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#1 of 34 Old 04-23-2013, 10:39 PM - Thread Starter
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My niece is having her first baby and she and her mom have put together a baby registry on Amazon.com for friends and family to buy gifts for her cyber babyshower (she's currently living in the UK). Thing is, there's very little I'd choose to get for her from the list of stuff on her registry. I'm more simplistic and basic, when it comes to baby needs I guess. So I offered to create a list of things I would suggest a new parent needs for their first baby. Things that come to mind are diapers and a good sling, of course. Here's what I have so far:

 

Moby Wrap

Kissaluvs Newborn

Fuzzibunz

Boppy

 

Any suggestions on what more to add?


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I put all of those things on my registry.  Cloth wipes would also be good, and I think those Kissaluvs needs waterproof covers.  Amazon also has these super cute wet bags to put diapers in when you are traveling. 

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A word of caution: no one likes being told how to parent. At worst, you may offend her by judging her lifestyle.

That being said, if you really want to get her things you think are more useful than the choices she's made for herself, keep in mind wether they are just as useful in her lifestyle as in yours.

For example, if I was someone with no commitment to any aspect of cloth diapering, most of what you mentioned so far would immediately get returned or donated because I would find them useless.
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I agree with Cynthia. I would be extremely put off by anyone, even a family member, telling me the things I want are useless. And I also agree with the cloth diapering aspect. Does she have a way to cloth diaper? Does she intend to do it? Just make sure you are recommending things that are useful to her lifestyle. That being said- Moby wraps are at the top of my list for baby shower gifts. A really good stroller is really important to me and glass bottles. If she intends to breast feed and needs to pump, I think she will need accessories.
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While I think the input from others is correct, I too am guilty of making fun of my friend's registries and all their excessive useless stuff.

 

Currently I am registered for about $300 worth of cloth diapers and accessories at kellyscloset.com

I already purchased the infant carseat.

I made my own moby wrap for only $25 (for enough fabric for 2!)

I made cloth wipes from old clothes.

My inlaws want to buy the crib.

My friend might be giving me her bouncer and travel swing (I wouldn't get a swing otherwise)

 

When I register I will be asking for:

Convertible carseat (trying to think of things I will need when they are older)

Potty chair (will be attempting elimination communication)

High chair

Possibly a travel booster chair of some sort for grandma's

Bumbo with tray

Boppy

Bathtub

Doorway jumper

No bottles, but maybe sippy cups and baby dishes for when they start solids

Boba Carrier

Changing Pad

Crib mattress protector

Pack & Play

Crib sheets

Diaper bag

Umbrella stroller (I think those big bulky ones don't get used enough)

 

I might include some baby towels, bibs, blankets, and clothes, but I know people just buy you that stuff anyway. We won't know the gender so some people might not know what to get.

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A word of caution: no one likes being told how to parent. At worst, you may offend her by judging her lifestyle.

That being said, if you really want to get her things you think are more useful than the choices she's made for herself, keep in mind wether they are just as useful in her lifestyle as in yours.

For example, if I was someone with no commitment to any aspect of cloth diapering, most of what you mentioned so far would immediately get returned or donated because I would find them useless.

 

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I agree with Cynthia. I would be extremely put off by anyone, even a family member, telling me the things I want are useless. And I also agree with the cloth diapering aspect. Does she have a way to cloth diaper? Does she intend to do it? Just make sure you are recommending things that are useful to her lifestyle. That being said- Moby wraps are at the top of my list for baby shower gifts. A really good stroller is really important to me and glass bottles. If she intends to breast feed and needs to pump, I think she will need accessories.

 

Thanks ladies. smile.gif I'm very aware that what I would like to give might not be what she likes or wants. My offer to create a list of things I think would be important for her to have as a new mom was well received so no worries there. orngbiggrin.gif

 

CLplus1 - nice list! 


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Reusable cloth breast pads.
I used disposables for the first few days and I kept forgetting to take them out before I did the washing and getting paper all over my clothes. You can also get cute patterns if you buy from WAHMs.
Maybe a good water bottle, mother milk tea or a basket of cookies if she's breastfeeding. Cocoa butter or similar for stretch marks.
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ditto the the reusable breast pads.  Any mom (almost) can use newborn disposables so that is one thing I always suggest.  I would NOT get her cloth diapers unless she wants to try them.  A cute any size blanket is always useful.  Gift cards to fast food restaurants, bookstores, and grocery stores are not a bad idea either.

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-swaddle blankets in seasonally-appropriate fabrics

-those Aiden and Anaais (or whatever) muslin blankets because they have SO MANY uses

-Nose Frida or something similar

-Ergo or another back-friendly carrier

-My Brest Friend pillow if nursing is intended (way better than Boppy for nursing, in my opinion)

-lanolin cream if nursing is intended

 

The best gift I ever got was from a friend who already had a child.  She basically went to the pharmacy aisles in Target and bought me everything I'd need but wouldn't have known: witch hazel, Tucks pads, Dr. Bronners soap, big pads, some baby laundry detergent, etc.  Then she wrote on an index card what it was all for.  SO HELPFUL!

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The best gift I ever got was from a friend who already had a child.  She basically went to the pharmacy aisles in Target and bought me everything I'd need but wouldn't have known: witch hazel, Tucks pads, Dr. Bronners soap, big pads, some baby laundry detergent, etc.  Then she wrote on an index card what it was all for.  SO HELPFUL!

 Instructions!  That's fantastic!  I bought some pocket diapers recently because it was on one of those bargain websites.  They came without any instructions.  I realized I didn't know how to put them on properly or wash them.  Your friend is very smart.




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More moms are appreciating the healthy, non-toxic bath and body baby products.  I LOVE Sweet Butterfly Mommy & Baby Products!!!!  If you're thinking of getting products, I recommend these - they're healthy, smell amazing, gentle on the little one's skin.

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One of the most useful gifts I recieved was a basket of baby meds and postpartum care supplies--things you have no idea you're going to need until you do.

 

If they're registered for clothes, I'd get them some of the larger sizes of the same thing (e.g. instead of getting inundated with a bunch of 0-3 clothes, get the item in the next couple of sizes up).  Babies grow out of stuff at the speed of light, and you don't realize how fast you're going to need bigger clothes.

 

I also liked the books people gave us--things their children had enjoyed...I had no idea what to read to babies/toddlers.

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Gift cards!!! I'm sorry but I'd get her what she wants or a gift card. I got "useless" stuff at my first shower that i had a hard time returning.


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My first thoughts were:

 

a moby wrap (like you said!)

 

a handmade quilt (no matter how imperfectly constructed or simply designed it may be, every baby deserves one)

 

a year subscription to Mothering (seriously, a kind nurse gave me ONE copy of mothering in my going home bag at the hospital w DS1, and it has supported all I wanted to do with my DC, and more that I never even knew I would want to do)

 

after reading others' & more thought, I'd add natural, gentle baby products, llike dr b's soap, hyland homeopathics for baby issues & mommy ones, too!, wool nursing pads if she's nursing, wetbags- a few if she's using disposables, a lot if CD, & BOOKS-- if my DC were grown, I'd consider passing on some of the family favorites-- an old tattered aka well-loved by generations copy of Robert Louis Stevenson's "A Child's Garden of Verses" is the most treasured gift I've ever received at a baby shower.

 

I don't think I'd have thought to request any of this w DS1!

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I agree with PP who have said postpartum care products. I plan on giving those to the next mama I know, because I was so thankful to find tips here on Mothering and had no idea.  I really like Earth Mama Angel Baby products. I used the postpartum care products and also purchased the Little Something for Baby pack from Amazon.
 

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I'm in the midst of sorting out my own registry for our 1st, so I'm ignorant on that front. But I lived in UK for years. There is less crossover in kids books than you'd think. So, American kids authors are less likely to be available, let alone in print. Also, maybe things that do metric/American conversions easily, where those kinds of measurements might be useful, like thermometer?
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I second post-partum products as a gift. However, am I the only one who thinks that publicly registering for Tucks pads, XL maxis, etc. is super embarrassing? Maybe because we are having a co-Ed shower and I think of all the clueless bachelor friends of my husbands' who will be looking at this list!! I don't want them to picture my sore vagina and possible hemorrhoids... >.<


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I agree with the gift cards! smile.gif
I had so many friends tell me "oh those are stupid, all you need is this"... Some were right, some were wrong. My favourite baby gifts were either my Ergo or bassinette but I can't guarantee anyone else will like them as much as I did.
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Here is a great simple list of things to get for the new baby and also a 'what not to get' part.

Working as a in home baby nurse you learn what products work.

http://www.ingeling.com/what-to-get-for-the-new-baby-equipment-list.html
 

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Generally people register for baby towels, beds, nipples, clothes, bottles, toys, pillow etc.  I personally advise you    to go for online gift registry they provide lots of benefits, you can easily access, modify and update it. It also provide you time and cost benefits.

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I don't think anyone can go wrong with a Boppy, because its useful in so many ways. Helps with nursing, propping baby up, etc and it has add-ons for later. I used mine for so many things and it was handy for what seemed like forever.

Gift cards

Swaddling blankets - one of the best gifts I received that I didn't register for

Also, because once baby is here mom sometimes feels a little left out, gift baskets with things to pamper her. Manicure set, lotions, things to make mom feel pretty. Add handmade coupons for later, moms day out, free sitter so she can nap, a time when you can come clean up, some home cooked meals, etc. You know mom, think of things she'll love and make sure that she knows you love baby and her.

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Slightly off-topic but I think having a baby registry solely online is not a great idea if you are having a shower in person. (That may not apply to Cynthia's niece, but may apply to others.) My experience was basically nobody bought stuff from the registry because they couldn't get it in a local store and bring it with them to the shower. 

 

I favor the My Breast Friend over the Boppy. It's hard to recommend a carrier as they are so individual--maybe a Mei Tai style, can be used by most people. Clothes in bigger sizes since everyone will get tiny ones. Infant prefolds are a nice size for burping and rags even if you don't plan on cloth diapering. Waterproof cloth sheets to lay under them when changing or for the crib. Cloth breast pads are awesome. Maybe something like a nursing tank if mom has an idea of her size, although that could be hit or miss too.  

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Slightly off-topic but I think having a baby registry solely online is not a great idea if you are having a shower in person. (That may not apply to Cynthia's niece, but may apply to others.) My experience was basically nobody bought stuff from the registry because they couldn't get it in a local store and bring it with them to the shower. 

This is why I love Amazon for registries. For anything you put on there, your gift-givers will always see a "buying this elsewhere?" button, so they can shop wherever they want and still get the stuff you asked for. Clicking that button takes it off your list without actually buying it online.

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^^^Well, apparently either they added that since I did my registry, or my friends are not that savvy. ;) 

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For anyone else considering online registries, it really depends on your circumstance wether it makes any sense at all.

For one, many smaller items are more expensive than at a local store because they cost a lot to ship, and that cost is either built into the item cost or added later, where you as a register-er may not see it. So getting that stuff online makes little sense.

Secondly, you end up with insane amounts of packaging waste (plus piles of the hideous stuff they consider "gift wrapping"). It's amazingly wasteful.

We used it for out of town family, and they loved it since they would have had to ship stuff anyway, but we only put a handful of things on there.

Then, when I was getting some things, I noticed other quirks. Like we had 3 of the same bedsheet sets on there, and when I ordered them all, they each came individually packaged from different warehouses!

It's an extremely inefficient business, unless you pay very close attention to where things are coming from.


Really only worth it for a few, larger items or things that are hard to find in your local stores.

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A copy of (the new version of) The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding and some treats for mom! Mostly, the gifts I got (I did not register) got me pennies on the dollar at a re-sale store. Babies don't need much, but I sure needed a lot of taking care of and support...and FOOD. If I had bucks, I would give Fruit-of-the-Month Club...I would have loved it!

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McGucks, how about a meal registry? I've seen pages where people sign up to bring a meal to a family. 

 

cynthiamoon, I think the advantage is either for out-of-towners or if your local stores don't carry what you want. BRU did not have most products I wanted. I registered for a lot of cloth diaper stuff from different retailers, because you can add anything to your Amazon registry. But then again, people didn't buy most of it, so *shrug*. 

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I don't know if this has been mentioned, but post partum care supplies. I found a neat website that allows you to create a registry using any store/ website/product you choose. I am planning to do this for my shower in August.
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This thread is kind of old so the baby shower has probably passed, but for anyone looking for gift ideas, i suggest items that are useful during pregnancy as long as the mom-to-be has at least a few months left to go. So often baby shower gifts are centered around baby clothes and items or postpartum gifts for mom, but i think it would be nice and creative to give goodies that are good to have during the remaining weeks of their pregnancy. This will no doubt help a mama feel appreciated for what she's going through, things like:
-pregnancy tea or red rasberry leaf or nettles tea
-cocoa butter or other cream or oil to prevent stretch marks
-gift certificate for prenatal massage
-prenatal yoga DVDs
-books on pregnancy or birth

Thats all i can think of atm, i'm sure there are other ideas too smile.gif
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