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Quick question: does your partner go with you to prenatals?


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During the first trimester he goes to all of them, because the likelyhood of loss is greater, and he doesnt want me to be alone if I found out bad news. 

 

After that he goes for all ultrasound appointments, and to the gestational diabetes test. He also goes if he has questions for the doctor. 


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My dh always go to a few, but not all.  Every u/s if at all possible.
 


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I schedule my appointments on DP's day off so that we can go together. 


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During my first pregnancy, DH went to about half of them (not the routine ones where they're just having you pee in a cup/checking vitals).  I scheduled them as late in the day as possible so he wouldn't have to take time off work.

 

This pregnancy:  only when I need someone to babysit DS because they're doing something where he has to leave the room (he needs to save as much leave as possible).
 

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He goes with me to all of them. He wants to, but it's also a little bit of time to spend together just us that we otherwise wouldn't have.


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For both pregnancies DH went to all but a couple of the routine ones.

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To both ultrasounds.  And about half my midwife appointments (she comes to our house, so if he's home, he's around.)  None of the Dr.'s appointments (I've never asked him to go, they're boring and really quick.)


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My ex never went to a single appt (then again, I only had 2 while we were togther, my 8 week and 12 week ones. I left him right before my 16 week appt) so I have gone to every one of my appts alone.

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During the pregnancies where I had ultrasounds he would go to those appointments if he was able to.  (He was in the Navy and was gone for a large part of my first 3 pregnancies.)  He didn't go to any during my 4th pregnancy or this one, but I didn't think to ask him to.   I typically have all my kids with me at my appointments.


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He goes with me to all of them. He wants to, but it's also a little bit of time to spend together just us that we otherwise wouldn't have.


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This is my first pregnancy, so it's new territory for both of us and right from the get go my husband just kinda assumed he should be there as much as I should (even though he's not doing any tests ha ha). He's really excited and likes the chance to be proactive in it so we schedule what we can so he can be there. So far he hasn't missed an appt yet but it's not guaranteed he will make it to all of them in the future.
 

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My first pregnancy, I think DH may have gone to one appointment with me, and one ultrasound.  He was working a lot and the appointments were generally really brief and uneventful, so it didn't seem worth it. This time around we have been going to these centering pregnancy appointments...they are basically group appointments designed for partners to accompany the moms and be more involved in the process, so DH has gone to all of them...Dh doesn't typically go if I need to go in for anything not on those nights though.  He will be at the 20 week ultrasound. 


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This is baby #3 for me and DH has been to hardly any. Possibly nothing but the big ultrasounds and the version with my first.

Which really, I am fine with. I love him, but time off is a huge deal for him and really, they are not very exciting once you get used to them, for us at least.


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wave.gif This is our third babe, and my husband has been to every single appointment for every baby no matter how boring/routine. He doesn't get a lot of time off, so it's nice that he can get off work for my appointments without having it count against his work attendance (yay family medical leave act!!). There have been times when scheduling was tricky, but whenever I suggest that I *could* go by myself without the world erupting into fiery chaos, he adamantly disagrees. So I've always just left it up to him, LOL!


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Dh has usually gone with me to most prenatal appointments, though I'm fine with him not making it to all of them.

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With my DW's last pregnancy (Ended in stillbirth) and this one as well. I have gone to every single appointment, whether it be a 10 minute appt or a 4 hour appt. She appreciates the support and it definetly makes me feel much closer to the baby. I like to see/hear/feel any and everything that comes from within...And I could have never forgiven myself, had she gone to her 35 week checkup alone, to see on the ultrasound that our daughter had passed away :( It was totally unexpected, such a shock and we both needed each other at that moment, Anyhow...brokenheart.gif As for me/us, unless there is a tragic emergency, I will make it to every appointment. And I am sure if there was a tragic emergency, the appoinment would get cancelled and rescheduled anyway. So yep, I am there. No if's and's or but's!!


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DH came to almost every appointment the first time we were expecting but this time around he doesn't come to all of them. He would if I asked him to but I usually just say "I have an appt today at _____ time and if you can make it I'll see you there". If he can get away he comes and if not he doesn't. I don't mind at all, it gives me quality time with my midwives whom I love!! We have the same primary midwife as we did last time so he already knows her. He tries to make it to the appt's with the other 2 midwives we have on our team because they are new to us this time but again it's no big deal to me really if he comes or doesn't :)


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With my first pregnancy and this one, he goes to the "big deal" appointments, first time you hear the HB, first U/S, anatomical scan/gender reveal U/S, etc. I tell him he's welcome to any of them, but the routine ones where you pee in a cup, listen to the HB on the doppler for a few seconds, etc. are pretty boring and not worth using vacation time for IMO. I think they really aren't worth me going to, but whatever smile.gif I am having twins this time, so I figure towards the end he may come to some of the appointments because I will get more ultrasounds at then end and all that.

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I will represent for DHs that seldom go, LOL! With our first child, I think he went to no appts, and with our second, we all went and he entertained oldest DS. With our third, he stayed home with the older two.

With this one, the MW has moved much closer, and she has a fun office for the kids so sometimes I take them with me and sometimes I leave them with DH. Many appts are on weekends. I prefer to go by myself so I may ask lots of questions.

This is the first pregnancy that I have had ultrasounds, and DH has gone to the one and he will go to the next one, as well.

He follows my lead and always come home when I need him. I am sick (nausea) a lot and do I try to save him for those days, which are unfortunately too frequent!

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DH came to almost every appointment with me in my first pregnancy. I think he may have missed one or two because he couldn't get out of work, but even then he would have come anyways except he knew my mom was going with me those days. I expect it will be the same this go around smile.gif

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My husband came to every appt for my first pregnancy and he came to most of the appts the second pregnancy. I've only had 1 appt so far this time and went alone but he will be coming to the ultrasound for sure and probably many appts when he's off work.
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My DH does not go to appointments with me except the anomaly scan at 20 weeks. I seem to be the odd one out here, but I don't mind him not being there. If I really wanted him to be there, he would be.


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In all three of my pregnancies, DH goes to the 20 week ultrasound (which is usually the only ultrasound I have) and a couple of regular appointments, just to get familiar with the midwives. It only bothered me in my first pregnancy (for a lot of different reasons, like it was our first and we had just moved to a new state, away from family), but not enough that I got super upset about it. It doesn't phase me at all anymore. There really isn't a whole lot for him to bear witness to at them. *shrug* Plus he's got a lot of work to do at work, and if I have him coming with me, he's got to put in extra time later to do the work he didn't get done earlier.


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Hubby doesn't want to go to appointments this time. He thinks they are boring. He'll show up for the 20 week ultrasound of course. I don't care too much. 


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My DH goes to every single one. He's so excited about this pregnancy and I think he wishes he were the one carrying, so being super involved is the next best thing. :)


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Let's see.  With the first one, he went to all the midwife appointments, but I don't think he went to any of the shadow care ones at the doc - like everyone else said, they're boring and it was time off I wanted him to save for the post-partum period.  Oh, but he did come to the ultrasounds though, we had a few extra (kind of unwanted) ones that he came with for.

 

This time around, I expect even less, we have DS to pick up from school or whatever, so he will probably only go to a few of the midwife appointments and the ultrasound.  Frankly, I will enjoy the me time.  :)


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We don't do ultrasounds without suspected problems that need checking, I didn't think they were this common with MDC moms either. DH comes to at least 1 visit to meet the mw and ask any questions, otherwise watches the other kids if possible.

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