Quick question: does your partner go with you to prenatals?
WOHMama to DD (July 2008) and DS (May 2013); wife to DH .
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During the first trimester he goes to all of them, because the likelyhood of loss is greater, and he doesnt want me to be alone if I found out bad news.
After that he goes for all ultrasound appointments, and to the gestational diabetes test. He also goes if he has questions for the doctor.
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Adaline (3/20/10), and Charlie (1/26/12- 4/10/12) and our identical twins Callie and Wendy (01/04/13)
My dh always go to a few, but not all. Every u/s if at all possible.
Mama to Eleanore Rae, born April 6, 2008 & Adelaide Jane, born December 16, 2010, Cautiously expecting #3 September 10, 2013
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During my first pregnancy, DH went to about half of them (not the routine ones where they're just having you pee in a cup/checking vitals). I scheduled them as late in the day as possible so he wouldn't have to take time off work.
This pregnancy: only when I need someone to babysit DS because they're doing something where he has to leave the room (he needs to save as much leave as possible).
He goes with me to all of them. He wants to, but it's also a little bit of time to spend together just us that we otherwise wouldn't have.
Mama to DD (12.2005), DS1 (01.2009), DS2 (04.28.2013) with DH 04.10.13!!
To both ultrasounds. And about half my midwife appointments (she comes to our house, so if he's home, he's around.) None of the Dr.'s appointments (I've never asked him to go, they're boring and really quick.)
During the pregnancies where I had ultrasounds he would go to those appointments if he was able to. (He was in the Navy and was gone for a large part of my first 3 pregnancies.) He didn't go to any during my 4th pregnancy or this one, but I didn't think to ask him to. I typically have all my kids with me at my appointments.
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Mama to Bridgitt (12/99) Rheannon (05/04) and Meridith (07/08)
and Griffin April 2, 2013
This is my first pregnancy, so it's new territory for both of us and right from the get go my husband just kinda assumed he should be there as much as I should (even though he's not doing any tests ha ha). He's really excited and likes the chance to be proactive in it so we schedule what we can so he can be there. So far he hasn't missed an appt yet but it's not guaranteed he will make it to all of them in the future.
My first pregnancy, I think DH may have gone to one appointment with me, and one ultrasound. He was working a lot and the appointments were generally really brief and uneventful, so it didn't seem worth it. This time around we have been going to these centering pregnancy appointments...they are basically group appointments designed for partners to accompany the moms and be more involved in the process, so DH has gone to all of them...Dh doesn't typically go if I need to go in for anything not on those nights though. He will be at the 20 week ultrasound.
Mommy to DS born 11-10-10 And DD born 6-3-13
This is baby #3 for me and DH has been to hardly any. Possibly nothing but the big ultrasounds and the version with my first.
Which really, I am fine with. I love him, but time off is a huge deal for him and really, they are not very exciting once you get used to them, for us at least.
Mama to J (Jan '09), E (May '11), and C (August, '13)
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This is our third babe, and my husband has been to every single appointment for every baby no matter how boring/routine. He doesn't get a lot of time off, so it's nice that he can get off work for my appointments without having it count against his work attendance (yay family medical leave act!!). There have been times when scheduling was tricky, but whenever I suggest that I *could* go by myself without the world erupting into fiery chaos, he adamantly disagrees. So I've always just left it up to him, LOL!
Rose, Wife to one , Mother to two boys and one mystery baby due 4/27/2013.
With my DW's last pregnancy (Ended in stillbirth) and this one as well. I have gone to every single appointment, whether it be a 10 minute appt or a 4 hour appt. She appreciates the support and it definetly makes me feel much closer to the baby. I like to see/hear/feel any and everything that comes from within...And I could have never forgiven myself, had she gone to her 35 week checkup alone, to see on the ultrasound that our daughter had passed away :( It was totally unexpected, such a shock and we both needed each other at that moment, Anyhow... As for me/us, unless there is a tragic emergency, I will make it to every appointment. And I am sure if there was a tragic emergency, the appoinment would get cancelled and rescheduled anyway. So yep, I am there. No if's and's or but's!!
April & Jenn--Mommy & Mama To Three Kiddos, DS-17 DS-14 & DD-12 Rest in Peace sweet Elliana, our DD who was stillborn 10-1-11. You will forever be our Sunshine Cautiously anticipating our rainbow baby on the 4th of July!!
DH came to almost every appointment the first time we were expecting but this time around he doesn't come to all of them. He would if I asked him to but I usually just say "I have an appt today at _____ time and if you can make it I'll see you there". If he can get away he comes and if not he doesn't. I don't mind at all, it gives me quality time with my midwives whom I love!! We have the same primary midwife as we did last time so he already knows her. He tries to make it to the appt's with the other 2 midwives we have on our team because they are new to us this time but again it's no big deal to me really if he comes or doesn't :)
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Katie - Married to Mike 06/02/01, Mom to Sydney Anne born 11/21/09 and Alice Maeryn & Oliver Thomas born 04/24/13
With this one, the MW has moved much closer, and she has a fun office for the kids so sometimes I take them with me and sometimes I leave them with DH. Many appts are on weekends. I prefer to go by myself so I may ask lots of questions.
This is the first pregnancy that I have had ultrasounds, and DH has gone to the one and he will go to the next one, as well.
He follows my lead and always come home when I need him. I am sick (nausea) a lot and do I try to save him for those days, which are unfortunately too frequent!
Married to my wonderful DH 5/2010, Mom to DS1 Kayden 7-14-2011 and DS2 Jakob 8-29-2013
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My DH does not go to appointments with me except the anomaly scan at 20 weeks. I seem to be the odd one out here, but I don't mind him not being there. If I really wanted him to be there, he would be.
- Jen, Mama to DS1 (02.04.05) and DS2 (02.11.10) & baby #3 due in early January 2013
In all three of my pregnancies, DH goes to the 20 week ultrasound (which is usually the only ultrasound I have) and a couple of regular appointments, just to get familiar with the midwives. It only bothered me in my first pregnancy (for a lot of different reasons, like it was our first and we had just moved to a new state, away from family), but not enough that I got super upset about it. It doesn't phase me at all anymore. There really isn't a whole lot for him to bear witness to at them. *shrug* Plus he's got a lot of work to do at work, and if I have him coming with me, he's got to put in extra time later to do the work he didn't get done earlier.
Wife to dh and mommy to dd1 (3/07), ds (1/10), and dd2 (any day now)!
Hubby doesn't want to go to appointments this time. He thinks they are boring. He'll show up for the 20 week ultrasound of course. I don't care too much.
Happily married Christian SAHM of 2 boys, DD1 , and DD2 July 2013
My DH goes to every single one. He's so excited about this pregnancy and I think he wishes he were the one carrying, so being super involved is the next best thing. :)
Wife to the sweetest man in the world and Mama to 2 precious boys (7 and 9), and one little miracle girl (born June '13)
Let's see. With the first one, he went to all the midwife appointments, but I don't think he went to any of the shadow care ones at the doc - like everyone else said, they're boring and it was time off I wanted him to save for the post-partum period. Oh, but he did come to the ultrasounds though, we had a few extra (kind of unwanted) ones that he came with for.
This time around, I expect even less, we have DS to pick up from school or whatever, so he will probably only go to a few of the midwife appointments and the ultrasound. Frankly, I will enjoy the me time. :)
WOHM to Leo (4/08) and enjoying the journey with DH
Announcing the arrival of Clara in August 2013!
We don't do ultrasounds without suspected problems that need checking, I didn't think they were this common with MDC moms either. DH comes to at least 1 visit to meet the mw and ask any questions, otherwise watches the other kids if possible.