need to call them.


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