Hi, all, just wanted to throw a question out to some folks who might have some perspective I don't.
I am hoping that I'll be hiring a doula at some point in the near future. I live in a small town in a rural state, so have a small, but seemingly healthy pool of possible doulas. This will be my first birth and I'm fairly new to the area, so while everyone here knows everyone else (including, I'm sure, the birth professionals), I really don't.
My question is this: the wife of one of the guys I work with (small/med nonprofit, with 25 staff) is a doula. I've only met her once in the year since I moved to the area/started at my job, but am wondering, when it comes time to interview/choose doulas, should I talk with her? My major concern is that I am afraid she won't feel like the best match, and then if I interviewed her, it will be awkward that I didn't end up going with her as my doula. Maybe it makes the most sense to not consider her, to avoid potential embarrassment? I know in theory, choosing doulas is about matching personalities/styles/needs and not a value judgement, but I also know people are people with feelings. Even so, there aren't too many doulas here in my area, and it might be that this woman is absolutely the best match, so it seems a shame to rule her out just because I know her husband. After all, it's not 6 degrees of separation here, it's more like half a degree, so maybe I just need to suck it up and confront the possibility of awkwardness, in the hopes of finding the very best doula match for me?
Anyway, just wanted to see if anyone here had any helpful advice, since I'm not even pregnant yet, and I'm already stressing about silly stuff.
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