Originally Posted by skycheattraffic
thanks Jennyanydots! I loved the "I love you man" moment, it made my day <3. Ditto btw! I think us preggo mamas can't get too much love - as long as it doesn't involve little fingernails "caressing" awkward places lol.
I laughed so hard about your potty predicament - in a BTDT way. Pregnancy at times is a very special ring of hell and when you add a headstrong toddler to the mix, the only thing a sane person can do is laugh. I've nursed on the toilet more times than I care to admit and have yet to figure out a graceful way to ... um ... wipe. My DD is 30ish lb too and tall so I have a very good mental picture of arms and legs everywhere while you're trying to reach your pj bottoms lol. I hope your elder kiddos are sleeping well by now - how old are they anyway? Since you've done the adding a baby to the family thing before - please tell me: is it as impossible as it feels right now? I just left DD after a 6:30 wakeup and no way am I getting back to sleep. If nothing else, the songbirds outside guarantee I'm up for the day. May your spider monkey sleep well and let you urinate. Live long and prosper
Whoah, just catching up here!
My older girls are 17 and nearly 15, so yeah, i have btdt, but it was sooooooo long ago! I was 19 and 21 when they were born (shotgun wedding and all, lol), and I did a lot of growing up while raising kids
It was by design that they were two years apart- I wanted them far enough apart that they each got to be the baby for a while, but close enough that DD1 wouldn't have much memory of life without her sibling. I was trying to NOT recreate the conditions that I felt contributed to the intense sibling rivalry between my brother and me.
Anyway, it was a really, really rough first year, I won't lie. Having a baby and a two year old was hard. (But then, I was 21 and I had very little family support and virtually no help from XH.)
BUT as DD2 became more mobile and interactive, it got easier and easier. Having two preschoolers was, in my experience, vastly easier than What I observed of friends with only children or large age gaps. Those parents were constantly responsible for entertaining their wee ones, while mine were a self contained entertainment machine! They're best friends to this day, and although it was hard at first, I've never regretted their spacing.
In fact, I'm trying it again now! DS was not planned but this next one is planned in response, you could say- exactly what happened the first time around. I'm hoping that because I'm older, wiser, and more patient, with the awareness that it will get easier, plus a great partner who is a fantastic parent, we will get through the early months more gracefully this time around. And I am so hoping that DS and his new sibling will bond the way the girls did and have...
So yeah! You can totally handle this. Just remember, nothing lasts forever. Though that's either sad or reassuring, depending on what you're doing, I guess.